For many, monogamy is a goal. They hope to find the right person some day. For others it is a fulfilling way of life. But monogamy isn’t for everybody. And that’s true of LGBT people and straight people.
So long as you’re not out there seducing guys in order to get into their pants and then dumping them and breaking their hearts when you’re finished with them, and so long as you’re not lying to your significant other about what you’re doing, I can’t see how it’s anybody’s business.
I think the goal should be finding your path, your way. Live in the way that works best for you and don’t worry so much about living up to some imagined propriety.
People are different. I’ve known all kinds of gay men. Some were hardly interested in sex at all. Some liked to play around a little while they were looking for the right guy. Some had a lot of partners. Some went through stages…they’d have lots of partners for a while, then hardly any, then back to having lots of partners. Some were monogamous. Some were in open relationships.
Their happiness and self-fulfillment seemed to depend more on being honest and treating themselves and others with respect than leading a particular kind of life.
So long as you’re not out there seducing guys in order to get into their pants and then dumping them and breaking their hearts when you’re finished with them, and so long as you’re not lying to your significant other about what you’re doing, I can’t see how it’s anybody’s business.
I think the goal should be finding your path, your way. Live in the way that works best for you and don’t worry so much about living up to some imagined propriety.
People are different. I’ve known all kinds of gay men. Some were hardly interested in sex at all. Some liked to play around a little while they were looking for the right guy. Some had a lot of partners. Some went through stages…they’d have lots of partners for a while, then hardly any, then back to having lots of partners. Some were monogamous. Some were in open relationships.
Their happiness and self-fulfillment seemed to depend more on being honest and treating themselves and others with respect than leading a particular kind of life.
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