Western Civilization has been steeped in heterosexism for two thousand years. In the nineteenth century, a few people began to think about sexuality in an objective way, and the concept of sexual orientation was introduced to the world. When I was born, homosexuality was still a crime and still thought of as a disease. But things began to change in the late ‘60s and early ‘70s. 

Finally we arrive at the Supreme Court. And the cases presented aren’t limited to our constitutional right to do that “nasty thing” in the privacy of our own homes. Those petitioning the court are asking that we be recognized as valued and equal members of society. Many of us have been anticipating this event for years, decades. And all the justices seem to want to talk about is standing and some obscure case from the past called Chadha.

 A few times the justices showed some true concern for the actual matter at hand. Kennedy talked about the children whose parents aren’t allowed to marry. Ginsburg talked about how our relationships are devalued and treated as inferior because of DOMA. Sotomayor didn’t let anyone forget that DOMA is rooted in homophobia.

But on the other hand, you had Roberts suggesting that a deaf octogenarian widow should leave the court and go persuade the American people and their representatives to treat her fairly.

 I’ve not given up hope. I believe that there’s a good chance we may soon see the last of DOMA and Prop 8. But listening to the audio and reflecting on what was actually said in the highest court in the land on Tuesday and Wednesday left a sour taste in my mouth.