Thursday, February 28, 2013

U.S. endorses limited gay marriage right

U.S. endorses limited gay marriage right

John Lewis to Justice Scalia: The right to vote is ‘what people died for, bled for’

John Lewis to Justice Scalia: The right to vote is ‘what people died for, bled for’

LGBT People Will Receive First-Ever Domestic Violence Protections Under VAWA

LGBT People Will Receive First-Ever Domestic Violence Protections Under VAWA: Today, Congress finally voted to reauthorize the Violence Against Women Act, or VAWA, a traditionally bipartisan bill which provides assistance to victims of domestic violence.  For the first time since the bill was first introduced in 1994, Congress allowed the Violence Against Women Act to expire at the end of 2012 because House Republicans opposed...

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131 Republicans To SCOTUS: Marriage Equality Will Protect Children

131 Republicans To SCOTUS: Marriage Equality Will Protect Children: As promised, a broad coalition of 131 Republican leaders, including many former governors and members of Congress, have submitted an amicus brief urging the Supreme Court to rule in favor of marriage equality in the Proposition 8 case. In their brief, they recognize that hundreds of thousands of children are already being raised by same-sex couples, and...

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NFL Players Chris Kluwe And Brendon Ayanbadejo File SCOTUS Brief On Prop 8

NFL Players Chris Kluwe And Brendon Ayanbadejo File SCOTUS Brief On Prop 8

New report details how same-sex couples are "Living Outside The Safety Net" | San Diego Gay and Lesbian News

New report details how same-sex couples are "Living Outside The Safety Net" | San Diego Gay and Lesbian News

Administration officials say the Justice Department will urge the U.S. Supreme Court to allow same-sex marriage to resume in California, wading into the protracted legal battle over Proposition 8 and giving gay-rights advocates a new court ally.

Obama administration to express support for gay marriage before Supreme Court

POLL: 61 Percent Of Californians Support Marriage Equality

POLL: 61 Percent Of Californians Support Marriage Equality: Today is the deadline for submitting amicus (friend of the court) briefs in the Supreme Court case challenging California’s Proposition 8, and a new poll suggests California is more ready than ever to embrace marriage equality. According to Field Poll, 61 percent of California voters support marriage equality, while only 32 percent oppose. Women, young...

POLL: 60 Percent Of Rhode Islanders Support Marriage Equality

POLL: 60 Percent Of Rhode Islanders Support Marriage Equality: A new poll from Brown University shows that 60 percent of Rhode Island voters support marriage equality, while only 26 percent oppose it. This is up from the already strong 57 percent found in a poll last month. The Rhode Island House has already passed a bill to allow same-sex marriage, but a contentious vote...

BREAKING: Congress Finally Reauthorizes Violence Against Women Act

BREAKING: Congress Finally Reauthorizes Violence Against Women Act: After nearly a year of partisan infighting on Capitol Hill, the House of Representatives and the Senate have finally agreed to send a reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act to President Obama’s desk. On Thursday, by a vote of 286 to 138, the House passed the bipartisan Senate-approved version of the bill — one...

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

STUDY: As Many As 6 Million Americans Have An LGBT Parent

STUDY: As Many As 6 Million Americans Have An LGBT Parent

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Nearly 300 Companies And Municipalities File Brief Against DOMA

Nearly 300 Companies And Municipalities File Brief Against DOMA: Nearly 300 companies, along with several law firms and municipalities, have submitted an amicus brief to the Supreme Court challenging the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act. Many recognizable companies signed on, including Adobe, Amazon, Apple, CBS, Cisco Systems, Citigroup, eBay, Electronic Arts, Facebook, Goldman Sachs, Google, Intel, JetBlue Airways, The Jim Henson Company...

Van Cliburn, Cold War Musical Envoy, Dies at 78

Van Cliburn, Cold War Musical Envoy, Dies at 78

Kindle Paperwhite: Perfect at the Beach -- Amazon TV Commercial


EXPOSED: Vatican Picks a New Pope!


Colorado Family Challenges School To Let Transgender 6-Year-Old Use Appropriate Bathroom

Colorado Family Challenges School To Let Transgender 6-Year-Old Use Appropriate Bathroom: Six-year-old Coy Mathis is transgender, and until December 2012, she was allowed to use the girls’ bathrooms at her elementary school in Fountain, Colorado. But then, administrators informed her parents that she would be required to use the boys’ bathroom, a staff bathroom, or the nurse’s bathroom. The Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund (TLDEF)...

STUDY: Same-Sex Parents Are Prevalent, Ethnically Diverse, And Struggling Economically

STUDY: Same-Sex Parents Are Prevalent, Ethnically Diverse, And Struggling Economically: A new report from the Williams Institute paints a compelling picture of the nation’s same-sex couples, as well as the LGBT people in general who have had children. Not only are they particular prevalent, but they are also ethnically diverse. Unfortunately, many are struggling economically, contrary to stereotype. Here are some of the compelling new...
Yet another apartment inspection tomorrow, so I've been cleaning. I hurt my back while dusting under my desk. That's wonderful. The Republicans have steadily drummed it into the minds of the gullible that half the people receiving public assistance are layabouts living like royalty. That means there’s always pressure on Congress to increase the regulations and to make the bureaucracy ever more elaborate. Did you know that more than half of the people who are approved for HUD assistance never get their vouchers because Washington has made the process so difficult that applicants are unable to find anyone who will accept the voucher, and if they do, they don’t have apartments that HUD will approve of. You wouldn’t believe all the rules and regulations and paperwork. The government turns its back on Wall Street bankers, but they have me and an army of bureaucrats exchanging forms and bank statements all year long, and they’ve got a guy coming out here to look at my toilet four times a year.

I’m sick. I have post traumatic stress and extreme social phobia. I do not want strangers poking around in my house, looking in the cupboards and closets. It upsets me. And what the hell would I do if they found a leak that management refused to fix and they cut out my subsidy? I could very easily end up homeless. Just imagine old people and people dying of cancer trying to deal with this shit. And on top of everything else, I get to scroll down my newsfeed on Facebook and see “friends” demanding drug tests for people like me. Assholes. I guess they’re afraid I might enjoy myself for five minutes while living in this dump. I think they should be subjected to a drug test and a full body cavity search if they want to use a public toilet or walk on a sidewalk. We can’t be too careful, you know.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

In a vote of 6-5, the bill was approved and will next head to a full House vote, the final remaining obstacle to passage as Democratic Gov. Pat Quinn has already vowed to sign the measure into law.

Illinois Gay Marriage Bill OKed In Committee, Advances To Full House Vote

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Dozens of big U.S. companies to back gay marriage

Dozens of big U.S. companies to back gay marriage

Hagel Confirmed As Defense Secretary | Advocate.com

Hagel Confirmed As Defense Secretary | Advocate.com

Costa Rican Psychologists Condemn Ex-Gay Therapy

Costa Rican Psychologists Condemn Ex-Gay Therapy: Costa Rica’s Psychologists Association has issued a bold statement today condemning attempts to “cure” homosexuality through ex-gay therapy. The harmful treatment has been on the rise in Latin America, but according to Psychologists Association spokesperson Marisol Fournier, there is no scientific basis for ex-gay therapy: FOURNIER: Since it is not a disease, it cannot be...

Lesbian Widow Calls Out Republicans’ Hypocritical ‘Post Hoc’ Arguments For Marriage Inequality

Lesbian Widow Calls Out Republicans’ Hypocritical ‘Post Hoc’ Arguments For Marriage Inequality: Edie Windsor and her lawyers have filed their final brief urging the Supreme Court to declare the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional. When Windsor’s wife died, she was forced to pay $363,053 in federal estate taxes because their marriage was not recognized under DOMA. In the brief, Windsor’s lawyers point out that House Republicans have...

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Boston Fraternity Raises Money for Trans Brother's Top Surgery

Boston Fraternity Raises Money for Trans Brother

Republicans Sign Brief in Support of Gay Marriage

Republicans Sign Brief in Support of Gay Marriage

Briefs in Prop 8 and DOMA Cases: Feb 25 Marriage News Watch


Monday, February 25, 2013


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POLL: Majority Of Nevadans Would Overturn Ban On Same-Sex Marriage

POLL: Majority Of Nevadans Would Overturn Ban On Same-Sex Marriage: A new Public Opinion Strategies poll commissioned by the Retail Association of Nevada finds that a majority of Nevada voters would support repealing the state’s constitutional ban on same-sex marriage. With divides along partisan and generational lines, 54 percent would favor removing the Protection of Marriage provision from the Nevada Constitution, with 43 percent opposed...

C. Everett Koop Dead: Former Surgeon General Dies At 96

C. Everett Koop Dead: Former Surgeon General Dies At 96

Hey LGBT Teens (And Everyone): YOU HAVE A PURPOSE!


FairTalk: You Have A Purpose!


You have a purpose


Kansas Supreme Court Rules In Favor Of Same-Sex Adoption

Kansas Supreme Court Rules In Favor Of Same-Sex Adoption: On Friday, the Kansas Supreme Court issued a ruling protecting the rights of same-sex couples to both be recognized as the legal parents of the children they are raising together. The case involved two women, Marci Frazier and Kelly Goudschaal, who had been raising children together, but then faced a custody dispute after they separated...

If I Had A Fortune To Spend

A friend recently asked if I had the money, would I live in a house like Downton Abbey. This was my reply:

If I had a fortune to spend, I can't imagine using it to live in a house like Downton Abbey. I might donate some money to maintain it so long as it was open to the public and operated as a museum house.


I'm a long time fan of the PBS series This Old House, so I can imagine the restoration and preservation of historic buildings might become a hobby.

I would love to travel more. And traveling in comfort on long trips would be especially nice. I'm not afraid of flying, but airports make me very nervous, as does buying tickets, checking in luggage, etc. Just having someone there with me to keep me calm would be a huge help. I've never been on a long flight, but I imagine spending more than ten hours confined to a small, cheap seat would be torture. My own private plane or chartered plane might be very nice, but I think two first class tickets would be luxurious enough. One for me, and one for my social secretary/traveling companion/"luggage lifter". (He would probably be in his early to mid 20s. Physical type: slim, boyish with a pretty face. LOL )

Of course I would see to it that my novels are published and promoted. And I would also like to produce documentaries and feature films about LGBT people.

I would like to promote a number of causes like green energy and LGBT rights...do my bit to make the world a better place.

My dream is to have a cottage or a cabin in the woods not far from a town with a train station or an airport so that I would have some place to shop for supplies and I could travel. If I had a fortune, the cottage might become a little more elaborate. I think I'd want to keep the cottage feel, but it would be nice to have a few luxuries...like a guest cottage for friends, maybe a small barn for exercise equipment and a pool table, a small swimming pool and a hot tub and a sauna. And it would be really nice if I had enough wooded acreage for my own walking trail...a half mile loop that surrounds the house and the out buildings. I think I would like it to be near White Sulphur Springs or Lewisburg, WV. There's an Amtrak station in White Sulphur Springs, and a small airport in Lewisburg. The Greenbrier Hotel is in White Sulphur Springs, too. It's a famous luxury hotel, so if I had guests who didn't want to be out in the woods with me, I could put them up there.

I don't like the colder months in WV, so I would winter in Key West. I'd go down there after Christmas and stay until the middle of April. I'd want to go back to WV in time to see the spring leaves and the fruit trees and dogwoods in blossom.

There are a few business enterprises I think I might be interested in--besides producing films. I think I would like to open a camp or a retreat in WV for gay men, sort of like Yosemite's Camp Curry. And maybe a theater nearby for the general public. There are so few cultural opportunities in WV. I think the locals and the tourists would love to see a play now and then in the evening. I know I would, and going all the way to New York to see a professional play can be a bit much even if you do have plenty of money. It’s not likely that either venture would make money, but if they mostly broke even, I'd be happy. I'd feel like I was providing a useful service that made my customers happy.

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Your "Wrong Hole" Is My Right Hole.



The 6 Best Arguments For Gay And Lesbian Equality In Obama’s DOMA Brief

The 6 Best Arguments For Gay And Lesbian Equality In Obama’s DOMA Brief: On Friday, President Obama’s Solicitor General, Donald Verrilli, filed a brief in United States v. Windsor, a case urging the Supreme Court to outlaw Section 3 of a 1996 federal law that prohibits the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages. The Defense of Marriage Act or DOMA, the Obama administration contends, “denies to tens of...

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Emotional Honesty

When I was growing up, my father would always ask if I had a good time every time he took me some place. I soon learned that he didn’t want to hear the truth. He just wanted me to say that I had a good time. Saying how I really felt became an act of defiance, and he would make me pay for it by acting hurt which caused me to feel guilty. He did that kind of thing to me all the time. He let me know that he didn’t want to really know me or understand me. He just wanted me to say the words he wanted to hear. And of course when I realized that I was gay, I knew he definitely didn’t want to hear about that, so I kept it all inside.

Eventually all of this made me feel alone and isolated. But it also made me doubt that I was a real person. I suppressed so much that I began to wonder if I had feelings and opinions like other people. When people outside the family asked me what I thought, I couldn’t answer them. I didn’t know. I wasn’t used to talking about my inner life. And I also didn’t trust other people enough to tell them the truth. And I couldn’t simply tell them what they wanted to hear because I didn’t know them well enough for that.

My father didn’t want to hear the truth, and he would punish me with emotional blackmail if I was truthful. And my mother would sometimes react in wildly irrational ways if I ever slipped and told her what was really going on in my life. She’d sometimes call parents of classmates or teachers on the telephone and threaten to kill them, for instance. She sometimes did that without me saying anything.

After a while, it nearly drove me crazy. It was like Chinese water torture. Walking on eggshells doesn’t seem so bad if you do it for a few hours or a day or two now and then, but if you have to do it every day and you know nothing else, there comes a point when you just can’t stand it any more.

Emotional honesty is very important.  That's something I've learned in life. 

Saturday, February 23, 2013

I really hate the idea of people forgoing sex and romantic relationships because of religious beliefs that were, in my opinion, created by human beings who did not fully understand or appreciate human nature. I think if spirituality has any validity, it stems from being true one’s heart, not an artificial doctrine.

Friday, February 22, 2013


Obama Administration Urges Supreme Court To Strike Down DOMA

Obama Administration Urges Supreme Court To Strike Down DOMA



Gun Activists Warn Obama is Raising a Private Black Army to Massacre White Americans | Right Wing Watch

Gun Activists Warn Obama is Raising a Private Black Army to Massacre White Americans | Right Wing Watch

How The Defense Of Marriage Act Continues To Harm Military Same-Sex Families

How The Defense Of Marriage Act Continues To Harm Military Same-Sex Families: When the Second Circuit Court of Appeals ruled in favor of Edith Windsor late last year, they set a bold, long-awaited precedent. Not only did they declare that the Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional, but for the first time the court decided that any law that limits the rights and freedoms of gay and...

Explained: Supreme Court Argument to Overturn Prop 8


Study: Why Straight Women Are Often Close With Gay Men

Study: Why Straight Women Are Often Close With Gay Men

New Jersey Legislators Will Vote To Override Chris Christie’s Marriage Equality Veto

New Jersey Legislators Will Vote To Override Chris Christie’s Marriage Equality Veto: In early 2012, lawmakers in New Jersey successfully passed marriage equality bill, but Gov. Chris Christie (R) vetoed it, claiming same-sex marriage was not an issue of “gay rights.” The legislature has until January 2014 to attempt to override that veto, and Democratic leaders in both chambers announced this week that they will attempt to...

65-Year-Old Nurse Schools British Archbishop On Marriage Equality

65-Year-Old Nurse Schools British Archbishop On Marriage Equality: The Catholic Church has been quite vocal in its opposition to marriage equality in the United Kingdom, despite Parliament’s intention to pass it. Perhaps none has been more outspoken than Westminister Archbishop Vincent Nichols, who admitted that the Church doesn’t even recognize the existence of homosexuality and is prepared to fire teachers who marry someone...

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Opponents Of Proposition 8 Tell Supreme Court To Allow Gay Couples To Marry

Opponents Of Proposition 8 Tell Supreme Court To Allow Gay Couples To Marry
I think it’s high time that our society accept the fact that some of us are attracted to members of our own sex. We, as a group, don’t pose any more of a threat than any other group. We are not mentally ill. We are not confused. Our attractions are not meant to be rebellious. And we can’t simply turn straight if we want to.

Heterosexuality and the propagation of our species in no way hinges on hostility toward homosexuality. Homosexual feelings are not “temptations” that one succumbs to. Homosexual feelings do not drive out heterosexual feelings. Most will have strong heterosexual attractions no matter if homosexuality is treated as a threat or not. Just as homosexuality has survived despite hundreds of years of overt hostility and suppression. No matter how hostile the culture, some of us experienced sexual and romantic attractions to members of our own sex, and some of us acted on those feelings.

Over the last 150 years, we have become increasingly aware of these facts, so we should change our laws, institutions, customs and mores accordingly. We are not going anywhere, and to continue to discriminate against us either by ignoring us and our needs or by treating us as a threat would be unspeakably cruel.  

Marriage Equality Campaign Drops Laura Bush From Ads

Marriage Equality Campaign Drops Laura Bush From Ads: The Respect for Marriage Coalition has acquiesced to Former First Lady Laura Bush’s request not to have her public comments used in a new ad campaign highlighting bipartisan support for marriage equality. The group told Politico it was moving on “to new and different voices:” We used public comments for this ad from American leaders...

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Mississippi Newspaper Defends Publishing Story About ‘Historic’ Same-Sex Wedding

Mississippi Newspaper Defends Publishing Story About ‘Historic’ Same-Sex Wedding: Earlier this month, the Laurel Leader-Call, a tri-weekly newspaper covering Jones County, Mississippi, published a story about an “historic” wedding between Jessica Powell and Crystal Craven. Craven is currently battling brain cancer and is not sure of her prognosis, which is partly why the couple decided to celebrate their union with family, friends, and even...

Jon Huntsman Endorses Marriage Equality: ‘We Must Demand Equality Under The Law For All Americans’

Jon Huntsman Endorses Marriage Equality: ‘We Must Demand Equality Under The Law For All Americans’: Former GOP Presidential candidate and Utah governor Jon Huntsman has endorsed marriage equality. Huntsman, a Mormon whose previous support for civil unions set him (and libertarian Gary Johnson) apart from an otherwise virulently anti-gay field, came out in favor of equal marriage rights in an essay in The American Conservative entitled “Marriage Equality Is a...

Creating a Family: Dan Bucatinsky & Shonda Rhimes


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Obama Reiterates Gay Marriage Support In Discussing Prop 8 Case


BEN IVORY - THE RIGHTEOUS ONES (Official Music Video)


By a 62-25 margin, the Virginia House of Delegates passed SB969, a bill that seeks to repeal a section of Virginia law that makes cohabitating or "lewdly and lasciviously associating" with a partner outside of marriage a crime.

Virginia House overcomes GOP opposition, passes cohabitation bill

Laura Bush Objects To Being Quoted Accurately Supporting Marriage Equality

Laura Bush Objects To Being Quoted Accurately Supporting Marriage Equality: This week, the Respect for Marriage Coalition launched a new $1 million print and television ad campaign highlighting bipartisan support for marriage equality. Unfortunately, it seems Former First Lady Laura Bush is not happy about being included in the ads, according to a statement obtained by the Dallas Morning News: But Bush spokeswoman Anne MacDonald said...

Indiana School Suspends Teacher Who Believes Gays Have No Purpose

Indiana School Suspends Teacher Who Believes Gays Have No Purpose: Whether or not to have a straights-only prom has embroiled Indiana’ Northeast School corporation in a national controversy, particularly because of the comments made by special education teacher Diana Medley. Not only does she believe being gay is a choice influenced by “life circumstances,” but she doesn’t even believe gay people have any sort of...

Tim Tebow Cancels Appearance At Anti-Gay Megachurch

Tim Tebow Cancels Appearance At Anti-Gay Megachurch: Christian football star Tim Tebow was scheduled to make a big appearance later this year at First Baptist Church Dallas, the megachurch operated by Robert Jeffress. Jeffress is known for his anti-gay, anti-Catholic views, including calling President Obama the “antichrist,” calling Mormonism a cult, and calling AIDS a “gay disease.” After much outcry, including a...

Associated Press Caves, Acknowledges Same-Sex Marriages As ‘Husbands’ And ‘Wives’

Associated Press Caves, Acknowledges Same-Sex Marriages As ‘Husbands’ And ‘Wives’: The Associated Press announced today a reversal of guidance that was issued last week suggesting the words “husband” and “wife” only be used for people in opposite-sex marriages. According to the new entry that will be printed in the journalism stylebook, “husband” and “wife” will apply to any legally recognized marriage, “regardless of sexual orientation...

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

To This Day Project - Shane Koyczan


If I have a soul, I don’t think its value or its savageability depends on me accepting anyone’s religious beliefs. If religion has a purpose, I think it’s to help believers to live their lives. I don’t think it makes anyone more acceptable or worthy. And I also think that wisdom is significant no matter where you find it. If there is more to life than meets the eye, maybe we need supposedly “holy” places and supposedly “sacred” words, images and rituals because our limited perception prevents us from realizing that everything is a revelation.

STUDY: LGBT Students Would Benefit From More-Inclusive Athletic Opportunities

STUDY: LGBT Students Would Benefit From More-Inclusive Athletic Opportunities: The Gay, Lesbian, & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) has released a new study today analyzing the impact of anti-LGBT bullying on middle and high school students who participate in athletics. Though the climate in athletics can be quite toxic, there are still many LGBT students participating, and when they do, they benefit academically from having...

Boy Scouts Community Relations Director Quietly Advocates Antigay Policy Change | Advocate.com

Boy Scouts Community Relations Director Quietly Advocates Antigay Policy Change | Advocate.com

Turkish court rules gay sex is natural

Turkish court rules gay sex is natural























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Respect For Marriage- Leadership


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New Ad Campaign Highlights Bipartisan Support For Marriage Equality

New Ad Campaign Highlights Bipartisan Support For Marriage Equality: The Respect for Marriage Coalition, headed up by Freedom To Marry and the Human Rights Campaign, is rolling out a new multi-million dollar national ad campaign for marriage equality, including television spots, full-page newspaper ads, and online banner ads. The “#Time4Marriage” campaign features Former First Lady Laura Bush, Former Secretary of State Colin Powell, Former...

Presidential AIDS Council Recommends Repealing HIV-Criminalization Laws

Presidential AIDS Council Recommends Repealing HIV-Criminalization Laws: The Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS (PACHA) passed a resolution earlier this month calling for an end to any and all state and federal laws that criminalize or prosecute individuals based on their HIV status. The resolution points out that the laws undermine testing and prevention priorities, further stigmatize HIV-positive individuals, and ignore modern scientific...

Republican Lawmaker Cosponsors Minnesota Marriage Equality Bill

Republican Lawmaker Cosponsors Minnesota Marriage Equality Bill: As Minnesota state lawmakers prepare to introduce marriage equality legislation, Republican Sen. Branden Petersen has announced he will be a co-sponsor. Though he voted for the amendment banning same-sex marriage two years ago, Petersen now believes supporting same-sex marriage is the “right thing” to do: PETERSON: At this point, I am concerned about doing the right...

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

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POLL: Opposition To Illinois Marriage Equality At All-Time Low

POLL: Opposition To Illinois Marriage Equality At All-Time Low: A new Crain’s/Ipsos Illinois poll shows that opposition to marriage equality in the Land of Lincoln is at an all-time low. While 50 percent support the same-sex marriage bill advancing through the state legislature, only 29 percent are committed to opposing it, while another 20 percent don’t know or have mixed feelings. Supporters also support...

The Perils of Teaching the Bible in Public Schools | Right Wing Watch

The Perils of Teaching the Bible in Public Schools | Right Wing Watch

Supreme Court Gets Prop 8 Brief: Feb 19 Marriage News Watch


Schoolchildren's Religious Liberties Act could lead to prayer in Mississippi schools

Schoolchildren's Religious Liberties Act could lead to prayer in Mississippi schools

BERLIN: German court strengthens gay adoption rights - World Wires - MiamiHerald.com

BERLIN: German court strengthens gay adoption rights - World Wires - MiamiHerald.com

Chris Kluwe: “Necessary Roughness” gets locker room right

Chris Kluwe: “Necessary Roughness” gets locker room right

Music Producer Clive Davis Comes Out As Bisexual

Music Producer Clive Davis Comes Out As Bisexual: Legendary music producer Clive Davis has come out as bisexual in his new memoir, The Soundtrack of My Life. The revelation was first reported by Rolling Stone and USA Today, but he expounded on his identity in an interview Monday night with Cynthia McFadden on ABC’s Nightline: DAVIS: It’s not that the heavens opened up...

Mexican Supreme Court Cites U.S. Supreme Court In Marriage Equality Ruling

Mexican Supreme Court Cites U.S. Supreme Court In Marriage Equality Ruling: In December, the Supreme Court of Mexico ruled that banning same-sex marriage was unconstitutional and that decision was finally published on Monday. Writing on behalf of a unanimous court, Minister Arturo Zaldívar Lelo de Larrea actually cited two decisions by the United States Supreme Court, Loving v. Virginia and Brown v. Board of Education, to highlight other...

Massachusetts Department Of Education Issues New Guidance For Respecting Transgender Students

Massachusetts Department Of Education Issues New Guidance For Respecting Transgender Students: The Massachusetts Department of Education issued new guidance on Friday for how to respect transgender students and ensure their full safe inclusion in schools. The new directives reflect a 2011 law prohibiting discrimination based on gender identity and take a comprehensive look at the experience of trans people in the education system. Here are some...

POLLS: DOMA Is Discrimination, Equality Is Inevitable

POLLS: DOMA Is Discrimination, Equality Is Inevitable: Two new polls released today show that the national momentum for supporting marriage equality continues. The first poll, from the Respect for Marriage Coalition, found that American voters strongly support marriage equality, with 75 percent responding that the freedom to marry the person you love is a constitutional right. It seems clear that respondents appreciate...

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Dionysian Spirit

I’m not a very social person. I don’t like excessive amounts of alcohol. I’ve never taken illicit drugs except for poppers a few times. It was like smelling a cleaning solvent, so I don’t what all the fuss is about. I don’t think my dancing experience was enhanced by making me think of cleaning the kitchen sink. I have taken my share of controlled substances, but they were prescribed by a doctor. They serve their purpose, but I don’t think of myself as partying when I take them.

But I grew up in an environment where not only was homosexuality denounced, but sex and nudity and pleasure in general were viewed as suspect. We were all very careful to keep ourselves covered up, and no one hardly ever mentioned sex. And when it was mentioned, it was never celebrated. According to my father, only crazy and dangerous people indulged in alcohol and drugs. He was convinced that someone who merely smoked a joint was likely to kill you with an ax without provocation.

After having all that drilled into my head, I became rather fascinated with the Dionysian spirit. There’s a part of me that just wants to let go of all the fear and restraint, and I look on with wide-eyed wonder when I see others letting go of their inhibitions--naked bike rides, Burning Man, Mardi Gras, Pride…

A friend of mine once jokingly accused me of being a mattress back. When I objected, she corrected herself. She said I was a mattress back wannabe.

Saturday, February 16, 2013

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I'm Gay

I’m gay. I’m not confused about this. I really am attracted to men, and women not so much. My parents were pretty nutty, but a lot of parents are nutty to some extent. My father’s masculinity didn’t frighten or intimidate me, and my mother didn’t give me baths when I was in high school. I was never sexually molested when I was a kid. Never had any drug or alcohol problems. Never engaged in sex compulsively or excessively.

Can I tell you why I’m gay? No. But I don’t think my feelings need to be explained. They are what they are. However, some think that people like me need to justify ourselves. These people are generally assholes in my opinion.

Any time I hear these “ex-gay” and NARTH people or Christianists go down their list of unscientific and unproven “reasons” why people like me exist and why our “lifestyle” is so bad, it’s like I’m listening to someone from another planet. They deliberately distort, exaggerate and make things up.

They’re trying to make people like me feel ashamed. And they’re trying to make straight people afraid of those like me. I will not lend any credence to the idea that they simply believe one thing, and I believe something else. They are liars and con artists and lunatics out to do harm to people like me, including young people who are still dependent on their families.

Religious liberty is guaranteed by the Constitution, and I respect that. I think people should be allowed to believe what they want, and profess their beliefs, and to worship as they see fit. But that doesn’t mean I respect every religious belief going. If you believe that people like me are sinners, or if you believe people like me deserve punishment, or death, or eternity in hell, then I think your religion is shit. I don’t say that just to be profane. I mean that I think your religion is excremental, something foul and disgusting, something that poses a threat to health and wellbeing, something that should be flushed away.

If I seem intolerant and unyielding, just remember that it is you who decided to stand in judgment of me. I don’t claim anyone should go to hell. I don’t claim anyone has to follow my rules or believe what I believe before they are worthy of the love of any god.

U.S. Players Rally Behind Robbie Rogers on Twitter

U.S. Players Rally Behind Robbie Rogers on Twitter

Friday, February 15, 2013

Larry Pratt: 'The President Should Remember King George III's Experience' | Right Wing Watch

Larry Pratt: 'The President Should Remember King George III's Experience' | Right Wing Watch
I’m single and I don’t pursue sexual contact with anyone because I have PTSD and intense social phobia. A lot of people are single and don’t engage in sex for long periods of time for a variety of reasons. That doesn’t mean sex and sexuality are unimportant. I’m still gay. And I still enjoy and celebrate my attraction. I wish things had been easier for me. And I wish I had been braver when I was young. It makes me so happy when young men refuse to be restrained and let their homo fires flame proudly and openly.

Lawmakers Introduce Sweeping Sex Ed Bill To Mandate LGBT Inclusive, Gender Balanced Health Classes

Lawmakers Introduce Sweeping Sex Ed Bill To Mandate LGBT Inclusive, Gender Balanced Health Classes: Just this week, the CDC released new data pointing to the United States’ “ongoing, severe epidemic” of sexually transmitted infections, which incur the country an estimate $16 billion each year in medical costs. That public health crisis is partly fueled by the lack of comprehensive, medically accurate sexual health instruction in classrooms across the country...

Missouri Gay Teen Wins Right To Bring Boyfriend To Prom

Missouri Gay Teen Wins Right To Bring Boyfriend To Prom: This spring, a gay Missouri teen who challenged his school’s policy barring same-sex dates will get to bring his boyfriend to the prom. Stacy Dawson found out he could not bring his boyfriend because of a single line in the school handbook stating, “high school students will be permitted to invite one guest, girls invite...

First Look: Official Poster for 'Continental' Documentary

First Look: Official Poster for 'Continental' Documentary

PFLAG Founder Honored With Presidential Citizen's Medal | Advocate.com

PFLAG Founder Honored With Presidential Citizen's Medal | Advocate.com

Illinois Senate Democrats discuss marriage equality


In a revealing and personal blog post written in the early hours of the morning in London on Friday, former Columbus Crew midfielder Robbie Rogers announced that he’s gay and that he’s stepping away from professional soccer.

Former Crew MF Rogers says he's gay, leaving soccer

Study: 1 in 4 Londoners have had, or would have, gay sex

Study: 1 in 4 Londoners have had, or would have, gay sex

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Happy Valentine's Day!


Happy Valentine's Day!


Happy Valentine's Day!


The coolest Valentine's Day video you'll watch all day


So God Made A Gay Man (from CrewMagazine.com)


Happy Valentime's Day!


Happy Valentine's Day!


Happy Valentine's Day!


Happy Valentine's Day!


Happy Valentine's Day!


BREAKING: Illinois Senate Approves Marriage Equality

BREAKING: Illinois Senate Approves Marriage Equality: As expected, the Illinois Senate has sent a very sweet Valentine to same-sex couples by approving marriage equality legislation with a vote of 34-21 (plus 2 voting “present”). Before passage, an amendment was added to the bill carving out an exception allowing churches to not have their facilities used in the solemnization or celebration of...

AP Reporter Intends To Keep Calling Same-Sex Spouses ‘Husbands’ And ‘Wives’

AP Reporter Intends To Keep Calling Same-Sex Spouses ‘Husbands’ And ‘Wives’: Earlier this week, the Associated Press released new style guidance that individuals in same-sex marriages should generally not be referred to as “husbands” or “wives,” but instead of “partners” or “couples.” No explanation has been offered as to why the AP decided that same-sex marriages just didn’t deserve the same language as opposite-sex marriages, but...

Happy Valentine's Day!


Wednesday, February 13, 2013

I sometimes hear people complain about how immature and self-centered young people are (these days). But it’s been my experience that maturity and wisdom don’t necessarily come with age. I’ve personally known several people who were much more open, accepting and thoughtful when they were young, and now they’re judgmental, hateful and bitter.


“My mom didn’t want me to come. She said there’d be sexual tension between us.”

“I don’t think there’s any sexual tension between us.”

“Does that mean you think I’m ugly?”

“…I can’t win.”



DC Comics Responds to Backlash Over Hiring Antigay Writer | Advocate.com

DC Comics Responds to Backlash Over Hiring Antigay Writer | Advocate.com

President Obama Includes Gays In State Of The Union, But Makes No New Commitments

President Obama Includes Gays In State Of The Union, But Makes No New Commitments: In President Obama’s State of the Union address Tuesday night, he made two references to the gays and lesbians — one more obvious than the other, but both in alignment with similar remarks in his second inaugural address. Referring to the nation’s promise of economic stability, Obama said that “who you love” should not impede your...

Westboro Baptist Church Prompts Huge Vassar College Fundraiser For The Trevor Project

Westboro Baptist Church Prompts Huge Vassar College Fundraiser For The Trevor Project: Vassar College in Poughkeepsie, NY is one of the most LGBT-friendly universities in the country, which is enough to prompt Westboro Baptist Church to protest there. According to the group, “doomed American academics” that “promote the fag agenda… mock the word of God.” The Vassar community is poised to counter the Phelps clan’s odious message...

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

You Can Play - The Ohio State University


BREAKING: Senate Passes Violence Against Women Act, With No Help From 22 Republican Male Senators

BREAKING: Senate Passes Violence Against Women Act, With No Help From 22 Republican Male Senators: The Violence Against Women Act reauthorization passed through the Senate on Tuesday afternoon, by a vote of 78 to 22. Of those opposing the legislation, all 22 were Republican men. Every female Senator supported the bill. Among the most notable votes against the bill were Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-KY), and Sen. Marco Rubio...

Democratic Senator Promises Employment Non-Discrimination Act ‘Will Move This Year’

Democratic Senator Promises Employment Non-Discrimination Act ‘Will Move This Year’: This morning at an event at the Center for American Progress, Sen. Tom Harkin (D-IA) promised that the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) “will move this year” in the Senate. ENDA would create national protections that prevent employers from discriminating on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity, but has languished in Congress for decades....

BREAKING: French National Assembly Approves Marriage Equality And Same-Sex Adoption

BREAKING: French National Assembly Approves Marriage Equality And Same-Sex Adoption: The French National Assembly just voted to approve both marriage equality and same-sex adoption with a vote of 329-229. This is perhaps not surprising given the support for the bill’s most essential article earlier this month. It now proceeds to the Senate, which is similarly controlled by the Socialists that took power last year. A poll...

Steve Antin

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Steve Antin played Rick in The Last American Virgin (1982).

I saw The Last American Virgin when I was in high school. It’s one of those raunchy sex exploitation films for teenagers. There’s a few good laughs, but unlike Porky’s and many of the others, LAV isn’t a light comedy. It has a rough edge to it. The main character Gary, played by Lawrence Monoson, is insecure, not exactly a social success, and he is desperate to fit in, make friends and find a girlfriend. The film has some fun with that, but real angst runs deep throughout the story. You feel Gary’s pain, and he gets his heart broken in the end, too. But before then, he and his buddies Rick and David have a few randy adventures. Rick and David are a couple of sleazy, self-centered boys who treat girls like sex objects, and Gary allows himself to be pushed around by them.

Like many teenagers, I was drawn to the film because it was about boys my age, and it dealt with sexuality in a direct, if at times brutal way. When you’re in your mid to late teens, and you’ve been having pornographic thoughts since you were 11, and you might even have some sexual experience, and all the adults in your life still talk to you like you are eight years old, and most of the movies you see and books you read are very coy about the subject of sex, it’s a great relief to see a film that doesn’t beat around the bush…so to speak. I also related to Monoson’s character Gary. He was so awkward and insecure, and what he really wanted, besides sex, was love and friendship. That’s what I wanted as well, and like the Gary in the movie, I didn’t really know how to go about getting those things.

I suspected that Monoson was gay even if his character wasn’t, and that was another reason why I was drawn to the film. There was something about his mannerisms, the way he looked, and the sound of his voice that made me think he was gay. I didn’t know for sure, and that bothered me. I wished like hell that there was some way of finding out. And I wished his character had been gay.

I thought Monoson was cute, but Antin was the one I thought was sexy. Antin’s character was very into girls, and I assumed that Antin himself was straight. My gaydar didn’t go off when I was looking at him.

Funny thing is, about fifteen years later, he played a gay man in the independent film It’s My Party (1996), and then about ten years after that, I found out that he is gay, and he had been out in Hollywood, if not to the public at large, from the start. He was even David Geffen’s boyfriend for a while.

Golly, I wish there was some way to let my teenage self know about Antin. He would have been thrilled.

 

 

 



Monday, February 11, 2013


Downton Abbey: The Coming Out Cricket Match | Out Magazine

Downton Abbey: The Coming Out Cricket Match | Out Magazine

A prayer for Obama from Kimberly Daniels

A prayer for Obama from Kimberly Daniels: "Lord, expose the work of every witch, sorcerer, spiritualist or person from the dark side operating through his cabinet members or through anyone else closely associated with him. We block the power of the influence of the Yorùbá religion and all other groups of black people who worship their ancestors, in Jesus' name. We put barriers around the United States that will bind and block the witchcraft coming from Kenya to influence our president in Jesus' name. Let the power of every dedication of his past be broken, in Jesus' name."

Light The Way To Justice





Nationwide rallies for marriage equality as U.S. Supreme Court hears Prop 8 and DOMA cases - March 25-27, 2013; more info at http://lighttojustice.org

Marriage in Obama's State of the Union


Colorado Senate Grants Final Passage Of Civil Unions

Colorado Senate Grants Final Passage Of Civil Unions: With a final vote of 21-14, the Colorado Senate has approved its third and final passage of SB 11, the civil unions bill. There was no additional debate before today’s vote. The bill proceeds to the House, where its sponsor, openly gay Rep. Mark Ferrandino (D), is now the chamber’s Speaker...

Defense Department Offers Limited Benefits To Military Same-Sex Partners

Defense Department Offers Limited Benefits To Military Same-Sex Partners: It took 17 months, but the Defense Department has finally issued guidance about benefits that can be extended to the same-sex partners of military servicemembers now that “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” no longer requires that they hide their identities. The list does not address some serious issues of concern, including health care, housing, and survivor...

Obama May Be Reconsidering Executive Order To Protect LGBT Federal Workers

Obama May Be Reconsidering Executive Order To Protect LGBT Federal Workers: Last year, LGBT groups heavily pressured President Obama to issue an executive order protecting LGBT employees of federal contractors from discrimination because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Obama had made a campaign pledge to do so in 2008, but the White House announced in April 2012 that it would not be issuing such...

Friday, February 8, 2013

11-Year-Old Ordained Minister is America's Next "Superstar Evangelist"

Read more about this insanity here.

Jeanne Manford, Late PFLAG Co-Founder, Honored by Obama

Jeanne Manford, Late PFLAG Co-Founder, Honored by Obama

10 Grammy-nominated musicians raise their voices in support of same-sex couples

10 Grammy-nominated musicians raise their voices in support of same-sex couples


Obama Nominee Would Be First Openly Gay Federal Court of Appeals Judge

Obama Nominee Would Be First Openly Gay Federal Court of Appeals Judge: Since taking office, President Obama has quadrupled the number of openly gay judges on the federal bench — although this is as much a testament to America’s long legacy of discrimination as it is to Obama’s commitment to diversity. Prior to Obama’s presidency, there was one openly gay judge with a lifetime appointment to the...

The Benefits That The Pentagon Should Extend To Same-Sex Military Spouses

The Benefits That The Pentagon Should Extend To Same-Sex Military Spouses: The Pentagon is set to announce that it will extend some partner benefits to gay and lesbian service members as early as today. While the Department of Defense is unlikely to find a way to offer full health-care coverage and more than 93 other spousal benefits granted by Congress while the Defense of Marriage Act...

BREAKING: Colorado Senate Approves Civil Unions Legislation

BREAKING: Colorado Senate Approves Civil Unions Legislation: Just now, the Colorado Senate voted 21-14 to approve Senate Bill 11, which would create civil unions for same-sex couples. This was the second of two readings, with a final vote expected on Monday. During the debate, several Republicans attempted to add various amendments that would create special religious protections for adoption agencies to discriminate...

We Hate Everything But Boys


Thursday, February 7, 2013

Humility, It's Not Just For Breakfast Anymore

Lots and lots of people were told that being gay is a sin while they were growing up, but only some spread the shit that was taught to them. It’s one thing to believe something that’s harmful because Mommy and Daddy and the preacher man said so, but it’s another to teach it to someone else.

I’ve noticed that Christians are often very forgiving of other Christians who lead people astray in the name of their religion. This seems to only feed the cycle of fake wisdom, followed by harm and more fake wisdom. I have never heard so many unsubstantiated beliefs stated as incontrovertible facts as when I’m around Christians. I personally think that it’s high time for the overwhelming majority of Christians the world over STFU and eat some humble pie. (That probably goes for those who aren’t Christian, too.) They need to stop telling people that they know things that they clearly do not know just because they have faith. Just because you think you know something does not mean that you do. People are listening, and if you lead someone over a cliff, they’re going to fall right along with you.


I will not deceive, not even myself; and with that we stand on the ground of morality.” --Friedrich Nietzsche
“I know nothing but of my own ignorance.” --Socrates

Stuffed Churros... Nude


Hamlet's Soliloquy

I’ve always found Hamlet’s soliloquy--“To be or not to be…”--to be profound and insightful. I think Hamlet states our basic predicament in a way that’s so eloquent and poetic that it strips away the cobwebs and helps us see ourselves in a more direct light. Back in my twenties when I experienced suicidal depression, I would often get out my copy of the play and read the soliloquy because it helped clarify my emotions, and that helped me manage my darker feelings. I don’t know if the character Hamlet was based on a real person. If he is, I don’t know if the real Hamlet ever said anything remotely like the character in the play. I’m aware that some have suggested that Shakespeare may not actually be the author of the plays that are attributed to him. Interesting academic questions, but I can’t see what difference to makes in regards to how Hamlet’s soliloquy has personally impacted my life. I don’t need to know for certain that the story of Hamlet is historically factual. I don’t need to know for certain that Shakespeare was the literary god many assume him to be. I don’t need everyone in the world to accept Hamlet’s soliloquy as their own personal touchstone. I don’t need for everyone in the world to appreciate it and interpret just the way I do.

Stanton: Same-Sex Marriage Is a 'Pernicious Lie of Satan' that Imperils Society and Humanity | Right Wing Watch

Stanton: Same-Sex Marriage Is a 'Pernicious Lie of Satan' that Imperils Society and Humanity | Right Wing Watch

In Wednesday night's State of the State speech, Gov. Mark Dayton made a plea for the lawmakers to legalize same-sex marriage in Minnesota.

REPLAY: Dayton Calls For Same-Sex Marriage

Ending Anti-Gay Bullying in Schools with Joel Burns


Indiana Drops Marriage Ban Referendum

Indiana Drops Marriage Ban Referendum

End homophobia in professional sports: Column by Brendon Ayanbadejo

End homophobia in professional sports: Column

Becky & Sanne: Fighting DOMA to Keep Their Family Together


Two Phelps Granddaughters Leave Westboro Baptist Church, Regret The ‘Hurt’ Their Actions Caused

Two Phelps Granddaughters Leave Westboro Baptist Church, Regret The ‘Hurt’ Their Actions Caused: Two granddaughters of Fred Phelps, the leader of the virulently anti-LGBT Westboro Baptist Church often found protesting with “God Hates Fags” signs, have left the group. Megan and Grace Phelps-Roper were among the most visible members of the group online, with active social media presences that promoted the group’s hateful message until last year. Megan...

STUDY: Coming Out Is Good For Gays’ Mental Health

STUDY: Coming Out Is Good For Gays’ Mental Health: A new study confirms that coming out is good for the mental health of gays and lesbians. In fact, owning their identities may help gays and lesbians actually fare better than their heterosexual counterparts, according to Canadian researchers: The study looked at 87 men and women of varying sexual orientations, all of whom were around...

Three Things You Should Know On National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day

Three Things You Should Know On National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day: Today marks the 13th annual National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day. Begun in 2000 by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and grassroots public health organizations, National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day was launched as part of a widespread effort to curb the rate of HIV infection among black men and women through “education, testing, involvement, and...

POLL: Majority Of Pennsylvanians Support Marriage Equality

POLL: Majority Of Pennsylvanians Support Marriage Equality: A new poll from Franklin & Marshall College has found that a majority of Pennsylvania voters — 52 percent — support allowing same-sex couples to legally marry, while only 41 percent oppose it. A Quinnipiac poll just two weeks ago found similar favorability for marriage equality, but by a much closer 47-43 split. Though Pennsylvania does not...

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Creationist Science Fair


Bromance (What's Wrong With It?)-[Official Video]


Many years ago, I was a little gay Cub Scout.


Bad News for the Right: There Already Are Gays in the Boy Scouts

Bad News for the Right: There Already Are Gays in the Boy Scouts

UT releases docs related to controversial parenting study

UT releases docs related to controversial parenting study

Floyd Corkins pleads guilty to Family Research Council shooting

Floyd Corkins pleads guilty to Family Research Council shooting

"My Boyfriend is Gay" Hailey Rowe


Today Is National Gay-Straight Alliance Day

Today Is National Gay-Straight Alliance Day: Today is National Gay-Straight Alliance Day, an opportunity to celebrate the work that GSAs are doing in middle schools, high schools, and on university campuses across the country to create safe learning environments for LGBT students. Increasing the visibility of these 3,000+  groups is essential to ensuring their efforts reach as many students as possible...

POLL: Majority Supports Allowing Gays Into Boy Scouts

POLL: Majority Supports Allowing Gays Into Boy Scouts: The Boy Scouts of America decided today to delay reconsideration of its anti-gay policy so it can gather more feedback, but a new poll from Quinnipiac provides an immediate answer to the question. According to the poll, 55 percent of American voters support the BSA dropping its policy, while 33 percent feel it should keep...

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Gay marriage supporters delighted at result of MPs' vote

Gay marriage supporters delighted at result of MPs' vote

Gay rights: Britain's changing attitudes


Gay West Point Cadet Escorts His Boyfriend To Winter Weekend Formal

Gay West Point Cadet Escorts His Boyfriend To Winter Weekend Formal


Breaking: Military to Extend Some Benefits for Gay Partners | Advocate.com

Breaking: Military to Extend Some Benefits for Gay Partners | Advocate.com

Nick Herbert HoC speech on gay marriage (05Feb13)


Mike Freer HoC speech on gay marriage (05Feb13)


Illinois Senate Committee Advances Marriage Equality

Illinois Senate Committee Advances Marriage Equality: With a vote of 9-5, the Illinois Senate Executive Committee just approved the marriage equality bill (Senate Bill 110), just as it had during the lame duck session. Senate President John Cullerton (D) hopes to have the whole chamber vote on the bill on Valentine’s Day next week. With Democratic super-majorities in both chambers, the...

Marriage Equality & the Superbowl: Feb 4 Marriage News Watch


Does Classical Music Have A Transgender Problem?

Does Classical Music Have A Transgender Problem?

Study: Straight men who watch porn are more likely to support equal marriage

Study: Straight men who watch porn are more likely to support equal marriage

Scouts for Equality delivered 1.4 million Change.org signatures calling on the Boy Scouts of America to rescind its anti-gay policy.


‘Ace Of Cakes’ Star Will Bake Wedding Cake For Lesbian Couple That Experienced Discrimination

‘Ace Of Cakes’ Star Will Bake Wedding Cake For Lesbian Couple That Experienced Discrimination: Responding to news that an Oregon baker refused to bake a wedding cake for a same-sex couple, Baltimore-based Ace of Cakes star Duff Goldman sent out an open offer to bake and transport a wedding cake for them completely free of charge. The executive chef of Charm City Cakes told the Huffington Post that it...

Super Bowl Star Brendon Ayanbadejo Speaks Out For LGBT Equality

Super Bowl Star Brendon Ayanbadejo Speaks Out For LGBT Equality: Super Bowl champion Brendon Ayanbadejo has, as promised, used the spotlight of winning the big game to speak out for marriage equality. CNN’s Don Lemon conducted an extended interview today with Ayanbadejo, who used the opportunity to not only reiterate his support for marriage equality, but to endorse the fair treatment for all members of...

British House Of Commons Advances Marriage Equality Bill

British House Of Commons Advances Marriage Equality Bill: After a long day of debate, the United Kingdon’s House of Commons voted to approve marriage equality legislation with a vote of 400-175. Today’s vote was the second reading of the bill, which means it still has committee work and a vote in the House of Lords ahead of it. Still, this is a monumental...

George Kalogridis Becomes Walt Disney World's First Openly Gay President

George Kalogridis Becomes Walt Disney World's First Openly Gay President

Saved

As many of you know, I am from West Virginia. It’s a place that is steeped in a certain kind of Christianity. Of course, just like any place across much of the United States, you will find a variety of denominations. But I would say that at least half of the Christians in the area are in the evangelical, fundamentalist, Bible-believing camp. They talk about “the Scriptures” as being “the Word of God.” They talk about being “born again.” And they have no qualms about asking you, “Have you accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal savior?” They also divide the world into two groups, those who have been “saved” and those who have not.

Rather than thinking of themselves as merely believers or converts or adherents to a particular faith or tradition, they claim to have been “saved.” Of course if you directly ask them, they will claim that their god loves everyone. But most will insist that if you don’t believe what they believe, repent of what they claim to be sin, then their god will judge you and reject you even though he supposedly loves you. But they don’t have to worry about being on their god’s shit list anymore because they have been “saved.”

Whether or not they want to accept it, this conceit allows them to think of themselves as special and more deserving than others who aren’t “in the club.” They believe they know “the truth” and that there is little to learn from anyone else. Those who are not “saved” are not favored by their god. They may like you. You might be a beloved family member, a friend, a next door neighbor, but if you are not “saved”, then, in their eyes, there is something seriously wrong with you. And often times they see it as their mission to try to get you to accept their religious beliefs so you can be “saved”, too.

During my father’s viewing, one of his longtime friends came up to me while I was standing right beside my father’s casket and asked if I believed all the “right” things and if I had been “saved.” He claimed that approaching me in this way was an act of charity on his part because my father, who had been “saved”, was going the Heaven, and he would surely want me to go there, too. The implication being that I wouldn’t be allowed to go to Heaven unless I had been “saved.”

Nearly every funeral I have attended included a sermon delivered by a preacher who warns the mourners that one day, perhaps very soon, they will die. And he tells them that they must believe certain things in order to be “saved.” They also add that it’s best to proclaim your beliefs so that loved ones will know that you have been “saved” and that they will be able to reunite with you in Heaven.


This attitude is something that I had a hard time stomaching. And it’s not simply because I’m gay. It’s more to do with the underlying arrogance. They come at you as if they already know all the important things, and if you’re not “saved”, then nothing you have to say could be of much value. And it really is that overt and belittling. It leads to division, animosity, hurt feelings, discrimination, dehumanization, and on a large scale, it can lead to persecution and even war.

I think that if there is a god, then we are all saved. Some might have more wisdom and insight than others, and this might help them accept and enjoy life, but if any one of us has worth in a cosmic and grand sense, I think we all do. And I reject the idea that people have to jump through certain hoops, claim to believe certain things before they’re worthy of being saved. If there is a god, the idea that this god will throw billions of us away at the end of time, or punish us in hell for all eternity, just because we didn’t bow and scrape in just the right way is repugnant to me.

How to Respond When Someone Comes Out!




Recent reaction from someone I went to high school with: I'm fine with you being gay, Gary, but your friends are too "blatant."  LOL

Another reaction: Gays have an image problem.  They present themselves in a way that turns off "decent people."  :P