Friday, August 31, 2012

Will's frat buddies dared him to go streaking at midnight through the ruins of the old mansion on the hill. It was supposed to be haunted, but Will wasn't afraid.


Bullied Gay Student Sues Indianapolis Schools | Advocate.com

Bullied Gay Student Sues Indianapolis Schools | Advocate.com

LGBT Activists To Protest Chick-fil-A-Sponsored Football Kickoff

LGBT Activists To Protest Chick-fil-A-Sponsored Football Kickoff: This weekend marks the start of the college football season, which is traditionally sponsored in Georgia by anti-gay fast-food chain Chick-fil-A. This year, LGBT activists won’t let that sponsorship go unnoticed as they protest outside the Georgia Dome, informing game attendees about the company’s donations to hate groups and condemnations of same-sex families. They’ll also...

Priest Blames Child Victims Of Sex Abuse For Seducing Their Abusers

Priest Blames Child Victims Of Sex Abuse For Seducing Their Abusers: A New York Priest publicly suggested on Monday that child victims of sexual abuse seduced their abusers, using the remarks as a launching pad to defend convicted child predator and Penn State football Coach Jerry Sandusky. Father Benedict Groeschel, the director of the Office for Spiritual Development for the Catholic Archdiocese of New York, wrote...

Suspected Gay Honor Killing In Turkey

Suspected Gay Honor Killing In Turkey

Travelin Thru From Hollywood to Dollywood | Advocate.com

Travelin Thru From Hollywood to Dollywood | Advocate.com

Gay twins Gary and Larry Lane follow their dreams from Hollywood to Dollywood with their documentary about the journey to meet their idol Dolly Parton.

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Egypt: Leader of “gay sex network” arrested by police

Egypt: Leader of “gay sex network” arrested by police

Karl Rove: I Should Kill Todd Akin

Karl Rove: I Should Kill Todd Akin

Clint Eastwood Talking To A Chair (Song A Day #1340)


Scott Brown Loses Endorsement From ‘The Fighter’ Mickey Ward Over Anti-LGBT and Anti-Labor Views

Scott Brown Loses Endorsement From ‘The Fighter’ Mickey Ward Over Anti-LGBT and Anti-Labor Views: A day after taunting his opponent with the endorsement he was scheduled to receive from a Massachusetts boxing legend, Sen. Scott Brown (R-MA) had to KO the event. Micky Ward, the subject of the 2010 biopic The Fighter, was all set to endorse Brown until he learned that that the freshman Republican opposes LGBT rights...

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Former Sen. George Allen (R-VA)

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Former Sen. George Allen (R-VA): Sixth in a series examining how anti-LGBT Senate candidates have worked to hurt the cause of equality. After losing his 2006 re-election after his infamous bullying of an Indian-American campaign tracker who he called “macaca,” former Sen. George Allen (R-VA) is seeking to return to the Senate. In June, he won the Republican nomination to...

Prison Bureau Adds LGBT Representatives To All Its Facilities

Prison Bureau Adds LGBT Representatives To All Its Facilities: The Federal Bureau of Prisons has added LGBT representatives to all 125 of its prisons and administrative offices nationwide. The representatives won’t do LGBT work full-time, but will be on hand to serve on workforce-diversity committees and coordinate with staffers to create an equitable work environment, just as representatives for different racial groups do. In...

David Koch breaks from GOP on gay marriage, taxes, defense cuts - Kenneth P. Vogel - POLITICO.com

David Koch breaks from GOP on gay marriage, taxes, defense cuts - Kenneth P. Vogel - POLITICO.com

RNC Delegate Offended By Presence of ‘Mexican’ At Disney’s Epcot Center

RNC Delegate Offended By Presence of ‘Mexican’ At Disney’s Epcot Center: During a trip to Epcot at Disneyworld, Pennsylvania delegate Mark Harris and his wife were shocked and offended to find a Mexican employee working at the amusement park’s American pavilion, which showcases the different cultures in the United States. According to the couple’s blog, Harris complained to staff that he was “highly offended” that a...

Legislature votes to ban sexual-orientation conversion therapy for minors

Legislature votes to ban sexual-orientation conversion therapy for minors

Marriage Anniversary for Vermont: Three Years of Equality


Clint Eastwood Speech: Movie Star Talks To An Empty Chair (VIDEO)

Clint Eastwood Speech: Movie Star Talks To An Empty Chair (VIDEO)

The Piano Movers...and my thoughts.




This is basically one long fag joke. I can remember seeing this back in the ‘70s. The flamboyant antiques collector had expensive but ostentatious taste, and everything from the way he dressed to his mannerisms suggested he was different. This is how gay men were often depicted back then. Of course I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being flamboyant or different, and I realize that there is some truth to this stereotype--many gay men are noticeably different--but we’re not all alike, and the collector was being held up to ridicule. He wasn’t to be taken seriously, and because he was “fruity” that meant it was okay to jam a piano in his front door and leave him stranded.

I really didn’t mind the collector, but I wondered how exactly I could make my way in the world if being gay meant you had to be an antiques collector, or a hairstylist, or a nurse. The options seemed limited, and I wasn’t sure if I was cut out for any of them. And I didn’t like the idea of living my life as the butt of jokes. I didn’t like the idea of people thinking it was okay to be cruel to me.

Seeing this show when I was eleven or twelve left me with a funny feeling. On the one hand, it was one of the few times I caught a glimpse of someone who might be like me. It was always a great relief to see any character who might be gay. I felt a little less alone when I saw a character who might be gay. But even in his luxury apartment, the collector was subject to overt and hostile bigotry. It gave me the impression that the world was unforgiving and unwelcoming of people like me, and I wasn’t sure I was up to facing it.

Queer as Folk // Justin - I'll still be your Queer Son


The Hardy Boys | The House On The Cliff


Thursday, August 30, 2012

My Bodyguard - The Trailer





Chris Makepeace plays Clifford in My Bodyguard (1980). He’s the new kid in school, and he’s nerdy and small for his age, so he is soon targeted by Moody, a bully played by Matt Dillon, and his gang. He’s repeatedly threatened, almost forced to drink toilet water and locked in a locker before Linderman, played by Adam Baldwin, steps in to protect him. Linderman is a giant compared to Clifford, over six feet tall with broad shoulders. But it turns out that Linderman isn’t as strong as he appears. Tragedy struck Linderman’s family the year before which caused Linderman to become depressed and withdrawn. He needs a friend, and Clifford, being the smart, well-adjusted and good-natured boy that he is, gladly volunteers for the position. They are an unlikely pair, but they form a deep and natural bond.

I first saw this movie when I was in high school, and it gave me a sense of hope and a desire to have friends like Clifford and Linderman. I was sometimes bullied, and I was often afraid, so a big, muscular friend like Linderman would have been nice to have. And Clifford was so sweet and kind. I needed more of that in my life, too.

Ruth Gordon plays Clifford’s grandmother, and she steals every scene she’s in of course. She’s very funny.

I love this movie.

Some die looking for a hand to hold.


Another Romney Abortion Flip-Flop: No Exceptions for Health of the Mother

Another Romney Abortion Flip-Flop: No Exceptions for Health of the Mother

DEBATE: Anti-Gay Marriage Activist Calls Gay "Activist" Dangerous






Brown plays the victim, as he does so well, so I'm not sure how helpful this was for those who are unfamiliar with the way Brown operates, how he goes on the attack, and when criticized, claims his comments and actions are being mischaracterized. To those who don't know about Brown's tactics, this may sound like he said/he said.

Can the GOP attract gay voters?


GLAAD’s Network Responsibility Index and the State of LGBT Television

GLAAD’s Network Responsibility Index and the State of LGBT Television: GLAAD’s Network Responsibility Index is one of the most fascinating and comprehensive looks at the on-screen diversity of American television, examining not just gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender characters, but racial and gender diversity as well. And the version of its report released today says a lot not just about which networks are doing well...

POLL: Marriage Equality Support Improves In Nevada

POLL: Marriage Equality Support Improves In Nevada: A new Public Policy Polling poll shows that support for marriage equality has improved in Nevada to 47 percent, with 42 percent opposed, up from 45-44 a year ago. More dramatically, 80 percent of voters support at least civil unions for same-sex couples — up from 77 percent — with only 17 percent opposed to any form...

US Lesbian Couple's Son Pens Book On What Makes A Family


Washington Post tweets: Clint Eastwood will be speaking at GOP2012





Romney Campaign Chair: Same-Sex Marriage Too ‘Complicated’ To Discuss

Romney Campaign Chair: Same-Sex Marriage Too ‘Complicated’ To Discuss: Smarmy Romney campaign chair John Sununu sat down for a radio interview with Michelangelo Signorile yesterday, but was apparently unprepared to discuss the Republican Party’s platform. When he was informed that it called for a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage — which Mitt Romney supports — Sununu was at a loss for words, explaining the issue is...

John Derbyshire: Blacks are 'Radically Ill-Fitted for Life in Bourgeois Society'

John Derbyshire: Blacks are 'Radically Ill-Fitted for Life in Bourgeois Society'

Anti-Gay Republican Platform Was Retaliation For Log Cabin Republicans’ Presence

Anti-Gay Republican Platform Was Retaliation For Log Cabin Republicans’ Presence: Gay Republicans have had their own dim spotlight at the Republican National Convention as they peddle apologetics for their party while trying to advance LGBT equality from within. Log Cabin Republicans were proud to have been part of the platform drafting committee, but the GOP ended up approving one of the most anti-gay platforms ever...

Michigan Man Pleads Guilty To Anti-Gay Hate Crime

Michigan Man Pleads Guilty To Anti-Gay Hate Crime: A Michigan man has pleaded guilty to federal charges of a hate crime for assaulting a man because he believed he was gay. This marks the second time federal authorities have applied hate crime charges based on the victim’s sexual orientation; the first case is still pending in Kentucky. Everett Dwayne Avery will be sentenced...

REPORT: Majority Of LGBT Public Sector Workers Lack Employment Protections

REPORT: Majority Of LGBT Public Sector Workers Lack Employment Protections: Our guest blogger is Hilary Brandenburg, intern at the Center for American Progress. This weekend, Americans will take a day off from work to celebrate Labor Day, a day dedicated to the progress Americans have achieved in the workplace over the years. The U.S. Department of Labor website notes that Labor Day is a “yearly...

Room & Board Comes Out Against Minnesota Inequality Amendment

Room & Board Comes Out Against Minnesota Inequality Amendment: Furniture retailer Room & Board is the latest Minnesota-based company to come out against the state’s proposed constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage, joining Capella University, Thomson-Reuters, General Mills, and St. Jude Medical. The furniture store released the following statement: Room & Board is dedicated to helping customers create homes they love. We recognize that the...

Ann Romney Wants Hispanic Voters To Get Past ‘Their Biases’

Ann Romney Wants Hispanic Voters To Get Past ‘Their Biases’: Fresh off her convention speech Tuesday night, Ann Romney spent Wednesday wooing two of the GOP’s toughest audiences: women and Hispanic voters. At a lunch event Wednesday, Romney explained why Hispanic voters should vote for her husband. Pitching herself as “the daughter of immigrants,” Romney (who is the granddaughter of a Welsh coal miner) urged...

U. of Texas Finds No Scientific Misconduct by Author of Gay-Parenting Study

U. of Texas Finds No Scientific Misconduct by Author of Gay-Parenting Study

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But, according to a report released on Wednesday by the university, that does not mean the study isn’t “seriously flawed,” only that there was no evidence of falsification or other unethical practices.

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Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Lots of gay people on Tumblr


“I keep advertising on Craigslist for a young, cute cuddle bunny to join me here on my sofa, but so far, no young, cute cuddle bunny has shown any interest.”


Former GOP Congressman Predicts 2012 Republican Platform Will Be Last To Include Anti-Gay Plank

Former GOP Congressman Predicts 2012 Republican Platform Will Be Last To Include Anti-Gay Plank: TAMPA, Florida — A longtime GOP congressman predicted that this year’s Republican Party platform will be the last to embrace marriage discrimination. Former Rep. Jim Kolbe (R-AZ), who served in Congress from 1985 to 2007 and came out of the closet in 1996, told ThinkProgress in an interview Wednesday that he thinks his party will...

Jon Voight: Obama "is of the Marxist, Socialist Root"


Dad Wears Dress in Solidarity With Dress-Loving Son | Advocate.com

Dad Wears Dress in Solidarity With Dress-Loving Son | Advocate.com

From Maggie Gallagher's son.














via JMG

The New Yorker cover depict Romney and Ryan as very close buddies.


David Shuster tweets: GOP attendee ejected for throwing nuts at African American CNN camera woman + saying "This is how we feed animals."

















via JMG

Even Orrin Hatch Opposes Mitt Romney’s Push For Anti-Gay Constitutional Amendment

Even Orrin Hatch Opposes Mitt Romney’s Push For Anti-Gay Constitutional Amendment: In an interview with SiriusXM’s Michelangelo Signorile, Sen. Orrin Hatch (R-UT) said that while he opposes same-sex marriage, he believes the question should be left up to the states. When told that this put him at odd’s with Mitt Romney’s position, Hatch expressed disbelief. Romney, who as Governor actively sought to take away the right...

Another Conservative Defends Russia in 'Pussy Riot' Case

Another Conservative Defends Russia in 'Pussy Riot' Case

Top U.S. Marine: Openly gay servicemembers not an issue

Top U.S. Marine: Openly gay servicemembers not an issue

Young Conservatives and Log Cabin Republicans call for Freedom to Marry in full-page ad in Tampa

Young Conservatives and Log Cabin Republicans call for Freedom to Marry in full-page ad in Tampa

You Can Play - D.C. United


California Assembly Advances Bill Limiting Ex-Gay Therapy To Minors

California Assembly Advances Bill Limiting Ex-Gay Therapy To Minors: The California Assembly voted 52-21 to approve SB1172, a bill restricting therapists from offering ex-gay therapy to minors. As Jim Burroway notes, the bill’s language has been watered down to eliminate fines, as well as informed consent requirements for adults seeking therapy. During the debate, some Assembly members spoke out against the bill, such as...

What if it was your grandmother?

What if it was your grandmother they were talking about? What if they were saying she couldn’t be trusted around children? What if they said she was sick? What if they said she was out to destroy the family and the country? What if they said civil rights for your grandmother would cause their god to punish us? What if they supported laws that diminished your grandmother’s freedom? What if powerful politicians agreed with them? What if they smugly wrapped themselves up in the Bible and claimed they were the righteous ones as they denounced your grandmother? What if those in the media labeled them as the Christian values people and they labeled you as the one opposed to Christian values even though you just want to defend your grandmother? What if everyone in your neighborhood signed a petition to tell you that even though they may not agree with them, they have every right to hate your grandmother and to work to see to it that she is treated like a second class citizen? What if your neighbors went on to say in their petition that you are being very intolerant of those who hate your grandmother? What if you snapped one day and called one of them an ass, and you got letters in the mail from strangers from across the country telling you that you are uncivil? What if your grandmother is beaten on the way home from the grocery store by thugs who tell her that she’s a sick old grandmother who is up to no good, and you become so enraged and frustrated you punch one of those who hate your grandmother, and you’re the one who is accused of being violent and unstable?

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Oh, my!


Rorschach Fail

I took a Rorschach test once while in the hospital. I asked the tester a lot of questions about the test and how it's scored. He was very coy, and he kept trying to get me to focus on the inkblots, which I found to be rather silly. I remember this inkblot in particular, and I said that I saw two tribesmen beating on a drumb. According to what I found on the internet, the test is controversial. There isn't a standarized way of measuring the responses. But I also found out that the test is more complicated than I realized. What you identify in the inkblots is only part of what they look at. They're interested in just about everything you say and do during the process, and these days the test is often given to people who are reluctant to share their thought processes. In other words, they use it to try to get inside the heads of people who don't completely trust their doctors. And when I took the test I questioned the tester about what he was doing and what he expected to find. LOL If they had asked, I would have just told them that I don't trust very easily and I'm by nature a skeptic. :P

I didn’t see the psychiatrist and psychologist that I went to every week while in the hospital. The doctors in the hospital were strangers. And they didn’t exactly earn my trust. I was deeply depressed and had suicidal tendencies, but the underlying problem was post traumatic stress and social phobia. Those things were caused in part by the fact that my mother, my primary caregiver as a kid, suffered from schizophrenia which went untreated until after I became an adult. They knew this, and they addressed it. They were all interested in that. They put me in a special ward for adult survivors of childhood abuse. But the other thing that had caused me to mistrust people and to become socially isolated was extreme homophobia. They knew about this, too, because it was in my file, but they didn’t want to talk about that. Not that. I was a depressed, suicidal young man, and none of them asked me if I had a boyfriend, or if I wanted one, or if I had been bullied or abused because I am gay. They all carefully avoided that topic…except for one intern. One day he claimed that the reason I was gay was because I was a failed heterosexual. It was his opinion that I turned to boys because I was a flop with the girls.

Why should I have trusted these people? They were the experts, and just like most other people I had encountered in my life, they lived in their own fantasy world, and they couldn’t handle the truth. I felt like I had to treat them like I treated everyone else until they proved they were trustworthy, like they were stupid and crazy and possibly dangerous.



Study Shows the Term Thats So Gay Causes Longterm Distress | Advocate.com

Study Shows the Term Thats So Gay Causes Longterm Distress | Advocate.com

Ron Paul Supporters Revolt At RNC


Minnesota Pediatricians Come Out Against Marriage Inequality Amendment

Minnesota Pediatricians Come Out Against Marriage Inequality Amendment: The Minnesota chapter of the American Academy of Pediatrics announced today that it opposes the proposed constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage. The group points out that there is no research to show a link between a child’s well-being and his or her parents’ sexual orientation. According to chapter president Dr. Robert M. Jacobson, “This...

Manchester Pride


 











GOP Platform Calls For Prosecutors To ‘Vigorously’ Prosecute Porn

GOP Platform Calls For Prosecutors To ‘Vigorously’ Prosecute Porn: Republicans are said to be the party of deregulation, but their platform this year aims to seriously regulate the pornography industry through strict enforcement of laws against porn or other materials deemed “obscene.” In a copy of the GOP platform expected to be approved this week, one line reads, “Current laws on all forms of...

The Newsroom - Tea Party is the American Taliban


6 Right-Wing Zealots and the Crazy Ideas Behind the Most Outrageous Republican Platform Ever

6 Right-Wing Zealots and the Crazy Ideas Behind the Most Outrageous Republican Platform Ever

Straight couple gives their first dance at their wedding to their gay friends.





























John Green: "My friends Meg Liffick and Joe Ball got married yesterday.

When it came time for the couple’s traditional first dance, Joe read prepared remarks explaining that instead of dancing together, they wanted to open the dance floor to their gay and lesbian friends who are still legally denied the right to marry.

This was a large and very diverse wedding in a state that doesn’t even recognize same-sex civil unions, let alone marriage. And yet the ovation that these people received while dancing to The Beach Boys’ “Wouldn’t It Be Nice” was like nothing I’ve ever heard at any wedding. If there were dry eyes, I didn’t see any.

Change is coming." 

No To Homophobia - TV Ads


California Assembly Advances ‘Third Parent’ Bill

California Assembly Advances ‘Third Parent’ Bill: Yesterday, the California Assembly voted 51-26 to advance SB 1476, which allows judges to recognize that some children have more than two parents. This would protect, for example, same-sex couples who wish to keep their donor or surrogate connected to their child’s life. The bill will return to the Senate for a concurring vote on...

FDA Approves New Pill For HIV Treatment

FDA Approves New Pill For HIV Treatment: The Food and Drug Administration has approved a new once-a-day pill that combines four medications in one to treat adults with HIV. But the price manufacturer Gilead Sciences plans to charge for the drug is too high –around $28,500 per year — according Michael Weinstein, president of the AIDS Healthcare Foundation. “That’s shockingly irresponsible,” he...

Monday, August 27, 2012

The Paper Chase (1973)




Films like The Paper Chase and Educating Rita helped shape my expectation of college life. Learning was presented as its own reward, something that would in and of itself enrich your life. Career and class distinctions weren’t ignored in these films, but learning wasn’t just a means to an end for the main characters. They didn’t want to simply make money or get ahead. Figuring things out and seeing the world in new ways were joyful for them, worth the tremendous amount of effort.

Timothy Bottoms sure did have crazy curly hair in this movie, but he was awfully cute. He went swimming in a couple of scenes, so we saw him in his Speedo, and he was stripped down to his boxers in a few more scenes. He was 22 when this film was released back in 1973, and he had a lean body without much muscle. Nice.

Republican Party Won't Budge on Marriage Equality: Aug 27 Marriage News Watch


Rush Limbaugh Suggests Obama Manipulated Hurricane Predictions To Get GOP To Cancel Convention

Rush Limbaugh Suggests Obama Manipulated Hurricane Predictions To Get GOP To Cancel Convention: Even President Obama’s biggest fans don’t think he can make it rain — but Rush Limbaugh does. On his radio show this afternoon, Limbaugh suggested that President Obama might have personally tampered with the Hurricane Center’s prediction models for the path of Hurricane Isaac, with the hopes that it would force the GOP to delay...

Minnesota Supreme Court Rules Against New Marriage Ballot Language

Minnesota Supreme Court Rules Against New Marriage Ballot Language: The Minnesota Supreme Court ruled today that Secretary of State Mark Ritchie “exceeded his authority” when he provided different language for the marriage inequality amendment than what was passed by the legislature. As a result, the amendment’s original language will appear on the ballot, characterizing the constitutional ban on same-sex marriage as “Recognition of Marriage Solely...

Air Force Bans Proselytizing

Air Force Bans Proselytizing 

Trial Judge Orders Prop 8 Case Closed

Trial Judge Orders Prop 8 Case Closed

Why A Utah NBC Station Is Afraid to Air Ryan Murphy’s ‘The New Normal’

Why A Utah NBC Station Is Afraid to Air Ryan Murphy’s ‘The New Normal’: As my colleague Igor Volsky noted yesterday, one of NBC’s Utah affiliate has decided not to air Glee creator Ryan Murphy’s new sitcom, The New Normal, about a gay couple who decide to have a child by surrogate because, ““For our brand, this program simply feels inappropriate on several dimensions, especially during family viewing time.”...

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Sen. Scott Brown (R-MA)

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Sen. Scott Brown (R-MA): Fifth in a series examining how anti-LGBT Senate candidates have worked to hurt the cause of equality. After winning a special election in 2010 to fill the remainder of the late Sen. Ted Kennedy’s (D-MA) Senate term, Sen. Scott Brown (R-MA) is seeking a full term this November. Unlike his challenger, pro-LGBT Democrat Elizabeth Warren...

Rusty Humphries: 'Sometimes You Have To Treat These Liberals Like Dogs"


Public Schools Denounced at Tea Party Rally in Tampa, Blamed for Election of Barack Obama


Obama Wants to 'Destroy' America with 'Poverty, Tyranny and Mass Murder'


Rosie O'Donnell Married Michelle Rounds In Private June 9 Ceremony

Rosie O'Donnell Married Michelle Rounds In Private June 9 Ceremony

Where the Bears Are | New Episodes

Where the Bears Are | New Episodes

Baltimore Sun Says Antigay Forces Lying to Maryland Public | Advocate.com

Baltimore Sun Says Antigay Forces Lying to Maryland Public | Advocate.com

The Brotherhood of the Bears

The Brotherhood of the Bears

Matthews goes after Priebus


Biden: ‘We Owe’ The LGBT Community For Its Courage And Sacrifice

Biden: ‘We Owe’ The LGBT Community For Its Courage And Sacrifice: At a campaign fundraiser this weekend, Vice President Joe Biden thanked LGBT activists in Provincetown, Massachusetts for “freeing the soul of the American people” by advancing not just LGBT equality but also the “civil rights of every straight American.” He added: “Many of you have advanced civil rights at great expense. If I had to...

Tyler Clementi’s Family Left Their Church Because It Condemned Homosexuality

Tyler Clementi’s Family Left Their Church Because It Condemned Homosexuality: The tragic suicide of Rutgers student Tyler Clementi motivated an important conversation about bullying through the trial of his roommate, Dharun Ravi, who spied on his intimate moments with a webcam. But after nearly two years, Clementi’s mother, Jane Clementi, is opening up about some of her own guilt, because when Tyler came out to...

How to Survive Bullying!



I love Davey Wavey, but I thought this was simplistic…almost to the point of being glib. First he admits that he wasn’t bullied for being gay while a kid, so he brings in Nick. Nick is cute, but he’s not very articulate, and Davey doesn’t let him talk for more than a few seconds before he starts listing his rules. And I do think they’re Davey’s rules and not Nick’s even though Nick assists in spelling them out. Davey doesn’t seem to understand the dire straits a bullied kid can be in. It’s easy enough to say don’t internalize the negativity, but it’s another thing to actually do it. It’s hard not to take bulling to heart when you’re an adult, and when you’re a kid, and you don’t have anyone telling you that you are worthy despite what the assholes are saying, it might be close to impossible. The best advice Davey gave, in my opinion, was the bit about finding friends who support you, but even that might be complicated. It’s not like you can simply go out and pluck supportive friends off of the nearest tree. And yes, in many instances bullied kids should tell parents and teachers that they’re being bullied, but not all parents and teachers are very helpful. In fact some parents and teachers make things worse. I don’t know what kind of Disneyesque world Davey comes from, but not all parents and teachers are to be trusted, especially if you’re gay. And that crap about not fighting back… I would never tell a passive kid that fighting back is necessary. Some just don’t have a fighting spirit, and if you insist that they fight back when they know they can’t, they may take that as further evidence that they’re worthless. That’s the way it was with me. I didn’t want to fight back, and I wasn’t very strong, and not being able to defend myself only added to my sense of shame. That’s because I was taught that boys should take care of themselves without asking for help. However, if you’re being attacked, physically attacked, I think you do have a right to defend yourself. It may not solve the bullying problem, but it might save you from physical harm during an attack. Some bullies can be very aggressive, and a situation can escalate quickly. Some bullied kids get pushed down stairs, and some get raped or sexually assaulted. Some get knives and guns pulled on them. So to tell bullied kids that they should never fight back is misguided, I think. Again, it sounds like Davey is coming from a Disneyesque world, which is fine for him, but he’s the one who said he’s been wanting to make a video about this topic, so maybe he should have done a bit more research before offering advice.    

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Electric Sex


Good Advice


Friends with Benefits Movie Trailer Official (HD)



As completely artificial, Hollywoodesque heterosexual light romantic comedies go, I thought Friends With Benefits was pretty good. We get to see a lot of Justin Timberlake’s cute, boyish face. He’s adorable throughout. The sex scenes are played for laughs, but we get to see Justin’s butt a couple of times, and the sex is pretty graphic if not all that serious. This is probably the closest we’ll ever get to seeing Justin in a porno…unless an old girlfriend or boyfriend--like Lance Bass, I hope, I fantasize--accidentally on purpose posts some homemade sex videos on the internet. Woody Harrelson plays an unstereotypical gay coworker who is not altogether convinced that Justin’s character isn’t gay, too. He keeps asking, and Justin keeps saying, “I’m not gay.” The running joke finally pays off toward the end when Justin and Woody are supervising a photo shoot, and a bunch of athletic, muscular guys strip down to their jockstraps. Woody once again asks Justin if he’s gay, and this time Justin says, “I’m a little gay.” I’m sure all of that was thrown in because the producers know Justin is a big hit with the gay guys.

WATCH Anglican Bishop Backs Marriage Equality | Advocate.com

WATCH Anglican Bishop Backs Marriage Equality | Advocate.com

Plaintiffs Ask Supreme Court Not to Hear Prop. 8 | Advocate.com

Plaintiffs Ask Supreme Court Not to Hear Prop. 8 | Advocate.com

After Gay Son’s Suicide, Mother Finds Blame in Herself and in Her Church

After Gay Son’s Suicide, Mother Finds Blame in Herself and in Her Church

Friday, August 24, 2012

I Knew I Was Gay When...






 
When did I know? Well, when I was 11, it seemed like all the boys around me started talking about sex in graphic terms almost overnight. Maybe there was talk before this and I just wasn’t included in the discussions or I didn’t notice. About the same time, I started engaging in sex play with a boy who lived near me. At first it was, more or less, show and tell, but there was some touching, too. (Later it became much more involved.) We talked about sex, got naked with each other, touched each other, and he had access to his older brother’s porn stash--mostly Playboy mags, but also Hustler and Penthouse. (Later he found more graphic material.)

Puberty, the sex talk, the magazines, and the sex play got my imagination going, and I started having sexual fantasies. At first I imagined doing things with girls. But the funny thing is, I never imagined being alone with a girl. My early sexual fantasies involved one girl who was basically nameless and faceless, and a bunch of guys from school. I would do things with her as the guys watched, and then I would watch them do things with her. This went on for a while, but I soon realized that I was more interested in my male classmates than this shadowy girl figure, and I eventually started allowing myself to have sex fantasies about the guys without bothering to include a girl.

Even back in the mid ’70s at age 11, I knew what it meant to be gay, and I can remember sitting on our back porch by myself thinking things through. I put it together that day. I admitted to myself that I liked guys. Guys turned me on. Guys were hot. I wanted sex with guys. And I wasn’t interested in girls. The pictures I had seen of girls in Playboy were beautiful, but they were not sexy to me. I liked what those pictures did to my friend more than I liked the girls in the pictures. I liked it when he got randy and took out his willie. I liked it when he invited me to touch him. And that afternoon when I was alone on the back porch I accepted that this meant I was gay.

I quietly and privately adopted the gay label for myself that day. It was a little scary, but it was also thrilling. I wouldn’t tell another living soul for seven more years that I was gay. That was the hardest part, being so young, figuring out this important thing about myself, and not having anybody to talk to. And not only didn’t I have anyone to talk to, I knew I had to keep it a secret. I couldn’t trust anyone with this information.

I’m glad I had someone to fool around with in those first few years right after my sexual awakening, but it was all about sex and experimentation for my friend. We cuddled a few times, which was super nice, but never kissed or held hands. We never talked about our feelings for each other. Then before we got to high school, he turned on me, he became frightened that what we were doing was queer, and the physical intimacy ended.

So now when I think of those years, I can’t help but recall the crushing loneliness and the fear of being found out. But when I realized I was interested in boys and men, I relished it. Even though I had to keep it all to myself, I still loved it. It was who I was. It was something I was sure of. And I totally and completely embraced it right from the start.

SISTERSPEAK - A MINISTER'S APOLOGY


Lesbian Couple Reach Settlement in Lawsuit Against Vermont Inn | Advocate.com

Lesbian Couple Reach Settlement in Lawsuit Against Vermont Inn | Advocate.com

Chick fil A Means Free Speech to Paul Ryan | Advocate.com

Chick fil A Means Free Speech to Paul Ryan | Advocate.com

Family and Freedom - Republicans for Marriage Equality


Holder calls on LGBT attorneys to advance cause of equality

Holder calls on LGBT attorneys to advance cause of equality

Pennsylvania Congressional Candidate Comes Out For Marriage Equality

Pennsylvania Congressional Candidate Comes Out For Marriage Equality: In July, Matt Cartwright, the Democratic Congressional candidate in Pennsylvania’s 17th District, said he did not share President Obama’s support for marriage equality but that his views were evolving. This week, he told the Wilkes-Barre Times-Leader that his evolution is complete: CARTWRIGHT: I’m for marriage equality. There’s no reason to discriminate against gay people. They’re not a...

From the San Francisco 49ers: It Gets Better


Even More Conservative Scholars Publicly Question David Barton's Scholarship

Even More Conservative Scholars Publicly Question David Barton's Scholarship

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Wayne Besen of Truth Wins Out Responds to Attack From Anti-Gay Activists

TWO’s Wayne Besen Responds to Attack From Anti-Gay Activists

Mitt Romney met John Willke, the doctor credited with popularising Todd Akin’s controversial views on rape and abortion, during the current election campaign and told him they agreed on “almost everything,” Dr Willke said.

US election: Mitt Romney met Todd Akin doctor John Willke during 2012 campaign

We are not the extremists.






































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A Chair Fit For A Queen!


VERMONT: Inn Loses Suit, Must Pay $30K For Turning Away Lesbian Couple

VERMONT: Inn Loses Suit, Must Pay $30K For Turning Away Lesbian Couple

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Former Gov. Linda Lingle (R-HI)

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Former Gov. Linda Lingle (R-HI): Fourth in a series examining how anti-LGBT Senate candidates have worked to hurt the cause of equality. With her primary win earlier this month, former Gov. Linda Lingle (R-HI) will be the Republican nominee against Rep. Mazie Hirono (D) for the open seat of retiring Sen. Daniel Akaka (D). Unlike Hirono, a 100 percent supporter...

Actor Freddie Smith on Bullying and Bare Chests and Going Gay for Days of Our Lives | Advocate.com

Actor Freddie Smith on Bullying and Bare Chests and Going Gay for Days of Our Lives | Advocate.com

U.S. State Department Condemns Anti-LGBT Police Raids In Zimbabwe

U.S. State Department Condemns Anti-LGBT Police Raids In Zimbabwe: Earlier this week, more than 20 Zimbabwean police officers raided the office of Gays and Lesbians of Zimbabwe (GALZ), claiming they were looking for undisclosed “data.” This was the latest in a series of police crackdowns on the LGBT organization, which have included unwarranted arrests and beatings. On at least one occasion, police officers were...

The Lawsons - Why Marriage Matters Maine


After Dinner, the Fireworks By MARK OPPENHEIMER

After Dinner, the Fireworks

Behind The Scenes At The Dan Savage/Brian Brown Marriage Debate

Behind The Scenes At The Dan Savage/Brian Brown Marriage Debate: The New York Times’ Mark Oppenheimer has written about his own perspective as moderator of the Dinner Table Debate between Dan Savage and the National Organization for Marriage’s Brian Brown. It seems that both Brown and Savage, as well as Savage’s partner Terry Miller, found the debate to be unproductive: MILLER: Brian’s heartless readings of the...

An Aardvark Is An Aardvark, But Marriage Is What We Make Of It

There is a creature in the world known as an aardvark. I think most of us who are aware of this creature believe, or at least work on the assumption that it exists apart from our understanding of it. Whatever we say or think of an aardvark, an aardvark is what it is. In this way an aardvark is not like marriage. Marriage does not exist apart from our understanding of it. Marriage is a hypothetical construct. It does not exist outside of our minds. And we have power over how we view it and the definitions and parameters we place upon it.

Some claim that marriage predates legal definitions and human understanding because their god created it. That is, of course, questionable. But nevertheless those who are fighting for marriage equality are not trying to take anyone’s religious beliefs away from them. The debate about marriage equality is centered on civil marriage, marriage as it is defined and restricted by our government, not our various religious institutions.

I’ve noticed that many talk about the story of Adam and Eve in relation to the topic of marriage equality. Well, just like the idea that someone’s god created the institution of marriage is questionable, so to is the idea that Adam and Eve were real, historical people, much less the ideal married couple. Does their story even present them as a married couple? Was there some kind of religious ceremony where they pledged they would stick together through thick and thin? Did they ask a government to recognize their union? I always thought that Adam and Eve were shacked up, not married in our modern sense of the term.

I suspect that throughout human history, many if not most couples shacked up without the benefit of a government issued marriage license or an official blessing by a religious authority. If we’re going to include these couples as being part of the heritage of the institution of marriage, then I think we shouldn’t forget that in all likelihood there are countless numbers of same-sex couples who shacked up in the past. Maybe they told people they were “married”, or maybe they didn’t. Maybe some were “married” to opposite sex partners, too. Who knows. But I think it’s a safe bet that same-sex couples have been forming lasting bonds since the beginning.

I’m not all that familiar with marriage history, so I don’t know how often same-sex couples of the past were officially recognized by government or religion. But I don’t think it’s of any consequence in regard to the debate about marriage equality today. There’s nothing wrong with trying something new if it makes sense. And allowing same-sex couples to marry in our society in this day and age makes sense in my opinion.

Some talk about how marriage is meant to bring male and female together. I realize that for many this is what marriage does in general and for them in particular. But our understanding of sex, gender, and sexual orientation have evolved a great deal in the last 150 years. We now know that for many people this simple binary code of male and female just doesn’t work. And I don’t think that recognizing this and accommodating it jeopardizes heterosexual relationships. No matter what, most men will still be strongly attracted to women, and most women will be strongly attracted to men, and most men and women will want to bond with someone of the opposite sex. Being gay, or bi, or trans, or intersex are not acquired tastes. People are these things no matter if they like it or not. If we refuse to make room in our society and our society’s institutions for those who fall in the middle of the male-female divide, it’s not like they’re going to go away. We’ll just make life more difficult for them. And what purpose will that serve?

As for the idea that we can’t allow same-sex couples to get married because that will mean the institution will come to be regarded as something that primarily serves adults rather than children. Well, it’s already come to be regarded in that light, and marriage equality had nothing to do with it. In the past marriages were often arranged and romantic love or personal fulfillment had little to do with it, but that has all changed now. When people get married today, they generally don’t do it out of a sense of obligation, not even to their own children. Pregnancy, either planned or accidental, may be the impetus for some marriages, but, by and large, if the individuals involved aren't interested in getting married they don’t. I can’t see how marriage equality will change that one way or the other.

There are people in our society who are attracted to members of their own sex. If they get married many of them will want a partner of the same sex. Allowing them to do so will not prevent straight people from getting married. I seriously doubt allowing them to do so will cause straight people to view their relationships or their marriages or the institution of marriage differently. I don’t see how allowing same-sex couples to marry makes polygamy or bestiality any more likely or legitimate. And I’m pretty sure that most of those who still oppose marriage equality do so because on some level they just don’t like the idea of same-sex couples falling in love, having sex, living together, making a life together, and raising families. I suspect that all of this talk about protecting the institution of marriage is nothing more than a smoke screen for those who want to discriminate against same-sex couples while refusing to own their fears, discomfort and bigotry.



Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Log Cabin Republicans Applaud Republican Party Debate Over Gay Issues Despite 'Abysmal' Results

Log Cabin Republicans Applaud Republican Party Debate Over Gay Issues Despite 'Abysmal' Results

Atlanta Will Award $25 Thousand To Police Officer Who Was Denied Job Because Of His HIV Status

Atlanta Will Award $25 Thousand To Police Officer Who Was Denied Job Because Of His HIV Status: The city of Atlanta has agreed to pay a HIV-positive police officer $25 thousand in damages after the Atlanta Police Department denied him a job simply because of his HIV status. Greg Nevins, an attorney at Lambda Legal’s Atlanta office who helped represent the officer, said he was glad the court reached a settlement decision...

Dying Seattle Councilwoman Comes Out As Gay To Show Support For Young People

Dying Seattle Councilwoman Comes Out As Gay To Show Support For Young People: Cheryl Chow served on the Seattle City Council. She was a school principal and a school board member. And before she dies, Chow wants to do one more public service: Come out, and encourage others to feel more comfortable to do the same. Despite a ten-year relationship with her partner, Sarah — the two even...

NOM’s Brian Brown Debates Dan Savage On Marriage Equality Without Once Acknowledging Same-Sex Families

NOM’s Brian Brown Debates Dan Savage On Marriage Equality Without Once Acknowledging Same-Sex Families: The anticipated debate between “It Gets Better” Project founder Dan Savage and the National Organization for Marriage’s Brian Brown, which came about after Savage made provocative statements noting that the Bible supports the practice of slavery, is now online for all to view. Savage and his family hosted Brown for dinner in their home, and...

Dan Savage vs. Brian Brown: The Dinner Table Debate


Paul Ryan Still Believes in Forcing Rape Victims to Give Birth to Their Rapists' Children


An Advocate Editor on Why Violence Makes It Harder to Sort the Good from the Hateful | Advocate.com

An Advocate Editor on Why Violence Makes It Harder to Sort the Good from the Hateful | Advocate.com

Calling out hate when we see it

Calling out hate when we see it

California School District Teaches Students To Prevent STDs With ‘Plenty Of Rest’

California School District Teaches Students To Prevent STDs With ‘Plenty Of Rest’: Students in a Fresno County, California, school district are taught that HIV can be spread through kissing, and the right way to prevent STDs is by going out in groups with friends, getting plenty of rest, and practicing abstinence. Their “Lifetime Health” textbook, which Clovis Unified School District uses for its high school sex education...

Austin & Jennie


























Austin: Jennie, would you still love me if I had erectile dysfunction?

Jennie: Yes. But you don’t have erectile dysfunction.

Austin: What? …how do you know?

Jennie: I went looking for you in the barn that rainy Saturday afternoon we had a couple of weeks ago, and I saw you and Nick.

Austin: You saw that?!

Jennie: Yes. I didn’t hide and watch until the show was over or anything, but I saw enough to know what was happening. I’m not a doctor, but I’m pretty sure you’re alright down there.

Austin: You saw that?

Jennie: Yes, Austin, I saw that. I saw it. There’s nothing wrong with your dick, but if you keep asking the same stupid question over and over again, I’m going to wonder if there’s something wrong with your brain.

Austin: But… I…

Jennie: It’s okay, Austin. Really it is. I’ve suspected since we were about twelve. It’s cool with me. We’ve been best friends since we were in second grade. It’s okay if our parents go on thinking we’re a couple for a little while longer. We’ll tell them the truth when we’re college. There’s no one to date around here anyway. …well, except for Nick, and you’ve already bagged him, you shit.

Austin: I love you, Jennie. I mean… You know what I mean.

Jennie: I love you, too, Austin.

Photographer and subjects unknown.
Short fictional story by Gary Cottle

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Campus Pride Ranks Top 25 LGBT-Friendly Universities

Campus Pride Ranks Top 25 LGBT-Friendly Universities: Campus Pride has revealed this year’s list of the top 25 LGBT-friendly universities based on its Campus Pride Index, which scores schools on their policies, programs, and practices. It’s the only ranking that takes a detailed look at specific policies that impact LGBT students and staff in addition to incorporating feedback from across each campus...

Pretty Sneakers

The Gay Colors

Grace Kelly

Hugh Hefner: Anti-Gay Activists Will ‘Criminalize Your Entire Sex Life’

Hugh Hefner: Anti-Gay Activists Will ‘Criminalize Your Entire Sex Life’: In the September issue of Playboy, its founder Hugh Hefner has penned an editorial about the importance of supporting LGBT equality and women’s rights. Lashing out at those conservatives who would impose their religious beliefs on society, Hefner describes marriage equality as “a fight for all of our rights”: HEFNER: The fight for gay marriage is...

APA Issues Position Statements Supporting Transgender Care And Civil Rights

APA Issues Position Statements Supporting Transgender Care And Civil Rights: Following up on guidelines generated by a report on transgender healthcare last month, the American Psychiatric Association has issued official position statements on the care and civil rights of transgender and gender non-conforming individuals. The new statements reflect this year’s editions to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the DSM-V) that will identify...

Rodney Howard-Browne Faith Healing

Ohio Judge Recognizes Sexual Orientation Discrimination Under Title VII

Ohio Judge Recognizes Sexual Orientation Discrimination Under Title VII: In a relatively insignificant ruling denying summary judgment, Ohio Judge James Gwin made a significant argument in favor of recognizing discrimination based on sexual orientation under Title VII’s protections against discrimination based on sex. Plaintiff Jason Koren is suing his former employer, the Ohio Bell Telephone Company, for unfair treatment because he is gay that...

Top 25 LGBT-Friendly Colleges And Universities As Ranked By Campus Pride Index

Top 25 LGBT-Friendly Colleges And Universities As Ranked By Campus Pride Index

Monday, August 20, 2012

T-Mobile Endorses Marriage Equality in Washington

T-Mobile Endorses Marriage Equality in Washington

What Religious “Hostility” Looks Like

What Religious “Hostility” Looks Like

Shooter That Targeted FRC Attended Conservative Christian School with Anti-Gay Policy

Shooter That Targeted FRC Attended Conservative Christian School with Anti-Gay Policy

Jefferson and Slavery: A Response to David Barton on the Glenn Beck Show, Part One

Jefferson and Slavery: A Response to David Barton on the Glenn Beck Show, Part One


1969 Liberace Show Phyllis Diller Duet

Gay Dad Booted from Kentucky Boy Scouts Chapter | Advocate.com

Gay Dad Booted from Kentucky Boy Scouts Chapter | Advocate.com

Where the Bears Are’s Videos

Where the Bears Are’s Videos

Gay Blogger Receives Death Threats for FRC Tweets | Advocate.com

Gay Blogger Receives Death Threats for FRC Tweets | Advocate.com

Log Cabin Source: Republican Platform Will Affirm DOMA, Federal Marriage Amendment | Advocate.com

Log Cabin Source: Republican Platform Will Affirm DOMA, Federal Marriage Amendment | Advocate.com

Exclusive: FBI probed GOP trip with drinking, nudity in Israel

Exclusive: FBI probed GOP trip with drinking, nudity in Israel

Patrick Schwarzenegger - Back to School Kindness Campaign (Making Off) HD

Conflict Over Marriage in Democratic Party Platform: August 20 Marriage News Watch

Maryland Approves Ballot Language For Marriage Equality Referendum, Now ‘Question 6′

Maryland Approves Ballot Language For Marriage Equality Referendum, Now ‘Question 6′: The Maryland State Board of Elections has finalized the wording for the state’s impending referendum on a recently passed same-sex marriage law. Appearing as Question 6, the referendum has been titled the “Civil Marriage Protection Act,” the name the bill had when passed by the legislature. It will read on the ballot as follows: Establishes...

Rob Rogers, editorial cartoonist for the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

Nevada Same-Sex Couple Denied Hospital Visitation Despite Domestic Partnership

Nevada Same-Sex Couple Denied Hospital Visitation Despite Domestic Partnership: A same-sex couple in Nevada is raising awareness about the inequality couples experience without marriage after Spring Valley Hospital refused to recognize their relationship. Brittney Leon and Terri-Ann Simonelli have a domestic partnership, which under Nevada state law grants couples all the same rights as married couples. When Leon checked into the hospital last month...

Boris Johnson (@MayorofLondon) is Out4Marriage!

HIV Testing Likely To Be Covered Under Obamacare

HIV Testing Likely To Be Covered Under Obamacare: Under Obama’s health reform law, HIV testing is likely to be covered as a part of regular preventative care, potentially becoming as standard as checking blood pressure levels. The U.S. Preventive Services Task Force is expected to update their position on HIV screening — which currently leaves the decision to test for HIV up to...

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Former Gov. Tommy Thompson (R-WI)

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Former Gov. Tommy Thompson (R-WI): Third in a series examining how anti-LGBT Senate candidates have worked to hurt the cause of equality. With his primary win last Tuesday, four-term former Gov. Tommy Thompson (R-WI) will be the Republican nominee against Rep. Tammy Baldwin (D) for the open seat of retiring Sen. Herb Kohl (D). Unlike Baldwin, the nation’s first openly...

Kansas Man Sues Former School For Ignoring Anti-Gay Bullying

Kansas Man Sues Former School For Ignoring Anti-Gay Bullying: A 2010 graduate of Blue Valley High School in Kansas is suing his alma matter for failing to protect him from anti-gay bullying while he was a student. The student experienced beating, including kicking, punching in the face, hitting, kicking him out of his chair, placing his hand on a hot burner in cooking class...

Friday, August 17, 2012

A sexist message from the Citadel Catholic Media

Pussy Riot members jailed for two years for hooliganism

Pussy Riot members jailed for two years for hooliganism 

If We Don’t Call it “Hate,” What Shall We Call It?

If We Don’t Call it “Hate,” What Shall We Call It?

Concerning the Recent Violence

Concerning the Recent Violence 

Washington Post Columnists Argue Family Research Council Shouldn’t Be Called A ‘Hate Group’

Washington Post Columnists Argue Family Research Council Shouldn’t Be Called A ‘Hate Group’: Various anti-gay conservative groups have been exploiting Wednesday’s shooting at the Family Research Council to push back on the Southern Poverty Law Center’s “hate group” labeling. The event was indisputably a tragedy that has been roundly condemned, but it is now being used a political cover for anti-gay rhetoric. Unfortunately, various journalists are catering to...

Russian Judge Upholds 100-Year Ban On Gay Pride Parades

Russian Judge Upholds 100-Year Ban On Gay Pride Parades: A judge in Russia upheld the Moscow city council’s 100-year ban on all gay pride parades on Friday, rejecting a gay rights activist’s request that such parades be protected. Despite the fact that the European Court of Human Rights told Russia to pay the complainant damages, the judge ruled the opposite, concurring with the city...

Jury Orders Gay-Bashing Former Assistant AG Andrew Shirvell To Pay $4.5 Million To Victim

Jury Orders Gay-Bashing Former Assistant AG Andrew Shirvell To Pay $4.5 Million To Victim: A jury sided with an openly gay former University of Michigan student government president in his defamation suit against Andrew Shirvell, the former assistant Michigan attorney general who was fired for mounting a vicious campaign of anti-gay harassment against him. The jury agreed with plaintiff Chris Armstrong on all counts and awarded him a $4.5...

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Trans Teen Murdered in Chicago | Advocate.com

Trans Teen Murdered in Chicago | Advocate.com

SPLC Responds To Blame For Shooting: ‘Perkins’ Accusation Is Outrageous’

SPLC Responds To Blame For Shooting: ‘Perkins’ Accusation Is Outrageous’: The Southern Poverty Law Center has responded to accusations by the Family Research Council and other anti-gay groups that its labeling of hate groups is “incendiary” and that it provided “license” to the gunman to attack FRC Wednesday and must be “held to account.” Mark Potok, Senior Fellow at the SPLC, called Tony Perkins’ accusation...

SPLC: Family Research Council License-to-Kill Claim ‘Outrageous’

SPLC: Family Research Council License-to-Kill Claim ‘Outrageous’

Truth Wins Out Responds to FRC’s Call for Removal of its Hate Group Designation

Family Research Council Blames Shooting On Prominent Civil Rights Group

Family Research Council Blames Shooting On Prominent Civil Rights Group: The Family Research Council’s Tony Perkins accused the Southern Poverty Law Center — a civil rights organization dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry — of providing “license” for a man to shoot a security guard in the arm on Wednesday. “Floyd Corkins was given a license to shoot an unarmed man by organizations like the...

FRC Shooting Suspect Charged, Held Without Bond For Mental Evaluation

FRC Shooting Suspect Charged, Held Without Bond For Mental Evaluation

BREAKING: Suspect Charged in Family Research Council Shooting | Advocate.com

BREAKING: Suspect Charged in Family Research Council Shooting | Advocate.com

Savage Vs Brown Was Last Night, Video Should Be On YouTube In A Few Days

Savage Vs Brown Was Last Night

Minnesota Grandparents Support Marriage Equality

Zach Wahls On The Road: Council Bluffs, IA

Understanding ‘Hate’ In The Wake Of The Family Research Council Shooting

Understanding ‘Hate’ In The Wake Of The Family Research Council Shooting: Wednesday’s shooting at the Family Research Council was a tragedy, and the wounded security guard and others who put themselves in harm’s way to overpower the shooter are indeed heroes. But how conservatives have responded in the shooting’s wake is incredibly disconcerting, an attempt to appropriate a tragedy to cover up the harm caused by...

Shocked and horrified…but not surprised

As the son of someone who suffered from paranoid schizophrenia, I know that we shouldn’t jump to conclusions about the man who shot a security guard at the Family Research Council’s Washington headquarters. I know we shouldn’t assume we know what motivated him. It could turn out that he is psychotic and his actions were driven by fantastic beliefs that are beyond our wildest imagination. Or he could be one of us and was motivated by what we all suspect. LGBT people are just people. Some of us are mentally unstable, and some of us are more violent than others.

I don’t think that shooting the security guard was helpful or justified. But I’m also surprised that this sort of thing doesn’t happen more often. Given the amount of hate and violence directed toward us, I’d say that, on the whole, LGBT people show an amazing amount of restraint.

The FRC has been labeled a hate group, and it has earned that label. Some would have you believe that it’s just a conservative organization that doesn’t support marriage equality. But Tony Perkins has ties to the KKK. He paid thousands and thousands of dollars for Grand Wizard David Duke’s mailing list. Jerry Boykin has devoted his life to spreading the idea that Muslims are secretly trying to take over the United States. Peter Sprigg has stated publicly that he supports the criminalization of homosexuality.

The FRC, along with a number of others, work tirelessly to promote the most vicious lies about LGBT people imaginable--we choose to be gay; we seduce children into the “lifestyle; we are pedophiles; we are diseased; we lead lives of misery and depravity and die at an early age; we are sick; we are sinners rejected by their god.

Many of our youth are living in a kind of hell. They are relentlessly bullied at school and rejected at home. LGBT youth are several times more likely to commit suicide than their straight counterparts. They are several times more likely to be homeless. Many of them are on the street because their families threw them out, or they no longer felt welcome or safe at home. And when we grow up, we aren’t allowed to get married. Until recently, we weren’t allowed to serve openly in the military. Many worry about what their employers will think if they find out. Many worry they might be fired or they won’t get promoted if they act “too gay.” And even as adults, we still face bullying and rejection from family and friends. It’s a lot easier to deal with those things when you’re financially independent and you have the freedom to walk away, but it still hurts like hell.

This past spring, Anne Graham Lotz, the daughter of “America’s Pastor" Billy Graham, warned that her god would punish America if her fellow North Carolinians didn’t vote for that state’s hate on the gays constitutional amendment. Another Christian minister who worked hard to get the amendment passed made the outlandish claims that gay men had to wear diapers and that we had a tendency to stick random objects such as cell phones up our bottoms. We heard a Christian minister tell parents they should break the wrists of toddlers who act gay, and another one said we should be put in concentration camps. And let’s not forget that the hate on the gay amendment passed.

For quite a while, some have been tracking and reporting on Chick-fil-A’s support of hate groups such as FRC. And earlier this summer, Dan Cathy, president of Chick-fil-A, haughtily admitted that he and his company did support hate groups and he claimed that LGBT people were inviting his god’s judgment on this country. When LGBT people objected, the mainstream press decided that Dan Cathy should be played up as the victim of LGBT intolerance. How dare we stand up for ourselves and tell Dan Cathy we should have our civil rights. How dare we refuse to buy his chicken sandwiches. Don’t we know that billionaire Dan Cathy has freedom of religion and speech? We should keep our mouths shut because freedom of religion and speech means that if you’re gay, you don’t get to voice your opinion or have a religious belief contrary to Dan Cathy’s.

And what do millions of Americans have to say about all of this? Nothing. What did millions of Americans, millions of Christian Americans say when thousands and thousands of people lined up to give billionaire Dan Cathy their money on August 1 for the chance to flip LGBT Americans the bird in the name of their god? Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. They say nothing when fellow Americans go to the polls to vote down civil rights for LGBT people. They say nothing when they hear about LGBT kids killing themselves or living on the streets. They say nothing when they hear about evangelical Americans going around the world promoting homophobia. They say nothing while the refuse of humanity sticks its head out of the slime and claims to represent Christians and presents itself as the moral authority of our country.

But sadly a security guard took one in the arm for reprobate Tony Perkins, and I suspect that we’ll hear something about that. I doubt it’ll matter if it turns out the shooter was completely insane. I doubt it’ll matter that all the major LGBT rights organizations fell over themselves to be the first to say they don’t condone the violence. I doubt it’ll matter that most of us were shocked and horrified by this story. The narrative that many want to believe has already been offered: the shooter was a radical homosexual activist who is intolerant of Christians. And many of those indifferent Americans, many of those indifferent Christian Americans who turn their heads when monsters like Tony Perkins spread the most hateful lies about LGBT people in the name of their god, will, I suspect--suddenly and miraculously--discover their vocal cords do work, and they will use their power of speech to denounce the violence of those nasty gay people and they will claim they just don’t understand why they’re always making such a fuss.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

FRC Shooting suspect was volunteering at LGBT center

Shooting suspect was volunteering at LGBT center  

The queen taught him how to clap and wave.

Ezra Miller Perks of Being a Wallflower Star Comes Out | Advocate.com

Ezra Miller Perks of Being a Wallflower Star Comes Out | Advocate.com

FRC Shooter Identified

FRC Shooter Identified

LGBT Groups Denounce FRC Shooting

LGBT Groups Denounce FRC Shooting  

Mother Of Kidnapped Daughter Files Racketeering Suit Against Liberty University Law School

Mother Of Kidnapped Daughter Files Racketeering Suit Against Liberty University Law School: On the same day a Mennonite pastor was convicted of abetting international kidnapping of the child of a same-sex couple, one of the girl’s mothers filed a civil Racketeer Influenced and Corrupt Organizations (RICO) suit against that pastor and others who she alleges helped her former partner kidnap their child Isabella and flee the country...

The coolest men's room ever.

Nearly 1 in 4 Men is Bisexual in the Caribbean Study Says | Advocate.com

Nearly 1 in 4 Men is Bisexual in the Caribbean Study Says | Advocate.com

Family Research Council Guard Shot in D.C. | Advocate.com

Family Research Council Guard Shot in D.C. | Advocate.com

Cheerios Arsonist Dies

Cheerios Arsonist Dies

Florida Elects First Out Gay Legislator

Florida Elects First Out Gay Legislator 

Gay congressional candidate wins key primary in Wisconsin

Gay congressional candidate wins key primary in Wisconsin 

The next openly gay member of Congress will almost certainly be Wisconsin State Rep. Mark Pocan, a progressive small business owner who won the Democratic primary tonight in the Congressional District that has been represented by Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin for the past 14 years.

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Gunman Wounds Security Guard At Family Research Council

Gunman Wounds Security Guard At Family Research Council: A shooting occurred on Wednesday at the conservative Family Research Council’s headquarters, wounding a security guard. The suspect has been detained, but police have not released the identity of either the shooter or the victim. D.C. Police Chief Cathy Lanier said the shooter entered the building around 10:45 am and started shooting when the security...

Frank Schubert Making A Small Fortune Campaigning Against Marriage Equality

Frank Schubert Making A Small Fortune Campaigning Against Marriage Equality: Frank Schubert has long been a political strategist for campaigns against marriage equality, working with the National Organization for Marriage to support California’s Proposition 8 in 2008 and Maine’s Question 1 in 2009. He’s fully dedicated himself to the cause this year through his new agency Mission Public Affairs, and Jeremy Hooper notes that he’s...

Paul Ryan Refuses To Address Questions On Employment Nondiscrimination

Paul Ryan Refuses To Address Questions On Employment Nondiscrimination: The Log Cabin Republicans have desperately clinging to Paul Ryan’s vote for the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, but the new vice presidential candidate’s position remains unclear. Given his otherwise anti-LGBT record, the vote, which was also preceded by a vote to kill ENDA, seems like a fluke. The Huffington Post thought so too, and attempted to...

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

New River Gorge, West Virginia


Anonymous Hacks Ugandan Government In Retaliation For Anti-LGBT Policies

Anonymous Hacks Ugandan Government In Retaliation For Anti-LGBT Policies: The hacking group Anonymous hacked two websites of the Ugandan government today, objecting to its anti-gay policies, including continued consideration of a “Kill The Gays” bill that would elevate the punishment for homosexuality to the death penalty. Attacking the website of the prime minister and Justice Law and Order Sector, the hackers issued the following...

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Rep. Pete Hoekstra (R-MI)

Better Know An Anti-LGBT Senate Candidate: Rep. Pete Hoekstra (R-MI): Second in a series examining how anti-LGBT Senate candidates have worked to hurt the cause of equality. With his primary win last Tuesday, nine-term former Rep. Pete Hoekstra (R-MI) will be the Republican nominee against incumbent Sen. Debbie Stabenow (D). Unlike the incumbent, who has had a solid record in support of equality, Hoekstra has...