Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Harry Reid: Bain Investor Told Me That Mitt Romney 'Didn't Pay Any Taxes For 10 Years'

Harry Reid: Bain Investor Told Me That Mitt Romney 'Didn't Pay Any Taxes For 10 Years'

Gillian Anderson Came Out About Relationships with Women in Honor of Former Girlfriend Who Passed

Gillian Anderson Came Out About Relationships with Women in Honor of Former Girlfriend Who Passed

Michael Phelps won gold this afternoon. He is now won more medals than any individual in history.

BuzzFeed: As part of the men's 4x200 freestyle relay, Michael Phelps won gold this afternoon. That's his 19th Olympic medal — the most by any one athlete.

VIDEO: Lana Wachowski’s First Public Appearance Since Transitioning

VIDEO: Lana Wachowski’s First Public Appearance Since Transitioning: It isn’t a secret that Lana Wachowski of the sibling filmmaking team responsible for The Matrix and V for Vendetta is transgender, but she has now made her first public appearance since transitioning. Joining her brother Andy and director Tom Tykwer in a YouTube clip, the three discuss their exciting new film Cloud Atlas, due...

Bush Appointee Strikes Down DOMA, Citing Historic Discrimination Against Gays And Lesbians

Bush Appointee Strikes Down DOMA, Citing Historic Discrimination Against Gays And Lesbians: Another court has overturned the anti-gay Defense of Marriage Act, ruling that “no conceivable rational basis exists for the provision.” Judge Vanessa L. Bryant, a Second Circuit judge appointed by President George W. Bush, therefore ruled that DOMA “violates the equal protection principles incorporated in the Fifth Amendment to the United States Constitution.” The suit...

SCOTUS Gets Prop 8 Overturn Appeal

SCOTUS Gets Prop 8 Overturn Appeal

Chick-fil-A Protests Increase: July 30 Marriage News Watch

BREAKING: Judge Rules DOMA Unconstitutional in Pedersen Case | Advocate.com

BREAKING: Judge Rules DOMA Unconstitutional in Pedersen Case | Advocate.com

The Chick-fil-A Controversy Is About Religious Bullying, Not Chicken Sandwiches

The Chick-fil-A Controversy Is About Religious Bullying, Not Chicken Sandwiches: Perhaps Mike Huckabee’s scheduling of his “appreciation day” is to blame, but there is a valid reason why Chick-fil-A has continued to occupy a prominent space in the news cycle. But despite what many detractors are now trying to claim, it has nothing to do with chicken. The Washington Post’s Alexandra Petri’s mantra, “Judge the sandwich by...

Two-Thirds of Democrats Now Support Gay Marriage | Pew Forum

Two-Thirds of Democrats Now Support Gay Marriage


New civil partnerships in the UK up six percent in 2011

New civil partnerships in the UK up six percent in 2011

Target of LGBT Bullying in Ohio School Tells His Story

Monday, July 30, 2012

Homophobes are the ones who demand an explanation for homosexuality.

There are so many things in life that we accept without demanding an explanation. People generally don’t spend a lot of time inventing theories as to why they like going to the beach. They just do. And they enjoy it. It’s important to them. They look forward to it. They plan for it. They don’t pay quacks to tell them why or help them get over “unwanted”, “broken” vacation desires. But some people demand an explanation for homosexuality.

A former straight homophobic friend of mine told me about her son’s friend whom she thought might be gay. It made her terribly nervous that her son was friends with this boy. This kid spent the night at her house when he was 14, and she went into detail about a conversation she had with him late that evening when everyone else was in bed. And she apparently asked a bunch of nosy questions that were none of her business. He ended up telling her that when he was younger he and one of his cousins used to engage in sex play, and suddenly the 12-year-old cousin was turned into an evil child molester and the “abuse” this kid supposedly suffered was the “reason” he was attracted to boys.

That’s exactly how the nonsense starts. My former friend demanded a reason why this kid felt the way he did, and she got it. And she made it clear to him that the only why she was going to let him off the hook was if he played the victim. He figured that out fast.

When I read about all of this--she explained the encounter in a letter--I was horrified. She had earlier accused gay men of molesting boys in order to turn them gay, but she had revealed herself to be the molester. She wasn’t worried about that kid. She took that late night opportunity to quiz that 14-year-old boy about his most private and intimate feelings, and to plant the idea in his head that those feelings were the result of abuse of some kind, because that’s what SHE wanted. That wasn’t for him. It was for her. And who knows what kind of lasting damage she did to him that night.

Male Olympic Swimmers Cuddle in Pool After Gold Medal Win | Advocate.com

Male Olympic Swimmers Cuddle in Pool After Gold Medal Win | Advocate.com


























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So cute and adorable.

Log Cabin Republicans Leader Defends Chick-fil-A From LGBT ‘Thought Police’

Log Cabin Republicans Leader Defends Chick-fil-A From LGBT ‘Thought Police’: The Log Cabin Republicans’ R. Clarke Cooper today penned a scathing rebuke of LGBT activists and allies who have been speaking out against Chick-fil-A for its anti-gay policies. Confirming for his conservative brethren that “gay people really are the thought police,” Cooper lashes out at “Chick-fil-A haters” for being “superficial, vindictive, and juvenile”: Turning a chicken sandwich...

Eagle Scouts Rejecting Boy Scouts After Group Reaffirms Antigay Ban

Eagle Scouts Rejecting Boy Scouts After Group Reaffirms Antigay Ban

The Newsroom 1x6 "Bullies" - Will McAvoy bullies Rick Santorum's campaign Advisor

Why I Outed Anti-gay Evangelical, Jonathan Merritt - (Azariah Southworth Interview)

Liz Cheney is no friend to LGBT Americans, and neither is her father.












via JMG.


From the '80s pop band The Fixx. "God Hates Fags" sign-holders get mud thrown at them. What fun! :)

Chick-Fil-A Approval Plummets

Chick-Fil-A Approval Plummets

Another Survey Shows Counter-Intuitive Impact Of HIV Criminalization

Another Survey Shows Counter-Intuitive Impact Of HIV Criminalization: A new survey by the Sero Project found that among people with HIV, 25 percent say they know someone who won’t get tested for HIV because they’re afraid they will be prosecuted if they test positive. The survey demonstrates that laws that criminalize the nondisclosure of HIV actually adds to the virus’ stigma, with 50...

Democratic Party Approves Marriage Equality Platform Plank

Democratic Party Approves Marriage Equality Platform Plank: Yesterday, the Democratic Party platform drafting committee unanimously approved language endorsing same-sex marriage as a plank in the platform. According to a DNC staffer, the plank supports marriage equality as well as the repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act. It also includes support for the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. The decision reflects not only the...

Cheney Supported Marriage Equality In 2000, Kept Silent To Help Bush

Cheney Supported Marriage Equality In 2000, Kept Silent To Help Bush: When he was Vice President, Dick Cheney never expressly advocated for marriage equality — despite his personal support for equality, and his lesbian daughter’s relationship and eventual marriage. There were political calculations that led Cheney to keep his own support in check while VP, Cheney will explain in an interview with ABC News tonight. Because...

The Unicorn Boys

I now know that I was born a unicorn in an environment where unicorns weren’t merely unappreciated, but their existence wasn’t even acknowledged. I had the fundies on one side and the rednecks on the other. Both insisted that boys and men live inside a box known as traditional masculinity. As a result, my passions were repressed. I can remember clearly how frustrating it was when I was asked to list my interests because I couldn’t think of any. This is because I wasn’t really allowed to have official, overtly stated interests, and that’s because if I did, they would have been outside the box. At the time, I didn’t realize this and thought that perhaps I was a boring, dull person who had nothing to offer.

Eventually it dawned on me that I was interested in many things. I just didn’t know to call them interests or that a person could enrich his life by pursuing those interests. I liked movies, theater and stories. I also liked photography, art, architecture, interior design, antiques and fashion.

So I love this picture. Sure, the boys are cute and easy on the eyes, but what I like best about it is they are presented as unusual boys, as unicorn boys, boys who would be dazzled and delighted by a chandelier. I look at them and know that I was never really alone.


Sunday, July 29, 2012

Good for Chris Colfer!



Black wedding rejected at white church

2012 US Olympic Men's Gymnastics Team | Tribute

My eyes gave me away.

I ran across a picture earlier that has been on my mind.  It wasn’t a very good picture or else I would have saved it and shared it.  I looked at it for a few seconds and decided I didn’t like the colors, I didn’t like the cloths, I didn’t like the dingy, depressing little room, so I scrolled past it rather quickly.  But I did pay enough attention to what was going on in the picture for it to register and to make an impression on me.

A rather slight young man in his late teens was sitting on the floor with his back against the wall.  Another young man, this one more athletic, hunky and perhaps a bit older, was standing beside him with his back turned.  The boy standing appeared to be looking out the window, and the boy sitting on the floor was looking at his friend’s bottom.
 
The boy who was sitting had such an expression of longing on his face, and was also tinged with sadness and maybe even a bit of fear.  I immediately related to the emotions I was picking on this young man’s face.  Of course even now I find myself looking at certain young men and experiencing longing mixed with sadness.  And sometimes I’m afraid that I’ve looked too long and made myself noticeable.  But thirty years ago, the longing was powerfully intense.  I had to look at certain guys.  I had to drink in their beauty.  I had to.  But at the same time, I knew I couldn’t get caught.
 
Of course we’ve all been attracted to people who we can’t have.  But there’s something deeply frustrating about not being allowed to try to have them, for it to be catagorically forbidden for you to act on your desires always, no exceptions.  It’s humiliating when you’re not even allowed to admit to your attraction to anyone, ever.  I lived in fear of being found out.  Ostracism, relentless teasing, bullying, threats, rejection by my closest family members and friends, and even physical violence, they all seemed like very real possibilities.

I was caught looking once while in high school.  It was during summer break, and my sister and I went to the mall and watched a fashion show.  One of the boy models struck my eye, and I couldn’t stop watching him.  It was hard not to watch him since he was onstage.  The mall was not in my hometown, and I didn’t recognize the boy, so I assumed I would never see him again.  I assumed that it was safe to look at this pretty boy in his pretty new clothes.  He was, after all, part of a fashion show.  He was inviting people to look at him, and so I didn’t pass up the opportunity. 

Later, my sister and I were milling around a gift shop in the mall, and much to my surprise the boy from the fashion show came into the shop.  He was with a coupe of other boys who were also quite attractive to me.  I tried to sneak glances.  I did my best to be discreet.  But there was something about this boy that really made him stand out.  I guess I was obvious, and he noticed me looking at him.  He caught me several times.  Our eyes met several times. 

After a few minutes, my sister and I left, and I assumed that this gorgeous creature was gone for good.  But as luck would have it, he turned up at my school a few weeks later when the fall semester began.  And he hadn’t forgotten me.  Nor did he have any intentions of giving me a break.  For the next two years, he taunted me every time our paths crossed.  He was a popular boy, and he was always with friends.  Every time he saw me, he would make a point to tell his friends how he had once caught me looking at him.  They would laugh with derision, and there was often homophobic epithets hurled at me.

I had a run in with the boy in question the very last day of school before I graduated. I had to hand in a paper to my biology teacher, and I had to go into his room while he was teaching another class. While I was standing there beside the teacher’s desk, I heard someone call out my name. When I looked toward the class, I saw the boy sitting in the back. He and several of his friends were giggling and mouthing words at me. I didn’t bother trying to make out what they were saying. When I left that classroom, I thought to myself how glad I was that this bullshit was over. I never saw him again after that day.

It had all
hurt so much.  My sin had been finding this boy attractive, and he reacted to that by ridiculing me regularly for two years.  So not only could I not have what I wanted, but the object of my desires detested me.  He wanted to hurt me, over and over again, for years.  And his relentless desire to punish me inspired more aggressive bullies to target me.  I ended up being shoved in our crowded halls daily between classes by invisible hands, pushed, punched, and knocked into lockers, and a few times almost knocked to the floor.  I was called names, and I was physically threatened.  And all because I found a boy attractive on a sunny summer afternoon when I was sixteen.    

Saturday, July 28, 2012

My Saint Patrick's Day outfit.

Maxxie and Tony

Over 100 out LGBT athletes have competed in the Summer Olympics

Over 100 out LGBT athletes have competed in the Summer Olympics

There are at least 103 publicly out LGBT athletes in Summer Olympic Games history, according to Outsports’ research. This includes known intersex athletes.

An impressive 52 percent of these LGBT athletes in the Summer Olympics have won a medal, which is an astounding statistic...



Johan Kenkhuis of the Netherlands


NYC Council Speaker Christine Quinn Demands Apology From Chick-Fil-A, Calls For Closing City's Only Franchise

NYC Council Speaker Christine Quinn Demands Apology From Chick-Fil-A, Calls For Closing City's Only Franchise

Gay Olympic torch bearer kisses boyfriend for cheering crowd

Gay Olympic torch bearer kisses boyfriend for cheering crowd


Nancy Pelosi perfers KFC















via JMG

Target: We're Still Neutral On Marriage

Target: We're Still Neutral On Marriage

Matt Alber For Homeless LGBT Youth

Matt Alber For Homeless LGBT Youth

Kirk Cameron protest in front of Great Auditorium July 27,2012

Kirk Cameron protest in front of Great Auditorium July 27,2012


‘No basis in Church’s claim gays die young’ - Health - Scotsman.com

‘No basis in Church’s claim gays die young’ - Health - Scotsman.com

Writer's Block

Friday, July 27, 2012

On The Road by Jack Kerouac

This picture reminds of something Anne Rice said about how easy it is to pick up a pitchfork and join a mob, but she was interested in the point of view of the monster.

TAPLEY VS COOPER: ROUND 4

Texas State Rep: Avoid School Prayer Ban By Reading Christian Proverbs To Students

Texas State Rep: Avoid School Prayer Ban By Reading Christian Proverbs To Students: On her Facebook page last week, Texas State Rep. Debbie Riddle (R-Tomball) explained her view that schools would be acting wisely and constitutionally if they start forcing students to read Christian Proverbs: Formal prayer has been taken out of our schools. How about this idea? Read from the book of Proverbs from the Bible. Proverbs...

Sir Ivan - La La Land

Two Men Possibly Cured of HIV With Bone Marrow Transplant

Two Men Possibly Cured of HIV With Bone Marrow Transplant

Two more men from Boston seem to have been allegedly cured of HIV through bone marrow transplants according to reports coming out of the 19th annual International AIDS Conference.
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FLORIDA: Former GOP Chair Accuses Party Of "Scheming" To Suppress Black Voters

FLORIDA: Former GOP Chair Accuses Party Of "Scheming" To Suppress Black Voters

Norman Lear, born July 27, 1922 | Happy 90th Birthday, Norman!

PennDOT Refuses To Change Two Legally Married Couples Last Names On Drivers’ Licesnses

PennDOT Refuses To Change Two Legally Married Couples Last Names On Drivers’ Licesnses: Pennsylvania’s refusal to recognize the marriages of gay and lesbian couples has resulted in the Pennsylvania Department of Transportation (PennDOT) denying at least two legally married couples name changes on their drivers’ licenses. Jeannie Nally had already successfully changed her last name on her bank and Social Security card but was turned away by PennDOT...

Chick-fil-A Public Relations VP Dies of Heart Attack | Advocate.com

Chick-fil-A Public Relations VP Dies of Heart Attack | Advocate.com

Chick-fil-A Roundup: Elected Officials Back Off, A Discrimination Suit, And Colbert Dishes

Chick-fil-A Roundup: Elected Officials Back Off, A Discrimination Suit, And Colbert Dishes: The backlash against Chick-fil-A for its condemnations and campaigns against the LGBT community — including yearly giving to ex-gay organization Exodus International — continued today. (Check out video of the Human Rights Campaign’s protest in Washington DC yesterday.) As elected officials clarified to what extent they could actually limit the restaurant’s expansion in their cities, a...

Boston Mayor Backs Down On Chick-Fil-A

Boston Mayor Backs Down On Chick-Fil-A

Nebraska Hate Crime Victim Comes Forward In New Interview

Nebraska Hate Crime Victim Comes Forward In New Interview: Charlie Rogers, an openly lesbian Nebraska woman who was the victim of a disturbing recent hate crime, has spoken out about her attack to thank her supporters and derail rumors that the crime did not happen. After breaking into her home and painting vulgar anti-gay slurs on her wall, three masked men bound her with...

Amazon’s Founder Pledges $2.5 Million in Support of Same-Sex Marriage

Amazon’s Founder Pledges $2.5 Million in Support of Same-Sex Marriage

Kirk Cameron Refuses To Meet With LGBT Youth

Kirk Cameron Refuses To Meet With LGBT Youth: LGBT Youth in New Jersey invited Kirk Cameron to meet with them this week during his visit, but apparently Cameron is too busy. Even though the whole point of the meeting was so that Cameron could learn about the teens’ experiences, he responded (through spokesperson Mark Craig) by encouraging them to listen to more of...

The Gardner Family - Why Marriage Matters Maine

Maine Finalizes Wording Of Marriage Equality Referendum

Maine Finalizes Wording Of Marriage Equality Referendum: Maine Secretary of State Charlie Summers has finalized the wording for the ballot question inviting voters to vote yes for marriage equality. There was great debate over the initially proposed language, with advocates on both sides concerned the language did not fairly represent the question. Now, it seems both sides approve of the wording. Here’s...

DMV Allows Transgender Alaskans To Change Sex Identification Without Surgery

DMV Allows Transgender Alaskans To Change Sex Identification Without Surgery: Starting August 11, transgender citizens in Alaska will be able to more easily change their sex identifier on state ID cards. The Department of Motor Vehicles in Alaska will now allow residents to change the sex listed on ID cards with certification from a “licensed physician, social worker, psychologist, professional counselor, physicians assistant or certified...

Florida Lieutenant Governor Jennifer Carroll Apologizes For Homophobic Remark

Florida Lieutenant Governor Jennifer Carroll Apologizes For Homophobic Remark: Florida Lieutenant Governor and Romney surrogate Jennifer Carroll (R) is walking back a comment she made in regards to accusations that she had a sexual relationship with one of her female aides. After vehemently denying the affair, the married mother of three quipped, “Black women that look like me don’t engage in relationships like that.”...

Journal’s Internal Audit Finds Flawed Gay Parenting Study To Be ‘Bullshit’

Journal’s Internal Audit Finds Flawed Gay Parenting Study To Be ‘Bullshit’: Mark Regnerus’ flawed paper in the journal Social Science Research claiming that gay parenting harms children has been widely criticized by major medical organizations and over 200 professors across the country, while hate groups and ex-gay ministries have defended it. There are many indications that the paper was published as a political calculation, and the University of...

Dan Cathy, Christianist hate, and the stupidity of CNN's Erin Burnett and friends

Earlier this evening while eating my dinner, I turned on the Erin Burnett Show on CNN. I usually turn on CNN while eating. I don’t know why. Habit, I guess. Or maybe I’m punishing myself. Maybe CNN is like my version of a hair shirt. And Erin Burnett is especially irritating to me. She comes across as rather dim and flip.

Tonight she orchestrated a little discussion about the Chick-fil-A story, and she and her producers managed to come up with a slightly different slant. The question was do politicians have the right to tell Chick-fil-A that they can’t open up a store in their prospective towns. Never mind that no one has denied Chick-fil-A anything, and never mind that so far the only thing that’s happened is a few politicians have rattled their sabers. CNN and Burnett decided to create a segment in which Chick-fil-A was made out to be the victim.

The background information that they supplied did include a brief reference to Dan Cathy’s remarks about how his god would smite us if we were nice to the gays, but after it was mentioned, the comment and the depths of hostility which it conveyed were quickly dispensed with. It was much easier for Burnett and CNN to pretend the story was just about Dan Cathy personally opposing marriage equality, something that even President Obama did until very recently, as Jeffrey Toobin pointed out.

They simply glossed over the fact that Chick-fil-A has been giving millions to hate groups for years. And so of course they never mentioned that these hate groups spread the most vicious lies about LGBT people--they’re sick, diseased, prone to molest children, out to recruit children… They never mentioned that these hate groups support “ex-gay” and reparative therapy, even for young people and minors who are still financially dependent on their families. They never mentioned that these groups want to criminalize homosexuality. They didn’t say anything about these groups’ efforts to export their hate to Africa and other regions of the world. Burnett and her “analysts”, Jeffrey Toobin and some other smirking bobblehead, pretended that it was all cut and dry, very simple. For them, it’s all about Dan Cathy personally opposing marriage equality, something even President Obama did until very recently. (Somehow I missed hearing about how Obama warned that his god would smite us if we disagreed with him, or how he had given millions to hate groups.)

Toobin went so far as to suggest that the politicians that objected to Chick-fil-A coming to their towns didn’t have a leg to stand on given that Chick-fil-A released that statement a few days ago assuring that it didn’t discriminate. The statement was rather bland, passionless, and not very convincing, and it was released by the company to quell a growing impression that Chick-fil-A was in business to financially support hate, but the statement was good enough for Toobin who insisted that the story was all about Dan Cathy personally opposing marriage equality, something that even President Obama did until very recently.

Burnett pointed out that some companies vocally support marriage equality, like Starbucks and Goldman Sachs, and she asked what if a town wanted to ban a company that was supportive of marriage equality. She then claimed if one was okay, then so was the other. Now there’s some sophistry that will make you want to beat your head against a wall. Someone should point out to her that in the real world the two sides of this debate aren’t equal, and that ordinary mortals don’t have to throw out their convictions in order to appear “balanced.” Ordinary people are allowed to say one thing is right and the other thing is wrong.

And of course not one openly LGBT person who knows something about this story was given a chance to say anything.

Obviously, this is just one story, and it’ll most likely fade away in a few days, but the way CNN and Burnett handled this story represents a pattern. Burnett and her friends glossed over important details. They dumbed the story down. They didn’t ask for the opinions of LGBT people. And Burnett and the other two sat there and talked about it with shit eating grins on their faces, suggesting that this was all for entertainment anyway, it’s not very important, and they are far more wise than anyone else, and their opinions far more important because they’re on television.

What will it take for them to actually do some in depth reporting on LGBT issues? What will it take to convince them that the campaign to destroy us here in this country and around the world isn’t taking place for their amusement? Their ineptitude is only surpassed by their callous disregard for how these stories impact the lives of LGBT people.

 

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Chris Colfer Tops New York Times Best Sellers List | Advocate.com

Chris Colfer Tops New York Times Best Sellers List | Advocate.com

New Ad Another Example That Target Is Looking Pro-Gay These Days | Advocate.com

New Ad Another Example That Target Is Looking Pro-Gay These Days | Advocate.com

Why do we talk so much about LGBT rights? Because they are targeting us every hour, on the hour!

Why do we talk so much about LGBT rights? Because they are targeting us every hour, on the hour!

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Jeremy Hooper says that the reason we talk about LGBT rights so much is because we're being attacked daily by a number of Christianist organizations that have made hating on the gays their primary focus, and these hate groups are closely associated with the highest echelons of the Republican Party.

Florida Pastor: Gays Can't Handle the Truth

Target Releases New Same-Sex Wedding Registry Ad

Target Releases New Same-Sex Wedding Registry Ad: Target recently unveiled a new ad for their wedding registry service featuring a gay male couple holding hands and dressed to the nines. The ad proclaims “Be Yourself, Together.” Though the company came under fire for campaign donations to anti-gay marriage political groups and campaigns, Target has been a major sponsor for the Pride festivities...

Chick-fil-A Faces Nationwide Backlash For Anti-Gay Policies

Chick-fil-A Faces Nationwide Backlash For Anti-Gay Policies: The controversy over Chick-fil-A’s anti-gay policies has been sidetracked as many focus instead on the narrow question of whether political bluster by city officials condemning the company could infringe on its First Amendment rights. In the meantime, activists across the country are calling out the harm caused by the company’s anti-gay giving and its president’s condemnations...

Cancer drug flushes out lurking AIDS virus: study

Cancer drug flushes out lurking AIDS virus: study

Boston Mayor’s Letter To Chick-Fil-A CEO

via Truth Wins Out


Chick-fil-A Is Not Welcome in a Growing List of Places | Advocate.com

Chick-fil-A Is Not Welcome in a Growing List of Places | Advocate.com

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Big cities Chicago and Boston have made clear they don't want Chick-fil-A. And now college students are using online petitions to demand the chain get booted from campuses of University of Illinois, University of Kansas, Indiana University-Purdue University Indianapolis, Ball State University, College of Charleston, Wichita State University, and Minnesota State University.
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'Sister Wives' polygamous family sues Utah, claims bigamy law is unconstitutional

'Sister Wives' polygamous family sues Utah, claims bigamy law is unconstitutional

Massachusetts Court Ruling Shows Problems With Anti-Gay Defense Of Marriage Act

Massachusetts Court Ruling Shows Problems With Anti-Gay Defense Of Marriage Act: The Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court ruled today that the Commonwealth must treat civil unions as marriages. The case involved a person who had entered into a civil union in Vermont in 2003 (before that state enacted full marriage equality) and also a marriage in Massachusetts in 2005. The confusion demonstrated by this case is a...

There is no place for this type of hate in our great City of Brotherly Love and Sisterly Affection." - Philadelphia City Coucilman Jim Kenney, in a letter to Chick-Fil-A

Boston, Chicago, And Now Philadelphia

"World's largest gay nightclub" coming to Las Vegas | 80,000 squre feet

Krave Entertainment headed for downtown Las Vegas


The Divine Miss M by Frank Bruni | New York Times Opinion Page

The Divine Miss M

What I find most fascinating about Michele Bachmann — and there are many, many more where she came from — is that she presents herself as a godly woman, humbly devoted to her Christian faith. I’d like to meet that god, and I’d like to understand that Christianity.

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Most of us distinguish, rightly, between Muslim extremists and other followers of Islam. Perhaps we should start noting the difference between Christians of real compassion and those of exclusionary spite.

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Some of us have been doing that for a while now.

Horowitz: Abedin May Have Been 'Given a Special Dispensation to Marry a Jew so She can Infiltrate our Government'

Horowitz: Abedin May Have Been 'Given a Special Dispensation to Marry a Jew so She can Infiltrate our Government'

Memo To The Media And The Ambivalent: Chick-fil-A Condemns, Discriminates, And Campaigns Against LGBT People

Memo To The Media And The Ambivalent: Chick-fil-A Condemns, Discriminates, And Campaigns Against LGBT People: The latest surge of news about Chick-fil-A’s anti-gay positions provides a unique case study about how easily stories can be spun based on what information is shared and how that information is presented. Unfortunately, the mainstream press is missing much of the story, in part because conservatives are only telling the part of it they...

10-Year-Old Delivers Marriage Equality Speech To New York City Council

10-Year-Old Delivers Marriage Equality Speech To New York City Council: Fifth-grader Kameron Slade’s speech on marriage equality is surely a winner. Last month, it disqualified him from his school’s speech competition because the principal said that the content was “inappropriate.” But Kameron shared his speech with news station NY1, and hundreds of thousands of people watched it through ThinkProgress or other outlets. The following week...

British Prime Minister Prepares For Romney Visit With Marriage Equality Reception

British Prime Minister Prepares For Romney Visit With Marriage Equality Reception: Republican presidential candidate Mitt Romney arrived in Great Britain today for the Olympics and to expand his foreign policy experience with a three-country swing. Knowing he’d be meeting with Romney this morning, Prime Minister David Cameron prepared himself last night by hosting a reception for the LGBT community where he reaffirmed his support for marriage...

LGBT Youth In New Jersey Want To Meet With Kirk Cameron

LGBT Youth In New Jersey Want To Meet With Kirk Cameron: The National Organization for Marriage’s latest “non-cognitive elite,” Kirk Cameron, is heading to Ocean Grove, New Jersey to defend “biblical marriage.” Corey Bernstein, the 17-year-old co-chair of the Garden State Equality Youth Caucus, has requested that Cameron meet with him and his peers to discuss “the pain your words about being LGBT have personally caused...

Agatha Christie using her dictaphone.

Beverly Lasalle

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

I think religions are human institutions that reflect the cultures in which they were founded.

I think religions are human institutions that reflect the cultures in which they were founded. They may in some way represent the authentic spiritual experiences of its members, but I don’t think they’re an unalloyed expression of anything divine.

I think that if there is a god, that god would transcend our reality, having created it. All of this talk about what a particular god “wants” or “thinks” is anthropomorphic. If someone speaks metaphorically in those terms, I might relate to what’s being said, but if the person saying those kinds of things means them literally, then I find the comments unfathomable.

As Annie Dillard said, “Whatever we say about God is untrue, for we can only know creaturely attributes, which do not apply to God.”

Romney Adviser Says Obama Doesn’t ‘Fully Appreciate’ Our ‘Anglo-Saxon Heritage’

Romney Adviser Says Obama Doesn’t ‘Fully Appreciate’ Our ‘Anglo-Saxon Heritage’: An adviser to Mitt Romney told a London paper that Obama has not been an effective partner for Britain because he doesn’t “fully appreciate” America’s “Anglo-Saxon heritage.” The racially tinged comments come hours before Romney lands in London for a series of high level meetings and the opening of the Olympic Games. Jon Swaine of...

Rep. Trent Franks Echoes Frank Gaffney Word for Word while Defending Anti-Muslim Witch Hunt

Rep. Trent Franks Echoes Frank Gaffney Word for Word while Defending Anti-Muslim Witch Hunt

The New York Times: Give Sally Ride her due place in LGBT history

The New York Times: Give Sally Ride her due place in LGBT history

...It became known that American hero Sally Ride, who passed away this week, had been in a relationship with a woman for more than a quarter-century. Her sister has said plainly in interviews that her family wants part of Dr. Ride's enduring legacy to be as a hero to the LGBT community - a member of the community that they "didn't know they had."

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Sally Ride sparks posthumous debate on coming out

Sally Ride sparks posthumous debate on coming out

Pioneering astronaut Sally Ride, who relished privacy as much as she did adventure, chose an appropriately discreet manner of coming out. At the end of an obituary that she co-wrote with her partner, Tam O'Shaughnessy, they disclosed to the world their relationship of 27 years.

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Sister of Sally Ride Talks Antigay Discrimination With Cenk Uygur | Advocate.com

Sister of Sally Ride Talks Antigay Discrimination With Cenk Uygur | Advocate.com

San Diego Pride Fires Back At GOP

San Diego Pride Fires Back At GOP

Mitt Gets Worse: Anthony Rapp

Mitt Gets Worse: Danny O'Donnell

Glee Actor Tweets Displeasure With Chick fil A While Others Cook Up Protests | Advocate.com

Glee Actor Tweets Displeasure With Chick fil A While Others Cook Up Protests | Advocate.com

Huma Abedin Conspiracies Get Weirder

Huma Abedin Conspiracies Get Weirder

On The Female Condom for gay men

On The Female Condom

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‘Strange,’ ‘unnatural,’ even ‘squishy’ sounding – these are just a few of the comments overheard in discussions around female condoms. Yet, listen to those who have actually used them and the conversation changes: ‘thinner,’ ‘more pleasurable’ and ‘life saving’ are the descriptors used. Female condoms are even touted by gay men as providing a more “gratifying” alternative to the male condom. So why haven’t we heard more about female condoms?

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Alderman to Chick-fil-A: No deal

Alderman to Chick-fil-A: No deal

A Chicago alderman wants to kill Chick-fil-A's plans to build a restaurant in his increasingly trendy Northwest Side ward because the fast-food chain's top executive vocally opposes gay marriage.
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Elton John tells Aids conference 'I should be dead'

OKC Man Injured In Fiery Attack That May Be Hate Crime - News9.com - Oklahoma City, OK - News, Weather, Video and Sports |

OKC Man Injured In Fiery Attack That May Be Hate Crime - News9.com - Oklahoma City, OK - News, Weather, Video and Sports |

Scottish Government Will Introduce Gay Marriage

Scottish Government Will Introduce Gay Marriage: After a government consultation which produced a record 77,508 responses, ministers in the Scottish government confirmed they would bring forward a bill in Parliament on same-sex marriage, making Scotland the first part of the UK to move towards marriage equality. According to Scotland’s deputy first minister Nicola Sturgeon, the government is “committed to a Scotland...

Aunt Phyllis Sets The Record Straight by Gary Cottle

I think a lot of gay boys dream of having an Auntie Mame, someone who is more sophisticated and worldly than their parents and willing to show them things they never dreamed existed. But if you were a gay boy from the south who came of age in the ‘80s and you had a fundamentalist minister for a father, what you really needed was an Auntie Phyllis. Luckily, I had one of those. I was never really close to my Aunt Phyllis when I was a child. She only came around occasionally, and she seemed to make my parents nervous. Aunt Phyllis was almost twenty years older than my mother, she wasn’t big on church talk, and she was often pretty blunt. I was a little scared of her, but she turned out to be my fiercest ally.

When I was fifteen, I invited this kid home from school. I had been secretly crushing on him for about a year, so when the opportunity to help him study for a calculus exam came up, I took it. I didn’t plan on doing anything but help him study, and I certainly never dreamed he had any feelings for me, but when we were alone in my room, there was this moment when we started looking at each other with soulful eyes. Before I could even think about what was happening, we were kissing. And I mean right on the mouth. I was shocked and terrified, but I was also thrilled. It was wonderful to be kissing him. That was more than I ever hoped for.

But the best moment in my life was quickly followed by the worst. My mother, who usually respected my privacy--I was a very good kid who never gave her any reason not to--must have sensed that something was going on between me and my friend, so she barged into my room just in time to see me, her first born son, the one who was expected to take over my father’s ministry some day, lip locked with another boy.

She didn’t say anything right then. She just looked at me with horror and disgust and quietly shut the door. That’s how I knew I was in serious trouble. My friend freaked out and left immediately, leaving me alone in my room. I was too frightened to even peek out the door, so I just sat there for two hours. When it was dinner time, I got up the nerve to face whatever it was that was coming my way. I left the sanctuary of my room and made my way to the table. That’s when I discovered that my place had not been set. My father didn’t look at me when I walked into the room. He remained seated at the head of the table. My mother, who was arranging bowls of food on the table, didn’t look up. My brothers and sisters didn’t look up. Finally my father told me to return to my room and that he would talk to me later. Oh, shit!

It was dark by the time my father paid his visit. He still wouldn’t look at me. He just sat down on the edge of my bed and told me what a disappointment I was. He said I had sinned against the Lord and invited the Devil into my heart. Dad went on to say that he would consult some of his colleagues about an exorcism, and he warned if that didn’t work, he would have to ask me to leave his house.

The next Saturday, I was left alone. An old man from our church had died, and Mom and Dad went to comfort his family. I don’t remember exactly what my brothers and sisters were doing, but they were out. I appreciated the time to myself. But then the doorbell rang. It was my Aunt Phyllis.

I was surprised to see her, and the first thing I told her was that my parents weren’t home. If Aunt Phyllis thought this was rude, she didn’t say so. Instead, she walked on in like she owned the place and said, “Good. I came to see you.” She then went into the living room, plopped down in one of the chairs, lit a cigarette and told me to have a seat.

“I understand that there was a bit of drama over here a couple of days ago, and that suddenly I’m not the only black sheep in the family. Well, kid, I’m here to tell you a few things about your family. You’re old enough now to know, and considering what happened, you need to know. What I’m about to say might turn things upside down for you. You may not be able to look at some of the members of this family in quite the same way again. But believe me when I tell you, I don’t mean to break your heart. It’s just that your parents have the Jesus bug so far up their asses it ain’t funny, and you need to know the truth before they smother you with their holiness. I know you love them. I love them, too. But they’re not nearly as perfect as they like to pretend, and they don’t come from perfect people either.”

For the next half hour, I sat there in stunned silence as Aunt Phyllis explained a few things to me. She told me that my Great Uncle George was never in a sanatorium. He never had tuberculosis at all. That was just a story that had been passed down because no one wanted to admit that he had been sent to the state penitentiary for armed robbery. My grandmother--Mom’s and Aunt Phyllis’s mother--got herself hooked on sleeping pills and ended up killing herself with them when I was still a toddler. Uncle Tommy, Mom’s and Aunt Phyllis’s brother, used to abuse my Cousin Tammy when she was a teenager, and no one knew for sure if the daughter she had when she was seventeen belonged to her high school boyfriend or Uncle Tommy.

I thought I would pass out, but Aunt Phyllis assured me that what she had revealed was only the highlights. And she said that my father’s family wasn’t exactly the most pious people around either. She said that my great grandfather supported his family by selling bootleg whiskey, and word had it that he had a few girls working for him, too. My grandfather was, in Aunt Phyllis’s words, a no account drunk who died from cirrhosis of the liver when my father was still a boy.

“There was still enough left from the whiskey money for your grandmother to support your daddy and his brothers. She even had enough to leave your daddy a significant legacy. The home you live in and your daddy’s church was paid for with money that came from running booze and whores.”

Aunt Phyllis saved the best for last. She told me that my mother was “wild” when she was a teenager and got herself “knocked up” when she was sixteen, and rather than tell anyone, she secretly had an abortion. Aunt Phyllis drove her to the doctor herself. And when I was five years old, my mother almost left my father because he was caught cheating on her with the church secretary.

“They used church money to shut that woman up and get her out of town.”

She went on to say that I shouldn’t think I was the only one of my kind in the family. She told me that her sister Helen wasn’t really an old maid at all. She had been living with a woman for the past thirty years. And Aunt Phyllis informed me that her own son had “went for men.”

“I know I’ve told you a lot. I wanted to knock a few people around here off their high horses. But I’m not trying to make myself out to be no saint. I don’t know what you are and what my Charlie was is a sin or not. I ain’t no preacher. But I know in my heart that the way I treated my Charlie when I found out about him was a sin. It wasn’t my place to judge him. Nevertheless, I wasn’t a mother to him the last year of his life.” For the first time, Aunt Phyllis’s voice cracked as she admitted, “I was a bitch. He disgusted me, and let him know it at every turn, and finally he couldn’t take no more and hung himself in that old maple tree in our backyard.”

Aunt Phyllis cried at this point, but my head was spinning and I was lost in all the things she had said, so I didn’t react. I just sat there. After a moment, Aunt Phyllis pulled herself together and continued. She said she regretted the way she had treated her Charlie. She said she was foolish to act the way she did. And she said she would have to live with the fact that she drove her own son to kill himself for the rest of her life. Then she paused. I thought she was going to cry again, but she didn’t.

“Well, I need to get going. I just wanted you to know these things. I know I’m not taken very seriously around here, but I know where the bodies are buried, so I have some influence. It seems the angels have seen fit to give me a second chance to do the right thing, and I’m not going to miss it. You can rest assured that you’re safe. I can’t make your parents accept who you are, but I can see to it that there won’t be any exorcisms, and they won’t dare throw you out of here until you’re ready to leave. And if they give you too much grief, you come to me.”

That conversation took place thirty years ago. In time, Aunt Phyllis and I become close friends. I lived with her the last year I was in high school. And I stayed with her off and on throughout my twenties. I was there by her side when she died of lung cancer. She told me that I had become like a son to her.

My father left the ministry and became a real estate agent. He and my mother separated for a while, but they got back together. Eventually their religious beliefs softened. My husband and I visit them a couple of times a year.

Photographer and subject unknown
Fictional short story by Gary Cottle




Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Oh, no!

Dear homophobes...

Thank you Jim Henson's Muppets

Timothy Ray Brown to Sanjay Gupta: HIV completely gone

Timothy Ray Brown to Sanjay Gupta: HIV completely gone

Fischer: 'Big Gay' Wants 'To Go Ahmadinejad on Chick-fil-A'

Scarborough: Colorado Shooting occurred because God's 'Hedge of Protection is Lowered'

Scarborough: Colorado Shooting occurred because God's 'Hedge of Protection is Lowered'

Tony Blair Supports Marriage Equality in New Interview | Advocate.com

Tony Blair Supports Marriage Equality in New Interview | Advocate.com

SheWired - Sally Ride's Survived By Her Partner Tam O'Shaughnessy, an Accomplished Woman in Her Own Right

SheWired - Sally Ride's Survived By Her Partner Tam O'Shaughnessy, an Accomplished Woman in Her Own Right

AIDS Conference Reminds That MSM Blood Donation Ban Is Antiquated

AIDS Conference Reminds That MSM Blood Donation Ban Is Antiquated: Our guest blogger is Andrew Cray, health policy consultant for LGBT Progress. This week, the return of the International AIDS Conference to the United States is bringing a renewed focus on the HIV epidemic and the rights of populations that have been most impacted by HIV and AIDS. Policies upholding unfair prejudice against these populations...

MAP: HIV/AIDS Cases Concentrated In Southeast United States

MAP: HIV/AIDS Cases Concentrated In Southeast United States: When the HIV epidemic began in the U.S. in 1981, the cases appeared mainly in major coastal cities, like New York and San Francisco, among gay and bisexual men and injecting drug users. And interactive maps showing current HIV cases from AIDSvu at Emory University shows the geographic path of how the disease expanded through...

Secretary Clinton Delivers Remarks at the 2012 International AIDS Conference

Tell Chick-Fil-A to "Cluck Off"

Gay DC Couple Bashed In Hate Crime

Gay DC Couple Bashed In Hate Crime

Chick-fil-A Banned in Boston: July 23 Marriage News Watch

Sally Ride's female partner of 27 years denied federal benefits
























via JMG

That guy who said we should eat at Chick-fil-A and stop being so intolerant of Christianist hate...totally gay according to Azariah Southworth.

Gay Evangelical Azariah Southworth Outs Atlantic Columnist Jonathan Merritt

A debate between homophobic Christianist and psychopath Scott Lively and the head of Sexual Minorities Uganda

What if Sen Jim DeMint said Jews should not teach in public schools

Jon Stewart: Boy Scouts And Chick-fil-A Are ‘Holdouts’ Against Equality

Jon Stewart: Boy Scouts And Chick-fil-A Are ‘Holdouts’ Against Equality: Last night, Jon Stewart dedicated an entire segment of The Daily Show to two groups who have been attacking the LGBT community over the past week: the Boy Scouts of America and Chick-fil-A. Stewart said, “I don’t want to minimize the concerns of the Boy Scouts, but you’re already the gayest organization in America.” As...

Anti-Gay Extremists Call For Illinois Judge To Recuse Herself Because She’s Gay

Anti-Gay Extremists Call For Illinois Judge To Recuse Herself Because She’s Gay: Some of the Right’s most extreme anti-gay voices are up in arms this week because the judge set to hear the challenge to Illinois’ ban on same-sex marriage is gay herself. Judge Sophia Hall was a charter member of the Alliance of Illinois Judges, a group committed to “promoting and encourage respect and unbiased treatment...

Monday, July 23, 2012

Losing my religion?

Some have said that they’re sorry that I was “robbed of my faith” by people who tried to foist a fundamentalist doctrine on me when I was young. I appreciate the sympathy, but I don’t feel like anyone robbed me of my faith. This sentiment seems ethnocentric to me and based on the idea that we are naturally drawn to Christianity unless something gets in the way. Since billions of people in the world are not Christian, and since human history stretches back thousands and thousands of years before the advent of Christianity, I just don’t think that human beings are Christian by default. Christianity is simply the religion that is most common in our society, but there are more things in heaven and on earth than are found in Western Civilization. Also, who said I don’t have faith? Just because I express doubt and refrain from dropping the name of Jesus into conversations on a regular basis doesn’t mean I don’t have my own beliefs. I have my own way of looking at religion and spirituality, but even though I have certain feelings, hopes and dreams, I don’t talk about those things as if they’re facts. For me life is a mystery, and it’s important to me that I regularly remind myself of the deference between what I believe and what I know.

The circumstances in which I was raised helped me become a critical thinker. I couldn’t trust the adults around me to explain the world to me. Much of what I was told seemed off in one way or another, so I learned to silently question what I was told, take things with a grain of salt.

If I was robbed of anything, it was a sense acceptance and safety. It seemed like the people around me weren’t really interested in me. They simply demanded and expected me to conform. And I felt like I was in danger of being rejected, thrown out, tossed away, even physically abused if I was too demonstrative of just how different I was.

If I were to relive my childhood, I would want to have more friends and more adults in my life who would express to me that they appreciate me, adults who would regularly encourage me to be myself. That’s what I feel like I missed.

Jake

Heath Ledger photographed by Dan Winters in 2001

First American Woman in Space Sally Ride Leaves Behind Partner | Advocate.com

First American Woman in Space Sally Ride Leaves Behind Partner | Advocate.com

Sally Ride, the first American woman in space, passed away at the age of 61, leaving behind her longtime female partner.

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U.S. Officials Announce New Partnerships, Funding To Fight HIV/AIDS At International Conference

U.S. Officials Announce New Partnerships, Funding To Fight HIV/AIDS At International Conference: To kick off the 19th International AIDS Conference — meeting in the U.S. for the first time since 1990 — two U.S. officials announced new domestic initiatives and additional funding for international HIV/AIDS programs. During her remarks on Sunday, the conference’s first night, Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebelius laid out four new public-private...

Bachmann Backers Play Victim Card in Wake of Backlash

Bachmann Backers Play Victim Card in Wake of Backlash

Former Republican Leader Bill Frist Rebukes Bryan Fischer’s AIDS Denialism

Former Republican Leader Bill Frist Rebukes Bryan Fischer’s AIDS Denialism: ...Former Senate Majority Leader Bill Frist (R-TN), a physician who has supported programs to fight AIDS in Africa, offered ThinkProgress this simple rebuttal to Fischer’s recent comments: “The AIDS virus has been definitively shown to be caused by HIV. This is not an opinion, it’s a fact.”

NOM Abandons Month-Old ‘Neutrality’ Talking Point To Defend Chick-fil-A With Mike Huckabee

NOM Abandons Month-Old ‘Neutrality’ Talking Point To Defend Chick-fil-A With Mike Huckabee: Just a month ago, the National Organization for Marriage was calling for “corporate neutrality,” arguing that companies like Starbucks and General Mills — both of which it has unsuccessfully tried to “dump” — should just stay quiet on the issue of marriage equality. But to defend Chick-fil-A, NOM has already abandoned this talking point and is...

National Same Sex Kiss Day At Chick-fil-A

National Same Sex Kiss Day At Chick-fil-A

Friday, Aug. 3, 2012


In Defense of Eating at Chick-fil-A by Jonathan Merritt

Jonathan Merritt: "I'd argue the latter -- and this has nothing to do with my views on gay marriage. It's because Chick-fil-A is a laudable organization on balance, and because I refuse to contribute to the ineffective boycott culture that's springing up across America."

I don't think Merritt gets it.  I don't owe Chick-fil-A anything.  No one does.  Why should I, or anyone, give them their business when the company is giving money to hate groups--hate groups that do more than merely oppose marriage equality by the way--while the head of the company tells people they should discriminate against people like me or his god will punish them?  Why would I and other LGBT people and those who support us even feel welcome at a Chick-fil-A restaurant?  Boycotting them may or may not be effective in stopping their hate, but that's not the point. 

Greg Stier: I kind of go back to Adam and Eve and blame Adam for taking a bite of that fruit and poisoning humanity with the capacity for horrific sins.

Colorado's Batman Shooting Happened Because Adam Took A Bite Of That Apple

Cantor Urges Tolerance On Gays, Muslims

Cantor Urges Tolerance On Gays, Muslims

Major League Soccer Drops Partnership With Boy Scouts

Major League Soccer Drops Partnership With Boy Scouts: America’s top men’s professional soccer league has ended its short-lived partnership with the Boy Scouts of America. Major League Soccer did not provide a specific reason for ending its partnership with the organization, but its official announcement that it would not renew the deal after it expired later this year came just two days after...

Straight Eagle Scout Returns Badge in Protest of Boy Scouts' Anti-Gay Policies | Towleroad

Straight Eagle Scout Returns Badge in Protest of Boy Scouts' Anti-Gay Policies


The 14 Openly Gay Athletes Of The 2012 Olympics

The 14 Openly Gay Athletes Of The 2012 Olympics


Soldiers March In Uniform At San Diego Pride Parade

Soldiers March In Uniform At San Diego Pride Parade: On Saturday in San Diego, active-duty soldiers marched in uniform for the first time at an LGBT pride parade. The military contingent was the crowd favorite, attracting the loudest cheers and most picture requests from the 200,000 attendees. In the weeks preceding the parade, military members were unsure if their respective branch of services would...

Muppets Abandon Chick-fil-A Because Of Its Anti-Gay Policies

Muppets Abandon Chick-fil-A Because Of Its Anti-Gay Policies: Gonzo doesn’t have to worry about Camilla and his other chickens anymore, because the Muppets are officially going to be eating less chicken. In a Facebook note posted Friday evening, The Jim Henson Company, which currently offers toys in Chick-fil-A kids’ meals, announced that will no longer partner with the fast food chain on any...

POLLS: Washington And Minnesota Face Contentious Marriage Votes

POLLS: Washington And Minnesota Face Contentious Marriage Votes: Two new SurveyUSA polls show contentious fights yet ahead on the issue of same-sex marriage in Washington and Minnesota, but the numbers may be outliers. In Minnesota, for example, SurveyUSA has the anti-gay amendment passing with 52 percent of the vote, even though a Public Policy Polling poll found it losing 49-43 just last month...

STUDY: Condom Use Habits Among Gay Couples Vary By Race

STUDY: Condom Use Habits Among Gay Couples Vary By Race: A new study shows that gay couples tend to take different approaches to using condoms depending on their race. Among black gay men, who face the highest risk of HIV infection, rarely discuss using protection, but tend to use it by default (it was “just understood”) regardless of either partner’s status. White couples, on the...

Gaming Company Says DOMA is Bad for Businesses | Advocate.com

Gaming Company Says DOMA is Bad for Businesses | Advocate.com

AIDS 2012- Turning the Tide

Facebook message from The Jim henson Company regarding Chick-fil-A

Facebook message from The Jim henson Company: The Jim Henson Company has celebrated and embraced diversity and inclusiveness for over fifty years and we have notified Chick-Fil-A that we do not wish to partner with them on any future endeavors. Lisa Henson, our CEO is personally a strong supporter of gay marriage and has directed us to donate the payment we received from Chick-Fil-A to GLAAD. 

Sunday, July 22, 2012

So nice of you to threaten me while I drive by.  Your "welcome" sign really makes me want to stop and join your religion.  :P

Denver Cake Shop Refuses to Make Gay Couple's Wedding Cake | Advocate.com

Denver Cake Shop Refuses to Make Gay Couple's Wedding Cake | Advocate.com

As Gays Serve Openly, Few Problems for Chaplains | Military.com

As Gays Serve Openly, Few Problems for Chaplains | Military.com

New Poll Looks Bad for Gay Marriage in Washington

New Poll Looks Bad for Gay Marriage

Liam's Hero

This is an old photo of Liam and Jacob. It was probably taken more than twenty years ago, back when men like them had hope for the future. It seemed like it was only a matter of time before they could get married and live openly without fear. But the economic collapse, followed by an energy crisis and a steady increase in the frequency of extreme weather caused the American people to become desperate. They began voting for leaders who projected images of strength and certainty, and over the years rights that once were taken for granted crumbled and died.

It was in the early days of the transition that the people lost the right to have consensual sex, and it wasn’t long before homosexual relations were once again illegal in every state. Anyone who wasn’t heterosexual was treated like a diseased criminal.


Liam and Jacob moved to a new city. They had to get away from anyone who knew they were a couple. However, they continued to live as roommates. Since many couldn’t afford to raise a family or buy a home, it seemed reasonable that two adult men would live together in order to share expenses. Liam and Jacob were thankful that they could stay together at least.

But then one day, Liam was arrested while at work. One of his coworkers had been caught soliciting another man in a restroom, and in an attempt to secure leniency, he ratted out fellow gay men. It just so happened that this coworker and Liam had a brief encounter before Liam met Jacob. Liam did not remember the coworker, and the coworker never revealed to him that they had met before, but the scared man did give the authorities Liam’s name.

Jacob was also questioned, but he pretended he had no idea that his roommate was interested in men, so Jacob was not sent to one of the camps. About a year later, Jacob heard that Liam had died.

Jacob sank into despair. He considered taking his own life. He missed Liam, and he felt guilty because he lied about the nature of their relationship when Liam was arrested. He felt like he had betrayed Liam.

One day he went to the park, and he succumbed to the temptation to go into the men’s room with the intention of finding a man who wanted to have sex. Jacob knew the dangers, and in part that’s why he did it. He secretly wished to get caught and dragged off to one of the camps.

But Jacob wasn’t caught. Instead he met a man who was part of the growing resistance movement. The man asked Jacob to join him. After some consideration, Jacob agreed to become part of the resistance. It would give him something to live for.

It turns out that Liam was still alive, and he was unexpectedly allowed to return home. He had been blinded while being tortured, and a bureaucrat took pity on him and signed his release papers even though technically he wasn’t eligible for parole. The man who volunteered to lead Liam back to the apartment was actually part of the resistance, and he informed Liam that Jacob was scheduled to leave the very next day.

Jacob was shocked to discover Liam in the apartment when he got off work. Liam explained to him what happened, and they made love for the first time in five years. Jacob decided he couldn’t leave Liam, so he never told him anything about the resistance. Jacob went to bed that night thinking he was going to spend the rest of his life with Liam.

But the next morning, Liam informed Jacob that he was going to live with a beloved aunt who would gladly support him and look after him. Jacob objected, but Liam informed him that he had important work to do. He reminded Jacob that most in the country had forgotten what it was like to be free. And he asked Jacob to think of the kids out there like them, kids who were growing up without hope, kids who were afraid others would find out the truth about them.

“You have to do it for them, Jacob,” said Liam. “We were together for over twenty years, and by some miracle, we were given one more night together. So let’s not be selfish. You know it would only be a matter of time before the police came for us. And it would be for the both of us this time, not just me. We may have been able to pretend that we were roommates back when I could see and earn an income, but now I’m a convicted pervert, and they’re going to know the only reason another man would take care of me is because he’s a pervert, too. So go, Jacob. Try to regain some of what we lost. And if our lives together can’t be salvaged, try to give the young ones a chance at happiness. You have been my love since the moment I laid eyes on you, but if you do this, you’ll be my hero, too.”

Jacob sat there in silence for a long moment. He somehow managed to let go of the dream of growing old with Liam for the second time. Finally he kissed Liam, passionately at first, and then more gently. Then he left his blind lover sitting there on the edge of their bed and marched off to war.

Photographer and subjects unknown
Fictional story by Gary Cottle 

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Stop using Jesus as an excuse for being a narrow minded bigot!

Why Gays Should Be Howling for ‘Teen Wolf’

Why Gays Should Be Howling for ‘Teen Wolf’


San Diego Pride, 2012 ...with soldiers and sailors in uniform.

Pride parade caps big year for LGBT community


They're looking at nudie pictures of themselves, I'm sure.

Out Singer Frank Ocean Tops R&B Chart

Out Singer Frank Ocean Tops R&B Chart

I remember Mom

When my mother was well, she often displayed a high level of emotional intelligence. I’ll give you an example of what I mean. As we all know, when people live together, they often get on one another’s nerves, and they take pot shots at each other. And sometimes people become irritable and they take it out on the person closest to them. Well, I have to admit that I can be very irritable and fus...sy. Sometimes my skin will just crawl and I’ll want to get out of myself. I can’t get comfortable. Everything seems to rube me the wrong way. When I’m like that, the least little thing will annoy me. And when my mother was around, I did my fair share of complaining about all the noise she was making by rocking in her rocking chair too much or chatting too much. I would snap at her, but rather than become defensive, she seemed to always know that I was just in one of my moods--at least when she was well. And sometimes after lecturing her about how it was a great bother to have to put up with her, she would say in this quiet, comic voice, “I know. I’m a bad sort.” It never failed to crack me up and defuse the situation.

I really miss her. Living with her when she was experiencing a breakdown was hellish, but when she was well, there wasn’t a kinder, sweeter person on earth. There is that old saying that guys--straight guys that is--want to find a girl just like dear old Mom. Obviously I don’t want a girl, but I think if I found a boy like dear old Mom, someone kind and gentle, someone who knew how to handle me when I was grumpy, someone who didn’t take my crabby remarks personally when I was in a snit, I think I would be a very lucky guy.