Monday, December 31, 2012

Happy New Year!


Ella Fitzgerald Sings "What Are You Doing New Year's Eve?"


Happy New Year!


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2012 In 4 Minutes


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Same-Sex Weddings Will Begin At Midnight Tonight In Maryland

Same-Sex Weddings Will Begin At Midnight Tonight In Maryland: When the clock strikes midnight tonight, it will mark more than simply the start of a new year for some couples in Maryland — it’s also when Maryland’s new marriage equality law officially takes effect. Some same-sex weddings are already planned for the first moments of 2013. Since New Year’s Day is a government holiday...

Sunday, December 30, 2012


I didn't "walk away" from anything.

As someone who doesn’t go to church or claim to be a member of any particular denomination or religion, I find the whole idea that I’ve “walked away” from anyone’s god to be more than a little precious. I didn’t walk away from anything. I recognized truth is larger than anyone’s dogma, and I don’t want to cut myself off from what I might learn today and in the future by pretending I already know everything I need to know.

83-year-old Edith Windsor wants to live long enough to see her case win at the Supreme Court.

NY Plaintiff: Gay Benefits 'Bigger Than Marriage'

Keep Smiling


Obama urging state lawmakers to legalize gay marriage in Illinois: Sun-Times exclusive

Obama urging state lawmakers to legalize gay marriage in Illinois: Sun-Times exclusive

Friday, December 28, 2012

























MAINE: "The first five same-sex couples who arrived to get marriage certificates walk up the steps of Portland City Hall on Friday, December 28, 2012" (Via: Portland Press Herald)



Year In Review 2012: 25 Most Notable Comings Out | Advocate.com

Year In Review 2012: 25 Most Notable Comings Out | Advocate.com

AMSTERDAM – Thousands of Dutch Catholics are researching how they can leave the church in protest of its opposition to gay marriage

AMSTERDAM – Thousands of Dutch Catholics are researching how they can leave the church in protest of its opposition to gay marriage, according to the creator of a website aimed at helping them find the information.

Maine Marriages Start Tomorrow

Maine Marriages Start Tomorrow

Aunt Garnet

I used to have an Aunt Garnet. I started thinking about her earlier because something she once said popped into my mind. When I was about ten years old, she and her family--her husband, three of our four children, their spouses and her five-year-old granddaughter--came for a visit. To be honest, I always hated when they visited. The women in the family used excessive amounts of hairspray, and Aunt Garnet was the worst. She had tight, curly helmet hair that would not have moved if she had stood outside during a hurricane. And the men used that thick, greasy hair gel popular back in the ’50s. Our little house stank of their hair care products all while they were there, and for hours after they left. Hair care products and cigarette smoke because Garnet was a chain smoker. But if they were happier, nicer people, I guess I wouldn’t have minded the smell so much. Aunt Garnet was especially unpleasant. She was always angry every time she visited. She would sit in our living room and fuss, and complain and cuss. And she was always promising to swear out an arrest warrant on the latest person who had done her wrong.

During this particular visit, she decided she wanted something from her daughter Charlotte’s purse, but since Charlotte was out of the room, she simply retrieved the purse herself and started rummaging through it. Her granddaughter objected to this. Sandy said her mother didn’t like for people to go through her purse. Aunt Garnet stared at Sandy with her angry, hard eyes and said, “I’m not afraid of your mother.” She had obviously stumped Sandy with that one. You could tell that she realized that something wasn’t quite right about what her grandmother had said, but she was too young to put it together. Charlotte obviously deserved her privacy no matter if anyone feared her or not. But Aunt Garnet lived in a rough, dog eat dog kind of world, and such niceties where never even considered. She was going to make sure her family knew who was the boss of them, and if she wanted something from her daughter’s purse, she was going to get it.

Aunt Garnet became an unwed mother back in the ‘40s, and she refused to tell anyone the name of the father of her son Tommy. As far as I know, that was a secret she took to her grave. She did manage to find a man who was willing to marry her, but he never showed any affection for Tommy.

Uncle Kiefer was a coalminer, and he, Aunt Garnet and their kids lived in a decrepit little coal company house right beside the train tracks near Charleston, West Virginia. There was a chemical plant just a few miles up the road, and the horrible smell it emitted was so strange and unearthly it simply can’t be described. This smell was so pungent it actually left a sour taste in your mouth. And the coal trains left everything in Aunt Garnet’s yard covered in oily black coal dust.

Aunt Garnet would become highly upset and call up my mother, who wasn’t exactly the most stable person around, and cuss her out if she didn’t visit regularly, so every other Sunday, Garnet and company would come to our house, or we would go to hers. And if there was anything worse than having Aunt Garnet come for a visit, it was going to visit her. Dad had to park the car on the side of a busy highway, and we had to dart across traffic and hope that we wouldn’t be run over by a coal truck or a chemical tanker. Then we had to descend a very steep set of stairs with a rickety handrail. And once we were inside, Aunt Garnet would insist on proudly displaying her stash of groceries. She always had a freezer full of meat and her cabinets were filled with staples. She seemed to buy everything in bulk. And she cooked like it was Thanksgiving every day. As a result, half the people in her family were quite large. But Aunt Garnet was always skin and bones. I didn’t find out the reason for this until I was in my thirties. I was talking about Aunt Garnet with my mother one day, and I asked her if she had some kind of disease that kept her so thin, and mother explained that Aunt Garnet had been a rather large woman when she was young, so she started throwing up after her meals in order to keep her weight down. Aunt Garnet had bulimia.

As if visiting this hellish place and being around this unhappy, angry woman wasn’t bad enough, going to the bathroom at Aunt Garnet’s house was quite an ordeal in and of itself. She always had about five or six ill-behaved little dogs who barked constantly, probably because she kept them locked in her bathroom. I was always warned not to touch them when I went in there or they’d bite. So I stood terrified at the toilet and did my business as these dogs yapped at my feet. And the smell of that bathroom….dog shit and piss, hair care products, cigarettes, coal dust, and chemicals.

All of Aunt Garnet’s children are now dead. Not one lived to be sixty. Her youngest son was the first to go. He died when he was still a teenager. He was born developmentally disabled. When he was about two, Aunt Garnet followed a doctor’s advise and placed him in a long term treatment facility near the Ohio border. About twice a year, Aunt Garnet would insist that we all go with her to see Billy who never learned to talk or walk. Aunt Garnet used to rock him like he was a little baby even after he grew up. He died in her arms from a heart attack when he was about sixteen. Tommy died of testicular cancer, and Garnet’s other son Dale died of a stroke. Charlotte became addicted to tranquilizers and ended up killing herself. Then about a year later, Charlotte’s husband committed suicide by turning on the gas in his apartment. A spark caused the entire apartment building to explode. Thankfully no one else died.

Sandy became an unwed teenage mother like her grandmother. She had her son when she was about fifteen, and when he became a teenager, he started getting into trouble with the law. So the whole ugly cycle is repeating itself.

Aunt Garnet herself died of cancer about twenty years ago. I wish I could say that I miss her, but I don’t. I did love her in a way, and I felt her pain. I now know that she most likely had bipolar disorder. When she wasn’t cussing and fuming, she took to her bed and stayed there for weeks. Uncle Kiefer was still alive when I left West Virginia five years ago, but he had developed Alzheimer’s. Just the memory of these sad people is oppressive, and I’m thankful I’ll never have to be around them again.

I’m sure it was easy for many to judge them, to simply look at them and dismiss them as redneck, hillbilly trash. But I saw it all up close over a number of years, and I know that not even an entire crew of the best psychologists the world has ever produced could have unraveled the complex pathology spreading out through that family. It was the result of generations of crushing poverty, an absence of hope, little education, poor healthcare and poor nutrition and a deeply engrained belief that they were stuck at the bottom. They believed the world was a nasty and mean place and that they were born to lose.



Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Patriarchy Is Bad News For All Of Us

In my opinion, criticism of patriarchy at its best should not be an attack on men. As we all know, women can and sometimes do commit atrocities, and of course they can and often are cruel, selfish, underhanded… Even though it is usually the men who commit violent acts, women often foster and support war and bloodshed.

It is true that women have suffered the most under patriarchy. They have oft
en been precluded from leadership, denied education, discouraged from making contributions in the arts and sciences, their opinions have often been undervalued, and in a world where men have been trained to think of themselves as entitled, women have been the targets of physical and sexual abuse.

But even though it’s true that men have generally benefited from the perks of patriarchy, they, too, have been harmed by it. An untold number of men who have not been able to measure up to expectations placed on them as men have experienced scorn, ridicule, ostracism, physical and sexual abuse and even murder. And most men in patriarchal societies where people are expected to conform to rigid gender roles based on sex have had to suppress aspects of their personalities in order to avoid being seen as weak, which would be an invitation for abuse. Intimacy and authenticity are difficult in such a situation.

Patriarchal societies are extremely unsuited for LGBT people, of course. By their very nature, it is especially difficult for them to conform to rigid patriarchal gender roles.  And in a modern technological, post-industrial society, patriarchy is impractical.

When we reevaluate the structure of our society and the expectations we place on our citizens, I don’t think it’s very helpful when we allow the discussion to degenerate into a debate about who is more noble, those who have penises or those who have vaginas. We are all human, and from what I can tell, that means we’re all, to some degree, crazy as hell.

Mexico reportedly lifts gay and bisexual blood donor ban

Mexico reportedly lifts gay and bisexual blood donor ban

Another Republican Backs Repeal Of Federal Anti-Gay Marriage Law

Another Republican Backs Repeal Of Federal Anti-Gay Marriage Law: The Defense of Marriage Act, a 1996 law that remains one of the biggest obstacles to marriage equality today, has lost another supporter, this time a GOPer swept into Congress in the Tea Party wave of 2010. Rep. Richard Hanna (R-NY) announced in a statement late last week that he has signed onto the Respect...

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Holiday Confession


In May 2002, I finally managed to get a computer. It took me a while to get the hang of it because there wasn’t anyone around to explain how the thing worked. Those first couple of weeks were pretty stressful, and more than once I felt like giving up and throwing the damn thing out the window. But I eventually figured it out well enough to get me going. And by June, I had discovered chat rooms. Most of the ones I stumbled across were high volume places, and the quality of the discourse was extremely low. I mostly observed for a couple of minutes, read a few comments, and moved on. But one day, I found a link to an unusually quiet, low key place. It only had about 20 regular users, and generally no more than five were in there at any given time. And the primary purpose was chat, not sex. The men actually talked to each other about everyday events—work, dinner, movies… I started dropping in regularly, and after a few days, I began contributing to the conversations. The guys treated me with casual indifference at first. They were used to people popping in for a few minutes and then disappearing forever. But once they knew I was interested in joining their group, they gladly began treating me like one of the boys.

Back then, the internet was new to me, and I had heard some wild and crazy stories about deranged stalkers lurking in every corner patiently waiting to gather enough personal information about an unsuspecting individual in order to use it to track and then pounce. I was afraid, so I didn’t give these guys my real name, and I was vague about where I was from. I also lied about my age. I was thirty-six at the time, but I told them I was twenty-two. Of course, that lie was more about my vanity than fear, but I figured I’d never meet these guys, and I assumed that any relationship one formed on the internet would be purely superficial. I wasn’t aware that you could actually get to know someone, really get to know them, and form lasting bonds on the internet.

Well, I quickly realized my mistake when I started to became especially close to one of the men who frequented this chat room. We soon began exchanging emails and communicating via private chat and instant messages. Conner told me he was a twenty-two-year-old boy from Tennessee, a recent college graduate who had to put his dream of becoming an engineer on hold because he now had the responsibility of running a farm which had been in his family since before the Civil War. And this was, according to him, because his parents recently died. First his father from a heart attack, and then his mother from cancer. He said they died the same year, just a few months apart. And since then, he had been struggling to keep the farm afloat.

After a few weeks, I just couldn’t stand hiding behind my mask any longer, and I confessed everything. I told him my real name, exactly where I lived, and I told him I was 36, not 22. I expected a good telling off and a goodbye. I figured that’s what I deserved. But I was forgiven. I was so grateful to be forgiven.

The next several months were utterly magical. I had figured out I was gay when I was eleven, but I didn’t share this information with anyone until I went away to college years later. All through high school, I mooned over various boys I knew, and I had huge crushes on several actors, including C. Thomas Howell who played Ponyboy in the movie The Outsiders. But I kept it all inside, so high school was a lonely time for me. At first, I was ecstatic when I went to college and discovered the local gay community. I went to the gay bar nearly every weekend. But the boys I met were so afraid of being outed, and I was pretty shy and retiring myself, so the few encounters I had didn’t lead to much. I made a few friends, but I didn’t find a boyfriend. I worked at the Dean of Students Office, and there I met and fell in love with a young straight man. For a year, we were close and spent a lot of time together. It was the nearest thing to a real relationship I ever had, but we never so much as kissed, and I dared not reveal the depths of my true feelings for fear of ruining our special friendship. I believed I had the moon, so I didn’t think to ask for the stars. But he graduated, moved away, got married and became a father. My mental health deteriorated and I became withdrawn. I all but stopped meeting new people and making new friends. Then after my head surgeries when I was 31, I moved back in with my parents who were living in the little, conservative town of Fayetteville, West Virginia, at the time. So when I met Conner online, and we started to get close, I thought he was the boy I had been waiting for since I was fifteen. I thought finally, at long last, I had found my beautiful, sweet young prince.

Of course, I worried that I was too old and broken down for him. I told him about my mental health history and my surgeries. I told him I wasn’t a looker. But he told me he didn’t care. I worried that he still had some wild oats to sow. Conner came from a conservative family, and he said he never came out to his parents or anyone in town. He claimed he did have a boyfriend for a time in college, but that had been over for some time. I told him that if he wanted to, he should go to a gay bar in nearby Nashville. In fact, I encouraged him to do this. We weren’t exactly together, not yet, and I hated the idea of a twenty-two-year-old closet case orphan spending his Saturday nights alone in a big antebellum home that had seen better days. I wanted him to enjoy his youth. I figured if he met someone else, we weren’t meant to be together anyway. But Conner told me that he wasn’t interested in going to gay bars or having sex with strangers.

We talked for one or two hours every night for months, and sometimes we exchanged long emails filled with sweet attestations of love and admiration. But then the weekend before Thanksgiving, I got a rather disturbing email from Conner. He told me that there had been a death in the family, and he wouldn’t be online for a while. He also told me that there was some things about himself that I didn’t know, and that he would explain it all when he got back.

I couldn’t stand not knowing what he was talking about, and I missed him so much that I could hardly function. So I used my new internet skills to do a little snooping. Conner had told me that his farmhouse was on the Register of National Historic Places, and he told me the name of the farmhouse. I guess he was so proud of this farmhouse that he couldn’t bear to lie about it, so I was able to find it on the register, and according to it, the farm also went by the last name of its present owners. With that name in mind, I combed the obituaries of nearby communities, and I quickly found that an elderly man with that last name had recently died. He was survived by a wife and two sons, both in their fifties, one was unmarried. I was devastated. The person I thought existed, this person who seemed like a gift too good to be true, this boy I had hoped for since I was a teenager, this boy I allowed myself to believe in was in fact a phantom. I became horribly depressed, and when I was alone in my room, I cried like I had never cried before in my life. I wanted this twenty-two-year-old orphaned farm boy to be real. I allowed myself to need him. I thought he needed me. And I imagined that one day soon we’d be together.

When Conner showed up online ten days later, he confessed everything. His real name wasn’t Conner. He was named after his father, and he had went by the nickname Chip his whole life. He was fifty-three, thankfully, he was the son who was unmarried, he worked at an engineering firm—the work on the farm was handled by a hired man—and obviously he wasn’t an orphan. He had lost his father just the week before, and his mother was still very much alive. He, in fact, lived with her.

I tried to be as comforting as I could given his recent loss, but I made it clear that my feelings were all mixed up. However, I didn’t want to throw our friendship away. When I asked him why he lied, and for so long, he said he was afraid, and he told me he wanted to make believe that he hadn’t spent the last thirty years of his life alone. I could relate, and I forgave him. I went on mourning for Conner. In fact I still mourn for Conner. But I accepted Chip as a friend. I insisted that he give me his mailing address, which he did, and that Christmas, I sent him a batch of cookies that I baked myself.

It was as though we started fresh, and in time we were once again talking about one day living together. I was looking after my parents and he was looking after his mother, but there would come a time when we would be free, and we decided it would be nice to have a companion. I imagined that at some point in the future, we’d move someplace more accepting, maybe someplace in New England, get a little house and live openly as an old married couple.

This new dream lasted for two years. In the interim, my father had another heart attack, my grandfather died, and my mother died. Believing that I had something to look forward to gave me strength as I watched my family fall apart. I was no longer afraid of ending up homeless and alone.

In the fall of 2004, I went on vacation with my sister, and she took some photos of me. Since I had started dieting and walking back when I thought a twenty-two-year-old farm boy was interested in me, I had by that time lost a great deal of weight. I was proud of what I had accomplished, and I sent Chip some copies of the photos. His attitude toward me immediately changed. We continued our nightly chats, but all traces of his romantic interest in me evaporated. He stopped calling me sweetie, he no longer spoke of wanting to kiss me or hold me, and he no longer had an interest in virtual intimacy. I pressed him, but he gave excuses at first, and then around Christmas he confessed that he just wasn’t attracted to me. My heart was broken, again.

Of course, I was angry. I wanted to scream at him for hurting me so much. And I did let him know that he had let me down. But I knew you can’t make someone love you. You can’t demand that of a person. So it was what it was. And I still cared for him as a friend. I still needed him to be my friend.

We carried on for a long time. Our dream of living together as a romantic couple vanished, but it was soon replaced by the idea that maybe one day we’d be roommates. However, that idea eventually faded away, too. And then two years ago our chats became less frequent, and then he stopped communicating with me altogether. I sent him a card last Christmas, but he didn’t send one in reply. This year I didn’t bother.

My wounds are not fresh, and I am getting by. But I fear that all the setbacks, disappointments and deferred dreams of the past thirty years have robbed me of something very important: hope. I got through high school because I looked forward to college. Then in college, I hoped I’d one day have a home and someone special in my life. Then after I became disabled, I hoped I’d one day become a published writer. Then after my surgeries and I met Chip, I imagined that I’d one day live with him. I held onto the idea that no matter how bad things got today, there was always something to look forward to. But now I suspect that my best days are behind me.

I’m not bitter or angry. And I know that if I had just tried a little harder, if I just found a little more courage, things may have worked out differently for me. I can’t really blame anyone. And who knows, maybe a couple of my dreams will come true after all. I’m just no longer expecting them to come true, but maybe that’s a good thing. This is something I wanted to own up to because I’ve never really dealt with it, and it’s something that’s embarrassed me. It seems so foolish now looking back on it that I allowed myself to believe something so ephemeral, so tenuous. But I guess I’m not the only fool around, and there are worse things.

This is a picture of me taken in the fall of 2004.  I had just turned 39 a few weeks before.

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Richard Adams dies at 65; gay marriage pioneer

Richard Adams dies at 65; gay marriage pioneer

HRC 2012 -- Unprecedented Mobilization for Equality


Are LGBT Lives Worth Fighting For?

It's funny how it's okay for young people to join the military to defend their country, it's okay for home owners to defend against invasion, it's okay for parents to defend their children, but if you say you’re prepared to use deadly force if necessary to defend an LGBT person--or that you hope you’re prepared, or hope someone is prepared if necessary--you're some kind of crazy, dangerous radical.... Even many LGBT people think this way. Rather than indicating how peace loving LGBT are, I suspect this attitude indicates that many of us buy into the idea that our lives just aren’t worth defending and that those who attack us--even though we think they’re wrong and unjust--are somehow still more important than we are.

If it comes down to me or someone from my tribe and a homophobe, I'm going to go with me and my tribe. Or at least I hope I would. If I don't, then that probably means I got clipped before I had a chance to react or in that instance I proved to be a coward. Having been a coward in many ways a number of times over the years, I know that cowardice isn't noble.

Friday, December 21, 2012

Republican Congressman Supports DOMA Repeal | Advocate.com

Republican Congressman Supports DOMA Repeal | Advocate.com

The Chuck Hagel Stand-Off Ends With Apology to Gay Ambassador | Advocate.com

The Chuck Hagel Stand-Off Ends With Apology to Gay Ambassador | Advocate.com

Matt Alber - End Of The World - HD 2012


Talk about Marriage Equality this Christmas


Barney Frank On Justice Antonin Scalia

Barney Frank On Justice Antonin Scalia

Peace On Earth (David Bowie) - Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles



"On the day following the tragedies in Newtown, Connecticut, 46 students from the Creative Planet School of the Arts harmonized onstage with the Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles. This performance is dedicated to the families in Newtown and to everyone whose lives are changed forever by violence."

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Jim Reeves ~ He'll Have To Go


Mosque arsonist tells court: ‘I only know what I hear on Fox News’

Mosque arsonist tells court: ‘I only know what I hear on Fox News’

Anderson Remembers AIDS Activist Spencer Cox


NEW YORK CITY: Time Warner Donates Technology Lab To Ali Forney Center

NEW YORK CITY: Time Warner Donates Technology Lab To Ali Forney Center

Same sex marriage allowed in São Paulo, Brazil

Same sex marriage allowed in São Paulo, Brazil

Top Republican Says GOP Should ‘Deal With Reality’ And Accept Legal Marriage Equality

Top Republican Says GOP Should ‘Deal With Reality’ And Accept Legal Marriage Equality: In a stunning reversal, former House Speaker Newt Gingrich (R-GA) said this week that he thinks his party needs to “accommodate and deal with reality” and get on board with legal equality for same-sex couples. Gingrich, who pushed the unconstitutional Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) through Congress in 1996, has been one of the nation’s...

Minnesota Legislators To Push Marriage Equality In Early 2013

Minnesota Legislators To Push Marriage Equality In Early 2013: After Minnesotans solidly defeated a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage last month and voted out the state House and Senate Republican majorities who placed the proposal on the ballot, pro-LGBT state legislators plan to push a marriage equality bill in early 2013. Rep. Alice Hausman and Sen. John Marty, both Democratic Farm Labor party...

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

I want to go home, but I haven't found it yet.


Brideshead Revisited (1981)






















Back when I first saw this when I was about 16, I wanted to believe Charles and Sebastian became lovers during their summer at Brideshead.  I waited impatiently for an overt sign that their close, romantic friendship had become physical.  While locked in my room, I sat on the edge of my seat, watched my small B&W portable, and hardly breathed for fear I'd miss something.   

New Cases Of HIV Infection Are Stabilizing, But Some Groups Remain Particularly Vulnerable

New Cases Of HIV Infection Are Stabilizing, But Some Groups Remain Particularly Vulnerable: New data from the Centers for Disease Control estimates that even though the total number of Americans living with HIV steadily increased between 1980 and 2010, the rise is partly due to the fact that treatment programs are helping HIV-positive individuals live longer and healthier lives. Overall, new HIV infections have not increased, and the...

Censorship


Tea Party Nation: Train Teachers in SWAT Teams to Fight Hamas | Right Wing Watch

Tea Party Nation: Train Teachers in SWAT Teams to Fight Hamas | Right Wing Watch

Caribbean Island Saba Legalizes Same-Sex Marriage

Caribbean Island Saba Legalizes Same-Sex Marriage


Merry Christmas!


LGBT Marching Band Returns to Obama's Inaugural Parade | Advocate.com

LGBT Marching Band Returns to Obama's Inaugural Parade | Advocate.com

3 Big Differences: Boy Scouts Versus Girl Scouts | Advocate.com

3 Big Differences: Boy Scouts Versus Girl Scouts | Advocate.com

ENDA unlikely to move forward in Congress because of House Republican leadership’s opposition to the measure

Workplace Protections For LGBT Workers Remain Stalled

Ted Nugent Blames CT Shooting on 'Politically Correct Culture' | Right Wing Watch

Ted Nugent Blames CT Shooting on 'Politically Correct Culture' | Right Wing Watch

Does Size Matter? New CHEST Study on Penis Size and Condom Use

Does Size Matter? New CHEST Study on Penis Size and Condom Use

Christmas Lodge - Trailer




Well, I was expecting this to be sentimental, as most made-for-TV Christmas movies are, but I don’t mind that. If you can’t be sentimental at Christmas time… I was drawn into it because it wasn’t too syrupy in the beginning. A young professional urban woman heads to the mountains for the weekend with her boyfriend. The fact that they got separate rooms at the hotel seemed a bit unlikely, but they didn’t explain that, so I thought maybe one of them snores, or maybe one just needs some alone time to relax. They went for a walk in the woods and came upon a little girl who had twisted her ankle. They carry her back to her home which isn’t very far away. Turns out the little girl lives at Christmas Lodge, a beautiful old place that has fallen into disrepair. The young woman’s family used to stay at Christmas Lodge until the young woman’s grandmother died. Since the young woman is in the business of restoring and preserving historic buildings by securing grand money, and since her brothers and father are in the construction business, she immediately begins to dream of helping the present owner restore and reopen Christmas Lodge.

So far, so good. But then the film takes on a decidedly preachy tone, and everyone is making all kinds of bold, declarative statements about God and this Christmas Lodge. The aging grandfather makes this really tedious and annoying speech about how it is their Christian duty to save Christmas Lodge and help the present owner in his time of need. So first it was about preserving an historic building, but then they turn it into this sanctimonious, self-congratulatory effort to serve the Lord. BTW, this is definitely not a lodge for poor people. Mary would have been told to go sleep in the barn. The Christmas Lodge is for people with money to spend.

Then if that wasn’t bad enough, the young woman starts talking about hearing God and her grandmother speaking to her while at the lodge. She doesn’t say she feels closer to them, or that she thinks they’re speaking to her. She overtly states they do in fact speak to her at the lodge. That’s how she knows--for sure, without a shadow of a doubt--she’s on a mission from heaven to save the lodge.

Oh, the urban professional boyfriend is dumped early on, and the young woman develops a crush on the present owner of the lodge. He proposes to her on Christmas Eve on bended knee…but only after asking her father for permission. She’s in her 30s.

This movie reminded me of one of those encounters with a stranger who wants to sell you on his religion. At first he tries to make you believe that he is actually interested in you, and he just wants to have a friendly little chat, but the moment you let your guard down, he lowers the boom. This film may be pretty to look at, but it is a kind of Christianist hell. The well off helping the well off for their own sake and pretending they’re engaging in charity while promoting outmoded ideas about sexuality and patriarchy. It just pissed all over whatever Christmas spirit I had.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Mental Health

Like a lot of people here in the U.S. and around the world, I have been reading about what happened in Newtown last week. I’ve read a few of the comments that accompany various articles, too, and it seems there’s a great deal of anger directed toward Adam Lanza’s mother. Like many, I wonder why she kept such deadly weapons in her house. But aside from the gun control issue, it seems some are under the impression that Nancy Lanza could have done more to help her son with whatever difficulties he was having. Since very little is known about what went on with the Lanza family in the last few weeks, it’s hard to say what more Mrs. Lanza could have done--aside from not keeping all those deadly weapons around.

I’ve had mental health issues most of my life, and my mother suffered from paranoid schizophrenia. So, for what it’s worth, I wanted to share a few thoughts about mental health and the mental health care system.

If you have a mildly autistic son who has serious trouble making friends and relating to others, it’s not like you can simply call up the Son Fixit Team on the phone, explain your problem and they’ll send a crew over to straighten things out.

You might hear a lot of propaganda about how mental illness is very treatable, and in many instances it is treatable. But most of the mental health care system is geared toward helping highly functional people deal with the vagaries of everyday life. Those people usually do get better. Many of them may even get better without treatment. But then there are others…

Back in my twenties, I was in the hospital for suicidal depression a few times, and I was in a number of group therapy sessions. I can remember one session in particular that will help illustrate my point. We were all gathered together in the ward’s day room. There was about twenty of us, aside from the therapist and a nurse. The therapist asked us all in turn to give a brief statement concerning who we were and why we were in the hospital. There were a few mothers there who were experiencing depression. A couple of them were survivors of childhood abuse. A middle aged man spoke of having anger issues. He recently divorced, and he revealed his father used to beat him. There was a teenage boy just out of high school who wasn’t sure what he wanted to do with his life. His parents were pressuring him because he seemed directionless. There was a young woman who was being abused by her boyfriend. And then there was a man of about sixty who turned in his chair, got up on his knees, rocked back and forth, and stared at the wall while the rest of us shared our stories. When the therapist asked him why he was in the hospital, he simply said, “I don’t know.” There is no magic pill for people like this, no magic treatment or process.

There was a time when acutely ill people were often institutionalized for years at a time, but most long-term treatment facilities are closed. They started shutting down places like that over fifty years ago. They were scary places where patients were often abused, and when antipsychotic medications were available, most of the patients were sent home. The plan was to built community daycare centers for the seriously ill. But those centers never materialized. It’s now primarily up to loved ones to look after people with serious mental health issues. And the pills…they’re not a cure, they don’t alleviate all symptoms, and the side effects can be extremely harsh.

It should also be noted that you can’t force treatment on an adult in this country unless they have been committed. Even if the person who needs treatment is your son living in your house. If he’s over the age of 18, then he has the legal right to refuse treatment. And it is very difficult to get someone committed. Even if a patient has a long history of mental health issues, even if they’ve been diagnosed with an incurable psychiatric disorder, it’s still difficult. A judge has to declare that a person is a danger to him/herself or others before the judge will commit. The judge sees the patient for no more than a few minutes, and most can hold it together for at least that long. When a patient can’t remain calm and coherent while speaking to a judge, the patient is pretty far gone. So families with a seriously ill loved one often have to deal with the situation on their own.

Another important thing to remember is that most mentally ill people are not violent. Some have a history of violence, and when the thought process is impaired, there is always the potential of violence, but most have never been violence and never will be violent. That man in the hospital with me, the one who preferred to stare at the wall than look at us during our group therapy session, he was a very lovable man. He was crazy as hell, but lovable. My mother was committed a number of times while she was alive, and when she was in the hospital, she was placed in the locked ward for acutely ill patients. I would visit her while she was in the hospital, of course, and I was never hugged and kissed more than when I was among all those seriously ill mental patients.

So what should we do? This is a very complicated issue, and I don’t have all the answers, but for one thing, I think it should be easier for family members to put a loved one in the hospital if they need to be in the hospital, even if the loved one doesn’t want to go. Of course we need to be aware that sometimes family members can try to commit a loved one for questionable reasons. In the past when it was easier to commit someone it happened all the time. Governments have been known to abuse the commitment process to get rid of dissidents. We need to protect civil liberties. But we also have to accept the fact that some of our citizens are not capable of deciding for themselves if they need treatment, and we shouldn’t make them wait until they’re running down the street naked throwing rocks through neighbors’ windows before we decide it’s time to overrule their objection to treatment. We need better treatments. We need more research. We need community support. Maybe assisted living facilities specifically for people with mental illness. And we need greater awareness of mental illness so that there’s less stigma.

Defense Budget Advances With Watered-Down ‘License To Bully’ Provision

Defense Budget Advances With Watered-Down ‘License To Bully’ Provision: As expected, the defense budget bill has advanced out of conference with a watered-down version of Rep. Todd Akin’s (R-MO) “license to bully” amendment, which protects anti-gay servicemembers from discipline. According to the Washington Blade, the new version of the “conscience protections” clarifies that actions and speech can still be disciplined, but anti-gay beliefs themselves...

Florida Sought To Disenfranchise College Students In 2012 Election, Lawmaker Admits

Florida Sought To Disenfranchise College Students In 2012 Election, Lawmaker Admits: Election Day in Florida became a nightmare due to several changes to election law, resulting in marathon lines and more provisional ballots. Now that the election is over, Florida Republicans are beginning to admit the mess was intended to suppress votes. State Rep. Dennis Baxley (R-FL) and GOP chair of Alachua County, Stafford Jones, cooked...

Coming Out I Need Some Advice


Cheyenne Jackson - DONT WANNA KNOW [Official Music Video]


Hasbro says gender-neutral Easy-Bake Oven on the way

Hasbro says gender-neutral Easy-Bake Oven on the way

Rhode Island Senate President Will Allow Marriage Equality Vote

Rhode Island Senate President Will Allow Marriage Equality Vote: Rhode Island Senate President Teresa Paiva Weed (D) has announced that she will allow the Senate to vote on a marriage equality bill, but only after it passes in the House. Speaker Gordon Fox (D), who is openly gay, has promised to bring forth the legislation as one of his top priorities in 2013. Rhode...

Montana Supreme Court Denies Benefits To Gay Couples — For Now

Montana Supreme Court Denies Benefits To Gay Couples — For Now: Yesterday, a sharply divided Montana Supreme Court turned aside a lawsuit by several same-sex couples “complaining that they are unable to obtain protections and benefits that are available to similarly situated different-sex couples who marry under State law.” Although this is a setback for gay rights, it is not clear that this setback will be...

East Aurora School District Abandons Trans Students Again

East Aurora School District Abandons Trans Students Again: Illinois’s East Aurora School Board does not have the courage of its convictions, having once again given up on protecting transgender students. In October, the district innocuously passed a policy that would protect transgender students’ ability to identity with their authentic gender. The Illinois Family Institute, an anti-LGBT hate group, objected to the accommodations for...

Monday, December 17, 2012

How To Become A Sensuous Witch


Daniel Inouye Dead: Hawaii Senator Dies After Fight With Respiratory Complications

Daniel Inouye Dead: Hawaii Senator Dies After Fight With Respiratory Complications

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Thank you, Sen. Inouye, for supporting LGBT rights and for voting against DOMA.

Montana Supreme Court rejects equal benefits for gay couples

Montana Supreme Court rejects equal benefits for gay couples

Appeals Court Rules University Had Grounds To Fire Anti-Gay Diversity Officer

Appeals Court Rules University Had Grounds To Fire Anti-Gay Diversity Officer: Crystal Dixon was the associate vice president for human resources at the University of Toledo, until she was fired in 2008. She had written an editorial in the local paper claiming that LGBT people did not warrant the same civil rights as people of color, and the university felt her perspective violated her capacity to...

Last-Minute Legislation: December 17 Marriage News Watch


Vikings Punter Chris Kluwe Extends His Gay Activism | Advocate.com

Vikings Punter Chris Kluwe Extends His Gay Activism | Advocate.com

New Jersey Lawmakers Move to Tackle Conversion Therapy | Advocate.com

New Jersey Lawmakers Move to Tackle Conversion Therapy | Advocate.com

Auckland church billboard calls for Jesus 'to come out'

Auckland church billboard calls for Jesus 'to come out'


Run for Shelter 2012


First Same-Sex Marriage Proposal in the White House Caught on Camera

First Same-Sex Marriage Proposal in the White House Caught on Camera


Cameroon Upholds 3-Year Conviction For Man Who Loved Another Man

Cameroon Upholds 3-Year Conviction For Man Who Loved Another Man: The Court of Appeal in the African nation of Cameroon has ruled today that Jean-Claude Roger Mbede must serve out his three year sentence, having been found guilty of homosexual conduct. The incriminating evidence? Mbede texted a picture to another man of himself holding a sign that said, “I’m very much in love with you.”...



Obama assures Newtown that they are not alone in their grief.


Sunday, December 16, 2012

Scalia unqualified to be one of the deciding voices regarding marriage equality in this country

Laws are blunt instruments. They aren’t subtle, and where we draw the line, and the distinctions we make are often arbitrary. For instance, we allow people to vote at the age of 18 because we recognize that you should have a certain level of maturity and experience before being allowed to participate in the democratic process. But why specifically 18? Why not 17 or 19? Why not 17 and a half? Why not 18 and three months?

In a democratic society, those lines are under constant review. We fuss and ruminate and discuss and debate day after day and year after year. We push the lines this way and that, and we often rely on judges to make certain decisions for us. But we hope that they use wisdom, and we hope that they try to maintain some kind of objectivity. They are, in a sense, professional decision makers.

When Scalia repeatedly brings up things like murder and bestiality in relation to homosexuality, it is obvious to me that he isn’t even trying to be objective, and his comments suggest to me that he is attempting to justify his prejudices, not keep them at arm’s length for the sake of honest reflection.


The man is a homophobic bigot. He wears his hate on his sleeve. And he calls it his morality. He makes it pretty clear he doesn’t believe he has to even consider anyone else’s perspective, least of all LGBT Americans, or their friends, or loved ones or allies. In my view, he is singularly unqualified to be one of the deciding voices regarding marriage equality in this country.

MMM Ice cream.


Scalia's Gay Stance Is Unacceptable: Recusal From Supreme Court Deliberations on DOMA and California Proposition 8 Is Called For

Scalia's Gay Stance Is Unacceptable: Recusal From Supreme Court Deliberations on DOMA and California Proposition 8 Is Called For

B.C. Salvation Army Volunteer Tells Gay Rights Supporters Not To Donate

B.C. Salvation Army Volunteer Tells Gay Rights Supporters Not To Donate

PHOTOS: Thousands Rally for Marriage Equality in France | Advocate.com

PHOTOS: Thousands Rally for Marriage Equality in France | Advocate.com

Should Alan Turing Be Remembered as a Criminal? | Advocate.com

Should Alan Turing Be Remembered as a Criminal? | Advocate.com

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Charlie Crist says he now regrets backing marriage ban in Florida

Florida LGBT Activists Question Charlie Crist’s Anti-Gay Petition Regrets | Sunshine State News

I'm not interesting in fearing you or your nasty, cruel god, Mike Huckabee

Over the years I have heard a number of so-called Christians warn that their god will harm us if don’t accept their beliefs. After 9/11, Jerry Falwell claimed LGBT people, among others, were to blame for the attack because we dared to live according to our own lights rather than his which he arrogantly insisted were divinely inspired and beyond dispute. Anne Graham Lotz, Billy Graham’s daughter, warned the people of North Carolina that they had better vote for that state’s Hate On The Gays constitutional amendment or her god would hurt them. Yesterday Bryan Fischer claimed that his god allowed twenty young children to die because the school they attended didn’t teach his brand of Christianist theology. This reminds me of the film The Rapture (1991) which is about a woman who rejects God and eternity in Heaven because she has come to the realization that any god who would torture and harm people for not accepting a certain set of beliefs is not deserving of her worship. The film is a repudiation of Christianist dogma and demonstrates just how cruel and nasty the Christianist god really is. If your god would allow terrorists to fly planes into buildings and madmen to murder small children because a number of people haven’t sifted through the mystery and vagaries of life, found the Christian Bible, read it, interpreted it “correctly”, and come to believe all the supposed “right things”, then you and your god can hit the road. I don’t want to believe in a god like that. And as for Mike Huckabee’s argument that people do bad things because they have not been taught by public schools to believe his god will hold them accountable…just look at all the awful things Christians have done in the name of their religion. The idea that Christianists like Mike Huckabee are saintly and would never harm a fly because they fear their god will punish them is laughable. They merely find biblical excuses for their hate and carry out their carnage with the arrogance that their god approves of what they’re doing. Huckabee’s pursuit of a theocratic America where everyone who doesn’t agree with him will be marginalized is a case in point.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Regina Music Box Reginaphone "Silent Night" 15 inch Music Box Disc


We Follow A Star


What Are You Doing New Year's Eve? -The Head and the Heart


Music Box Dancer 2007 - Holdman Christmas Lights HQ Version





Liberace: "The most famous classic in all the world of music."  :)

"Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy" on the Glass Armonica


JJ's Christmas Carol 2012-2013 (Gay Themed) (JJprods)


The Bible Hates Homosexuality. So What?

The Bible Hates Homosexuality. So What?

Uganda Parliament Adjourns Until February

Uganda Parliament Adjourns Until February: The Ugandan Parliament has once again avoided taking action on the “Kill the Gays” Anti-Homosexuality bill, adjourning for the holidays. The bill will still be up for consideration when lawmakers return in February, but as Jim Burroway notes, enthusiasm for its passage appears to be waning, as it continues to be lowered down the “Notice...

Michigan Lawmakers Abandon Numerous ‘License To Discriminate’ Bills

Michigan Lawmakers Abandon Numerous ‘License To Discriminate’ Bills: The Republican-controlled Michigan state legislature has abandoned several anti-gay “license to discriminate” bills, opting not to hold final votes on them during the lame-duck session. Senate Bill 975 would have allowed healthcare providers to refuse any treatment to any patient if it violates their ““religious beliefs, moral convictions, or ethical principles.” House Bills 5763 and...

Matt Damon On Liberace

Matt Damon On Liberace

Ian McKellan on Coming Out


STUDY: Marriage Improves Mental Health Of Same-Sex Couples

STUDY: Marriage Improves Mental Health Of Same-Sex Couples: A new study shows that marriage significantly lowers psychological distress for people who are gay, lesbian, and bisexual. Researchers note that marriage provides the same “higher perception of social integration and support” for same-sex couples as it does opposite-sex couples. According to the study’s abstract, the benefits of legally recognizing same-sex couples were indistinguishable from...

Coach tells Minnesota Viking Chris Kluwe to cool it with the activism

Coach tells Minnesota Viking Chris Kluwe to cool it with the activism

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Aunt Jenny

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
It’s fun playing dress up, but you mostly do it alone in your room because you know from experience that most don’t understand. You especially like to wear your mom’s old coat with the fur collar, and with it on, you invent a character that is based loosely on Aunt Jenny…your mother’s sister, the one who has become a boozy old flirt. You just adore Aunt Jenny. She’s gone through four husbands, but she made sure each one left her a little money. She’s alone now, so she’s free to spend most of her time traveling. She stays in nice hotels, sleeps in, and shops or goes sightseeing in the afternoons. Then in the evenings, she sips overpriced cocktails in upscale bars. She always manages to find someone to talk to. Since she is financially secure, she has lately turned her sights on younger men. She likes to impress them by buying them expensive little trinkets. She builds up their fragile egos by telling them that they are men of quality who will surely make their mark. They invariably reward her with an abundance of gratitude. You know that Aunt Jenny has her sorrows, but she’s one of your heroes anyway, and that’s because she has lived her life on her own terms. She ignores the criticism and condescending remarks and does exactly what she wants, and she always does it with style. You want to be just a little bit like her.



Dear Moms and Dads, | A Letter to Christian Parents of glbt Youth

Dear Moms and Dads, | A Letter to Christian Parents of glbt Youth

Atlanta Mayor Comes Out For Marriage Equality | Advocate.com

Atlanta Mayor Comes Out For Marriage Equality | Advocate.com

Pelosi Statement on Secret Legal Contract Raising Cost of DOMA Legal Defense to $2 Million

Pelosi Statement on Secret Legal Contract Raising Cost of DOMA Legal Defense to $2 Million

Gay.net - STUDY: Are Straight Girls More Attracted to Gay and Bi Guys?

Gay.net - STUDY: Are Straight Girls More Attracted to Gay and Bi Guys?

Poll: Marriage Equality Support Improved 21 Points Over 8 Years

Poll: Marriage Equality Support Improved 21 Points Over 8 Years: Numerous polls have consistently shown a majority of Americans support marriage equality, but NBC polling had only found a plurality — until now. The latest results show 51 percent favor allowing same-sex marriages, while just 40 percent oppose it. This is a huge shift from 2004, when just 30 percent supported equality and 62 percent were...

Ugandan LGBT Leader Says Kill The Gays Bill Could Die Tomorrow | Advocate.com

Ugandan LGBT Leader Says Kill The Gays Bill Could Die Tomorrow | Advocate.com

Truth


Uruguay House Approves Marriage Equality | Advocate.com

Uruguay House Approves Marriage Equality | Advocate.com

Baldwin Appointed to Senate Committees Overseeing LGBT Priorities | Advocate.com

Baldwin Appointed to Senate Committees Overseeing LGBT Priorities | Advocate.com

WATCH Gay Employee Led Customers To Safety in Oregon Shooting | Advocate.com

WATCH Gay Employee Led Customers To Safety in Oregon Shooting | Advocate.com

Illinois gay marriage advocates to push for January vote

Illinois gay marriage advocates to push for January vote

The Christian Left: Do They Exist? | Dan Savage: American Savage | TakeP...


Gay Bible 'arms' worshippers against Christian haters

Gay Bible 'arms' worshippers against Christian haters

Uganda Prime Minister Seemingly Distances Government From ‘Kill The Gays’ Bill

Uganda Prime Minister Seemingly Distances Government From ‘Kill The Gays’ Bill: Despite expectations the Ugandan Parliament might imminently consider the “Kill The Gays” Anti-Homosexuality Bill, the legislation has been pushed down the agenda to a lower spot, raising questions as to whether it might even come up before the holidays. Prime Minister Amama Mbabazi has made a peculiar statement about homosexuality that seemingly softens the government’s...

POLL: Indiana Split On Marriage Equality, Opposed To Amendment

POLL: Indiana Split On Marriage Equality, Opposed To Amendment: A new survey shows that Indiana voters are split 45-45 on the issue of marriage equality, but only 38 percent support the proposed constitutional amendment banning. Despite this low support, Republican lawmakers are still planning to follow through on the amendment’s second legislative vote, which could advance it to a referendum. Civil unions have stronger...

Zero-Tolerance Policies Perpetuate A School-to-Prison Pipeline For LGBT Youth

Zero-Tolerance Policies Perpetuate A School-to-Prison Pipeline For LGBT Youth: Our guest blogger is Aisha Moodie-Mills, advisor on LGBT Policy and Racial Justice at the Center for American Progress. The U.S. Senate held a landmark hearing Wednesday on ending the nation’s school-to-prison pipeline that affirmed that gay and transgender youth also face harsher punishments in schools than other students, which disproportionately pipeline them into the...

Maine Notaries Warned Not To Discriminate Against Same-Sex Couples

Maine Notaries Warned Not To Discriminate Against Same-Sex Couples: Notaries public in Maine have the option to officiate weddings, but they’ve been warned if they do not to discriminate against same-sex couples. The Maine Secretary of State distributed an email explaining that the new marriage equality law that takes effect at the end of the month does not contain an exemption for the state’s...

Gay marriage: Draft bill launched in Scotland

Gay marriage: Draft bill launched in Scotland

Church of England: We can live with the government’s marriage reforms

Church of England: We can live with the government’s marriage reforms

University of Texas at Austin: Do a Real Misconduct Investigation of Mark Regnerus | Change.org Petition

University of Texas at Austin: Do a Real Misconduct Investigation of Mark Regnerus

Second international intersex forum demands doctors change their ways

Second international intersex forum demands doctors change their ways

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Joy Trumps Jurisprudence in Gay Marriage Case

Joy Trumps Jurisprudence in Gay Marriage Case

Edie Windsor and ACLU Challenge Defense of Marriage Act


Oregon Mall Shooting: Woman on Heroic Act by Macy's Employee at Clackamas Town Center


Don't listen to that monster.


Trans Student Allowed To Return To School Identifying As Girl

Trans Student Allowed To Return To School Identifying As Girl: The Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund has successfully resolved a claim with a school district that originally refused to let a transgender 12-year-old attend school and identify by her authentic identity. Rather than force her to wear boys’ clothes per the school’s demand, her parents opted to homeschool her instead, which lasted for several...

University of Iowa Becomes First Public University to Allow LGBT Applicants to Self-Identify

University of Iowa Becomes First Public University to Allow LGBT Applicants to Self-Identify: In another milestone for the LGBT community, the University of Iowa has announced that its admission application will now include the option to self-identify as an LGBT student. Along with the other demographics questions of ethnicity and extracurricular interests, applicants will now see an optional line asking “Do you identify with the LGBTQ community?”, and...

Watch: Gay College Student Who Confronted Scalia Calls Justice’s Comments ‘Absurd’

Watch: Gay College Student Who Confronted Scalia Calls Justice’s Comments ‘Absurd’

Next Steps for Prop. 8/DOMA Cases: Dec 11 Marriage News Watch


Larry Duncan and Randell Shepherd of Washington state applied for a marriage license last week and got married on Sunday.

Way past wonderful gets more wonderful still




Ricky Martin At United Nations: ‘If I Could Come Out Again, I Would’

Ricky Martin At United Nations: ‘If I Could Come Out Again, I Would’: Ricky Martin joined the United Nations for a forum Tuesday about LGBT human rights. Secretary General Ban Ki-Moon offered remarks on “Leadership in the Fight against Homophobia,” calling on world leaders to end the persecution, harassment, and discrimination against LGBT people. Martin spoke to his own challenges and how important it was to overcome them...

Poll: New Jerseyans Support Same-Sex Marriage

Poll: New Jerseyans Support Same-Sex Marriage: A new poll shows that New Jersey voters support the legalization of same-sex marriage, by a margin of 53 to 36. The poll, from Public Policy Polling, also shows that, “There are more Republicans (21%) who support same sex marriage than Democrats (19%) who oppose it,” and that “There’s also 54/36 favor for it among...

GOP mute as Supreme Court tackles gay marriage - Josh Gerstein - POLITICO.com

GOP mute as Supreme Court tackles gay marriage - Josh Gerstein - POLITICO.com

Toronto Marlies support gay players


Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Homosexual Sex Techniques with photo illustrations


Ian McKellen Has Been Battling Prostate Cancer

Ian McKellen Has Been Battling Prostate Cancer

BRITAIN: Same-Sex Marriage Bill Set To Be Introduced Next Year

BRITAIN: Same-Sex Marriage Bill Set To Be Introduced Next Year

Politico Poll Needlessly Skews Marriage Equality Favorability

Politico Poll Needlessly Skews Marriage Equality Favorability: A new Politico poll shows similar results as other polls in terms of the public’s support of marriage equality, but it paints an incomplete picture because of a common trap in how it asked its questions. The poll found that 40 percent of people support marriage equality and an additional 30 percent support civil...

New Jersey Lawmaker Introduces Marriage Equality Referendum

New Jersey Lawmaker Introduces Marriage Equality Referendum: New Jersey’s first openly gay legislator, Assemblyman Reed Gusciora (D), has introduced a bill that would allow New Jersey voters to approve marriage equality at the polls. Though he admits his reservations about voting on civil rights, he believes “the timing is right.” Gov. Chris Christie (R) would likely sign such a bill, because when...

Monday, December 10, 2012

The Odd, Yet Delightful History of Condoms

The Odd, Yet Delightful History of Condoms


U.N. Ambassador Commemorates International Human Rights Day

U.N. Ambassador Commemorates International Human Rights Day: Today, the United Nations observes Human Rights Day, which was first adopted in 1948. This year, the day is dedicated to the right of all people to make their voices heard in public life and political decision-making. U.N. Ambassador Susan Rice commemorated the day on behalf of the United States with a statement highlighting many...

POLL: Oregon Voters Eager To Vote For Marriage Equality

POLL: Oregon Voters Eager To Vote For Marriage Equality: A recent Public Policy Polling poll shows that Oregon voters are eager to embrace marriage equality, with 77 percent saying they should be able to vote. Should that vote occur, 54 percent would vote to legalize same-sex marriage while just 40 percent stand opposed. For voters under the age of 45, the spread widens to...

Goat Farming Gay Couple Wins Amazing Race 21 | Advocate.com

Goat Farming Gay Couple Wins Amazing Race 21 | Advocate.com

George Will on 'This Week': 'Quite Literally, the Opposition to Gay Marriage Is Dying."


Merck Foundation Suspends Support For Boy Scouts Over Anti-Gay Discrimination

Merck Foundation Suspends Support For Boy Scouts Over Anti-Gay Discrimination: The charitable foundation for pharmaceutical company Merck is the latest corporate leader to suspend financial support for the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) over the organization’s anti-gay policies. The Merck Foundation’s Brian Gill explains that BSA’s refusal to allow gay scouts does not align with the company’s nondiscrimination guidelines: The Merck Foundation believes that it...

Plaintiff Edie Windsor Hopes SCOTUS Recognizes Marriage Is A ‘Magic Word’

Plaintiff Edie Windsor Hopes SCOTUS Recognizes Marriage Is A ‘Magic Word’: On Friday, the Supreme Court announced that it would consider a case challenging the Defense of Marriage Act, a law that prevents the federal government from providing benefits to married same-sex couples. The case advancing is a suit filed by Edith “Edie” Windsor, who had to pay over $363,000 in estate taxes after her wife...

Same-Sex Weddings Begin In Washington

Same-Sex Weddings Begin In Washington: Though distribution of same-sex marriage certificates began in Washington on Thursday, the state’s three-day waiting period prevented actual weddings from taking place until Sunday. One of the first couples to marry just after midnight on Sunday morning (pictured above) was ironically married by Judge Mary Yu, who volunteered to take the late shift. Gov. Christine...

Minn. gay couple in '71 marriage case still united - New York News | NYC Breaking News

Minn. gay couple in '71 marriage case still united - New York News | NYC Breaking News

Sunday, December 9, 2012

You've got that One Thing (Gay Montage) (JJprods)


Moonrise Kingdom - Official Trailer [HD]



The sets, costumes, art direction and color schemes make this a gorgeous film to look at. It evokes a strong, picture perfect nostalgia for the mid 1960s--September, 1965 to be exact, the month and year I was born. It’s a coming of age film about two twelve-year-olds who have discovered that grownups are often full of shit and life can be harsh and unforgiving, but the consolation is they have developed the capacity for passion. They fall in love and run away together, and all the people on New Penzance Island go chasing after them. It’s funny, sweet and sometimes poignant. The only thing I didn’t like is that nearly every line in the film was delivered in a deadpan, ironic way, and that made it hard for me to emotionally invest in the characters and the story. The kitten was the only one who came across as natural. But I still liked the film, and, for reasons I won’t go into, I greatly enjoyed seeing Ed Norton in a scout uniform.
   

Worry Tempers Joy Over Gay Marriage’s Moment in Court

Worry Tempers Joy Over Gay Marriage’s Moment in Court

PHOTOS: Top Newspaper Front Pages on Same-Sex Marriage | Advocate.com

PHOTOS: Top Newspaper Front Pages on Same-Sex Marriage | Advocate.com

Killed for Not Reading Bible


Judge Mary Yu married the first same-sex couple in Washington state early this morning right after midnight.

Weddings Begin In Washington State

NEW POLLS: Majorities Support Marriage In Oregon, Illinois, New Jersey

NEW POLLS: Majorities Support Marriage In Oregon, Illinois, New Jersey

Prop 8 Goes to Supreme Court - San Francisco Responds


Saturday, December 8, 2012

Russian Prime Minister Opposes Gay Propaganda Law | Advocate.com

Russian Prime Minister Opposes Gay Propaganda Law | Advocate.com

Supreme Court to take up same-sex marriage cases

Supreme Court to take up same-sex marriage cases

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“When Thea and I met nearly 50 years ago, we never could have dreamed that the story of our life together would be before the Supreme Court as an example of why gay married couples should be treated equally, and not like second-class citizens,” Windsor said Friday in a statement issued by her lawyers.

“While Thea is no longer alive, I know how proud she would have been to see this day. The truth is, I never expected any less from my country.”

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Harvey Milk Postage Stamps


Gay marriage pressure back on Obama

Gay marriage pressure back on Obama

Charlie Crist Comes Out as a Democrat | Advocate.com

Charlie Crist Comes Out as a Democrat | Advocate.com

Friday, December 7, 2012

Prop 8 attorneys confident SCOTUS will strike down marriage ban

Prop 8 attorneys confident SCOTUS will strike down marriage ban

Fox News Op-Ed Says Women’s Nature Is To Be Dominated By Men

Fox News Op-Ed Says Women’s Nature Is To Be Dominated By Men: Fox News has published another sexist op-ed by Suzanne Venker, the author who became infamous for attacking a fictional “War on Men.” In the follow up piece, Venker argues that women are naturally men’s inferiors. The author believes the crudest of crude gender stereotypes are built into male and female brains, arguing that women “like...

Swanson and Ham: Young Earth Creationists at 'Omaha Beach in the War of the Worldviews' | Right Wing Watch

Swanson and Ham: Young Earth Creationists at 'Omaha Beach in the War of the Worldviews' | Right Wing Watch

Liberty Counsel Appeals Ruling and Calls Limits on Ex-Gay Therapy for Minors 'Child Endangerment' | Right Wing Watch

Liberty Counsel Appeals Ruling and Calls Limits on Ex-Gay Therapy for Minors 'Child Endangerment' | Right Wing Watch

BREAKING: Prop 8 Goes to Supreme Court


SCOTUS Reactions

SCOTUS Reactions

In Prop 8 case the Court added an additional question: Whether the backers of Prop. 8 have standing in the case under Article III.

In Prop 8 case the Court added an additional question: Whether the backers of Prop. 8 have standing in the case under Article III.

BREAKING: Supreme Court Will Hear DOMA And Prop 8 Cases

BREAKING: Supreme Court Will Hear DOMA And Prop 8 Cases: The Supreme Court just issued an order indicating that it will hear challenges to the unconstitutional Defense of Marriage Act and to California’s anti-gay Proposition 8. Although a date for the oral argument has not yet been set, it is likely that the Court will hear the case in March and issue an opinion in late June...